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  This Thing That Was My Mother

  by TimeBandit in

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  this thing that was my mother.

  this thing that was my mother, so withered and blackened now,.

  was once so kind and loving, but things have changed somehow.. remember when you'd hold me, and soothe my childhood fears?.

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  Xanthippe

  Well most of great art seems to come from emotional pain TB. Thanks for sharing. Many of us are there with you feeling that pain. Such a waste.
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  Nobody at work knows what JWs believe

  by Athanasius in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  recently susie, one of my co-workers mentioned that her husband's family were all jws.

  the family converted after susie's husband left home, so he never joined the jws, nor does he intend to.

  anyway another co-worker asked her: "what do the jws believe?".

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  I spoke to my cousin last week and she had no idea what they believe even though most of my siblings have been in about sixty years. I told her they believe in the end of the world as we know it and everyone will be killed except JWs. She had no idea. Yeah I said with a grin they're just waiting for me to be destroyed. She just sees my sister as a nice lady with a cat!
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  Judge sanctions WTS - $4k per day penalty for not producing sex abuse documents

  by Simon in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  judge sanctions jehovah's witnesses.

  imposes $4000-a-day penalty for not producing documents in sex-abuse case.

  by dorian hargrove, june 24, 2016. a san diego superior court judge has ordered the church of jehovah's witnesses, also known as the watchtower bible and tract society of pennsylvania, to pay $4000 a day for every day that it fails to produce documents requested in a civil lawsuit brought by former parishioner, osbaldo padron, who claims a church elder sexually abused him when he was seven years old.. in a june 23 ruling, expected to be made final today, judge richard strauss admonished the church for willfully ignoring a court order to produce all documents associated with a 1997 body of elders letter that church leaders sent to parishes around the world in a quest to learn about sexual abuse of children by church leaders.. over the course of the past year, the watchtower society and its lawyers have fought hard to keep the letter confidential, claiming that turning over the documents would infringe on the privacy of those mentioned in the letter that were not associated with the case.. in march 2015, the church turned over a heavily redacted version of the letter.

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  Obviously child abuse has been going on for millennia but 'recently' various legislation around the world has been enacted for their protection. The Children Act in the UK in1989 being one of them. This was less than thirty years ago and change is slow. There was the battle with defence lawyers citing false memory syndrome. Then the stress of law courts appearances until children were allowed to stay away from court and video their testimony.

  We are now seeing an escalation of child abuse court cases globally with one after another celebrity being charged in the UK alone. I don't think the WTS realise how things have changed and there is no longer a climate to tolerate the rape of childre. They are always years behind the times and they are programmed to dismiss things as happening in 'the world' and not affecting them. I think they are in for a shock.
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  Dodgy poetry

  by Gargamel in

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  it is a stretch to call my dodgy poetry 'entertainment' but i wasn't sure where else to put it.. .

  self-fulfilling prophecy.

  precipitation.

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  Xanthippe

  Cool Haiku.
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  UPDATE: My existential crisis comes to a close

  by Freeandclear in

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  2. friends

  in case you read my other thread regarding my existential crisis and how it was making my life miserable and left me feeling hopeless, purposeless and joyless i though i'd share what's recently happened to me and my way of thinking and have i've for the time being resolved my existential crisis.

  i write every day in a journal.

  i've been doing this for years.

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  Xanthippe

  I know what this crisis was doing to you F&C from your last thread so I'm relieved you've found a way through it. Good for you. Keep an open mind and don't listen to anyone who says they have the truth, then you'll be safe. It was nice to see some of my suggestions and those of others in your post but the rest is all you. You found a way. So glad you're okay 🌹
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  Cult memories extinguish good memories

  by rebel8 in

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  i have this thing.

  i don't know why it is or how to stop it.

  every time i happen to daydream about something positive from my childhood, some related cult aspect comes to mind and extinguishes it like a candle is being blown out.. for a while, i thought this was anger and resentment causing me to want to find an excuse to be angry (not that i need one).

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  Xanthippe

  As you know neurons become linked together like train tracks and if we start down a certain memory it can take us to all aspects of that person, place or event. Also our strongest memories are linked to emotion. Which is why unfortunately we remember negative things more often if they evoke the strongest memories. That's why a happy childhood is the greatest gift.

