Hello Fognomore, it would be so easy to be eaten up with anger, resentment, bitterness and believe me I have had moments like that - a lifetime stolen, sacrifices made, opportunities for a different life lost and now the loss of those I love dearly through their shunning BUT I am determined not to allow these times to consume me and rob me of anymore time or happiness - I am in my mid seventies so maybe not oodles of time left! I try to reason that my life hasn`t all been terrible, I have met some wonderful people from my 60 odd years in the organisation, I try to find joy in the things I now have time for, lots of reading, walking when I feel well enough, chatting to strangers.Don`t let the past take any more from you - have a good life - find happiness wherever you can - much love.
tosca
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How do you deal with the emotions of waking up? ---my ramble -----
by Fognomore ingood morning, .
i am just wondering how you have constructively worked through the emotions of waking up?
i am trying hard to be positive, and i know life is a gift.
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Shunning Hath Begunith
by Solzhenitsyn inmy spouse assumed that being honest would feel liberating.
appointments were made with pimi parents to let them know of the decision to no longer be a jw.
before the tall nonfat latte at starbucks was half drunk and after her parents asked several direct questions, they stood up, hugged her and said "well this is goodbye, return to jehovah and we'll pick up right where we left off, we love you," and walked out the door.
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tosca
Such a sad experience for your wife when she seems the kind of person anyone would be proud to have as a daughter, no matter her beliefs. There doesn`t appear to be any consistency in the treatment we receive when we leave. My son and his wife, who are completely "out and awake", are welcomed to the home of her parents, who are prominent JW`s, whilst all my family completely shun us, We expected some reaction after 60 years zealous service but not to be totally shunned. Hopefully her family will come to realise the hurt they have caused, much love to you both.
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I'm not alone in the congregation, after all
by ohnightdivine ini can now say that i'm not alone to know ttatt in my congregation, after all.. i have come to know that my close friend is awake, even without me sharing the ttatt with him/her.
on one of our recent conversations i mentioned about being tired and no longer being uplifted anymore, and my friend then told me he/she was feeling the same.
i don't know how it happened but we knew we could trust each other.
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tosca
Thank you for your welcome - I have hesitated to sign up for any "apostate" sites because some of my family have been very suspicious of me, due to going from being a very active witness, fully involved in all cong. activities to hardly out in the ministry at all. Elders came round to ask why I had stopped answering as before I always did so much research. Now however I have told my family that I have left so their suspicions have been confirmed - been very careful what I say but they have still shunned me, except for one son who is also "out". I just don`t want the apostate label or I will have no hope of seeing my family again. So happy to be here with you guys.
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I'm not alone in the congregation, after all
by ohnightdivine ini can now say that i'm not alone to know ttatt in my congregation, after all.. i have come to know that my close friend is awake, even without me sharing the ttatt with him/her.
on one of our recent conversations i mentioned about being tired and no longer being uplifted anymore, and my friend then told me he/she was feeling the same.
i don't know how it happened but we knew we could trust each other.
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tosca
Faded last year but last 2 years at meeting sooo difficult. Felt lost and alone when I left after 60 yrs in the borg. but joy, just over the last 2 weeks have made contact with others who have left (all for different reasons). Just makes such a difference to know others understand, especially when friends and family are shunning me.