My wife and I already solved this issue (for our childern) after her mother's funeral talk (infomercial) at the KH. We have both made it known (verbal and legal) that we do not want any type of service, anywhere. Cremation is expected. No talks, least costs, get on with your lives. But, a drink and a toast is expected some time after the fact.
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If Your JW Parent Died Would YOU Go To The Kingdom Hall For The Talk?
by minimus ini would like your thoughts, please..
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0 to 100 Real Quick? How many meetings can I miss w/o being harassed?
by Yondaime inmissed two in a row and got no grief.
should i keep the streak going and see what happens?.
by the way, i made my college's basketball pratice squad, to help workout the team during scrimmages .
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I don't recall from your previous threads if you are still living at home or attending school somewhere else. While living at home has some benefits, if you are going to school somewhere else (even nearby) you are in a good position. First, attend a meeting or two at the 'away' cong. Maybe even go out in service once (if you can handle it). Tell them that you are travelling quite a bit, to be back home as often as possible to help your family, so they shouldn't be suprised not to see you all the time. The 'home' congregation will assume you are away. When you are back home, attend a meeting and drop a few names from the 'away' cong, especially important if someone on the 'home' team knows someone on the 'away' team. They will check.
Then, stop going all together. I got away with this for over a year. It was a great chance for me to get my head in 'better' place.
If you are still dependent on your parent's support, you will need to play a different game. But it can be done. Don't give up. Your life (the rest of it) depends on it. Hang in there. You are doing well...
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Why JW marriage is a huge problem for the organization.
by kneehighmiah inthe difficulty of finding a marriage mate is well known for sisters.
but i would say it's hard for brothers also.
i was talking to a jw last night.
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If you are still in and looking for a hot partner, please come to Poland. Probally the same in other eastern European countries. I was always amazed when I went to circuit/district assemblies to see such hot babes walking around with guys that would never have a chance to get laid in the US. Of course if he was a MS that was just a bonus. I am not kidding you, totally mind blowing. Might be a good recruitment tool/advertisement to get 'unloved' brothers to go where the need is great.
Perhaps Jw.org could start a dating service.
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Not on JW.ORG: Jehovahs Witness leaves Bethel gets PHD, and becomes....Catholic..??
by Balaamsass2 inintersting story and video : http://www.pagadiandiocese.org/2014/12/09/dr-jeffrey-schwehm-a-jehovahs-witness-who-became-a-catholic-the-journey-home/.
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Depending on your circumstances, it might not be a bad idea (becoming a Catholic). Where I live now (Poland) the vast majority of the population is Catholic but practicing at whatever level is comfortable for them. But, it is an extremely important part of the community, especially in the smalll towns and villages. In the bigger cities you can do what you want, no problem. I might consider it for social reasons, but that is all. And the funny thing is, that wouldn't be a problem!
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One thing that's good about being a witnessi
by dothemath ini went to the mall recently .....omg!
glad i don't have to go through all the craziness over christmas shopping..
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I feel really bad for my mother (never a JW) looking back at all those years I deprived her of the complete package for Christmas. Sure she had my sisters and their families over for the occasion, but I know it had to hurt that I wasn't there with my family. No way to get back that time. To her credit, she never turned her back on me and has always been there when I needed her. So now that I'm out, I'm trying to finally be the son she never really had. Unfortunately, I'm 57 and she is in her 70's, so we don't don't have a lot of time left to make up for lost togetherness.
Maybe that can be my goal for next year: save up to get back to the states for a family Christmas. We would all probably have a good cry. Damn....
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UBER-WITNESS: THE ELITE FORCE . . . a study in how a fanatic is created
by Terry inat what point in the average person's life does he/she reach a crossroads between purposeful pursuit of a life's goal and mad fanaticism?.
we have all known these automatons; these uber-witnesses.. we might even have been one ourselves!.
the uber-witness can make an excuse for any watchtower mistake at the crack of a whip!.
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@Terry:
Males can aspire to be a BIG fish in the small pond of the Kingdom Hall with noblesse oblige the order of the day.
That wasn't my desire at all. Even though I was much more qualified than 99% of the elders I ever met, I had no desire to be in their shoes. I was perfectly happy to help out with the more mundane things. I think I just needed some structure in my life. Probably would have been better to be in the military.
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What's Your Favorite Perfume or Cologne?
by minimus init is xmas time and perfumes and colognes are on the list.
what do you really love for a scent if you were being given a gift?.
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@LV101: even with the strips, it still seems that I need to wear it for at least 20 minutes before declaring it 'safe'. I tried a lot of stuff travelling, initially good, but later not. I'm not allergic to anything that I know of and quite tolerant of others fragrances, but it seems I can only tolerate a few on myself.
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What's Your Favorite Perfume or Cologne?
by minimus init is xmas time and perfumes and colognes are on the list.
what do you really love for a scent if you were being given a gift?.
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Acqua di gio. It was light enough not to give me a severe headache within 10 minutes and the girls at the strip clubs loved it. Most of the other stuff, no matter how much I liked it after giving it a go, always led to personal uncomfort (as in headache). Anyone else have this problem?
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UBER-WITNESS: THE ELITE FORCE . . . a study in how a fanatic is created
by Terry inat what point in the average person's life does he/she reach a crossroads between purposeful pursuit of a life's goal and mad fanaticism?.
we have all known these automatons; these uber-witnesses.. we might even have been one ourselves!.
the uber-witness can make an excuse for any watchtower mistake at the crack of a whip!.
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Do you know why you were susceptible?
That is the $64,000 question that has been bouncing around in my head for quite some time. From an outsider's POV, at the age of 18 (back in 1975), I had it made. Full scholarship to UVA (University of Virginia), star athlete in track, all the girls... I lacked nothing, or so I thought. I wasn't raised a witness. How could I end up wasting over 30 years of my life in a cult? I'll try to write out how I 'think' it happened over the weekend (offline) and post it later. And the really sad thing is that I was never 'all-in'.
Always enjoy your thought-provoking posts. Not sure most of the time how to reply...
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Elder Appointments
by MaybeSo indoing some research as to what qualifications someone needs to meet to become an elder, i came up with one conclusion: it's who you know and is very subjective.. funny thing is too, if you searc the wt online library there are not recent articles that describe and outline the requirements.
which makes me think that there were too many requirements and as we all know, it is based now on how close you are with the current co and not necessarily on being a model jw in the congo.
so the borg decided to leave it up all to the co and not tell the rest what to look for on these appointed men.. you could do your hours, be early to the meetings, be prepared, keep your car and house clean, family in good reputation, etc but if you are in the circle then you can forget it.
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I would never have made a good elder. I was too concerned with actually helping people that needed help. I think my biggest penalty was that I did not comment enough at meetings.