  I find the same problem as you, I feel my brain's been wired up wrong. When I'm feeling really great negative memories intrude and can bring me down. The only thing that works for me is saying it's just the machine that's faulty it's not my whole life. I try and live in the now, I had a crap childhood, that's it.

  Would CBT work for you perhaps? I know someone who found it helpful for anxiety. The idea of it is to change mental habits.
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  Did others experience this on the ministry or among JWs generally?

  by slimboyfat in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  sometimes it's hard to know if our own experience of jws was typical and what features were peculiar to our own area or the individual jws we knew personally.

  i was wondering if others experienced this among jws:.

  a few times on the ministry, when we were working wealthy areas with large houses, some brothers and sisters would make the comment that they look forward to taking ownership of one of these big houses after armageddon, when the worldly people have vacated them.

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  There was always a lot of envy when working in nice affluent areas. Comments like, 'they've got their paradise now, they won't listen to us'.

  Contrast this to a manager I worked for after I left who would talk about a beautiful house in the town she would love to buy, but she and her husband had both been working hard for years to save for it if it ever came up for sale. Difference between dreamers and realists.
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  G Losch Talk - Do Not Hold a Grudge

  by Listener in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  a new video on jw org tv titled do not hold a grudge is presented by gb's oldest member gerrit losch.this is just another representation of the standard of talks prepared and given by the highest level of authority and position within the jw organization.

  they desperately need help, not even their complete rebranding can save them from themselves.some of this gb member's gems about holding a grudge include -.

  - what can lead to a grudge?

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  Xanthippe

  Insufferable hypocrisy! From a religion that insists people 'give the silent treatment' to family members who happen to believe something different to them. I truly believe my family have shunned me for twenty-seven years because they hold a grudge against me for daring to shake their faith by leaving their religion. The GB not only condone grudge holding, they encourage and applaud the immature inclination towards this behaviour. Yes you're so right the organisation sees shunning as a form of punishment, not an act of love at all!
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  slimboyfat joins the Mormons!

  by slimboyfat in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i know that some people on the board have experience of being mormons, so i would be interested in your feedback.

  at church this afternoon it was an uncanny experience.

  in the past i've read a lot about mormons, so i thought i was prepared in general for what it would be like.

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  Xanthippe

  I forgot to mention another thing they do is they use early modern English, or mainly just thee and thou instead of you. They do this in all aspects of the service: prayers, hymns, and even during sermons.

  Probably because the Book of Mormon contains huge chunks copied straight out of the AV Bible (King James). Which is why Joseph Smith wrote a book in seventeenth century English in the nineteenth century. I found this out myself when two Mormons called and left us the Book Of Mormon asking us to read 13 pages before they returned. It was years ago but I believe it was Moroni that I read. I thought it sounded familiar and sure enough it's pages and pages from John in the AV, either the gospel or letters, I forget now.
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  Why do people need religion in this century?

  by sweetgrass in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i think people need religion because of fear.

  fear of death and what will happen at death if they have been good or bad.

  people say it gives them hope but is this not born too out of fear of not seeing dead loved ones again, or having a better life in the afterlife?

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  Xanthippe

  sweetgrass4 hours ago - I think people need religion because of fear. Fear of death and what will happen at death if they have been good or bad. People say it gives them hope but is this not born too out of fear of not seeing dead loved ones again, or having a better life in the afterlife? If they don't accept religion they fear they might miss out?

  
  Yes you're right fear of death and wondering about life after death has conned people into joining religions to book their place. Nobody knows for sure if there's anything after death but if, for example, consciousness has evolved to continue, then religion and God have nothing to do with it and uselessly appeasing a deity has held people captive to religions for millennia.
  

  I also think people seek meaning in life and helping others and trying to make a difference in the world can give meaning but as you say why in this century do we need religion for that? Plenty of secular organisations are digging wells, giving aid in war zones and helping people work their way out of poverty etc,. Why join religions for that when we simply need to set up a direct debit or volunteer our time? More productive than getting up early on Sunday and begging a nonexistent being to help the world.