I always use that phrase to people, that my family act as if my daughter and I are dead. It sounds like we're bring drama queens but we're not are we? It's actually how JWs justify it.
Xanthippe
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Let me get this straight I can greet a stranger who may be ax murderer
by poopie inbit i can't greet or say hello to a poor soul at the kh that's df please help me with this..
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Did you ever experience true kindness in the Org?
by HereIgo ini remember when i was about 17, i started shunning an older brother because he was disfellowshipped.
when i graduated high school, he pulled me aside and said " i know you are not supposed to talk to me, but i want you to have this" it was a gift that he had custom made for me.
i was so blown away, we never even had a real conversation before.
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Xanthippe
Individual JWs showed me great kindness. Meals when I was pioneering. A lady did the flowers for my wedding as a gift. The individual men and women in my congregation brought all the food for our wedding reception because we had no money. I did the same for others. Did the Org.show me kindness? No! I was pioneer fodder. Plenty more where I came from when I collapsed with exhaustion.
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Do you use a dictionary?
by compound complex inin my work, i rely upon google for quick answers on definition (denotation), pronunciation (audio), etymology, shades of meaning (connotation), etc.. what i really mean is, do you use an actual unabridged websters, the one you get a hernia lifting?
i ask because, last night, i was tired of fighting with my two ailing computers and decided to pull the big book off the shelf.
it was great, hearkening back to olden times -- childhood -- when i read real books and periodicals and wrote unknown words into a notepad (the paper sort) and pored over old noah's offerings.. your thoughts?.
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Xanthippe
Usually an online one but I have been known to get a concise Oxford off the shelf if I write a snail mail letter. My spelling is so bad I think I'm slightly dyslexic. Yes I just had to look up dyslexic.
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Black Mirror White Christmas
by enigma1863 inhave any or you seen the show black mirror?
there is an episode called white christmas.
its based in the future and everyone has this app in their brain similar to a modern smartphone.
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Xanthippe
Thanks Mickey mouse.
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Black Mirror White Christmas
by enigma1863 inhave any or you seen the show black mirror?
there is an episode called white christmas.
its based in the future and everyone has this app in their brain similar to a modern smartphone.
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Xanthippe
Ooh sounds like good sci fi, is it on Netflix?
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How do you feel about the expression "The Truth"?
by stuckinarut2 init's amazing how the expression "the truth" has become such an ingrained term used by witnesses.. "we have 'the truth'".
"is he 'in the truth'?".
most here have found out so many facts about the organisation, and felt the effects of being "gut-punched" as we realised these facts.. so how do you feel about the expression "the truth" now?.
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Xanthippe
It's a weird expression. Possibly only used in a court of law when swearing in a witness. Scientists talk about theories, laws and evidence. Historians talk about primary source evidence. What the heck is truth? It's a religious term. We never stop learning about reality, so what is truth? What we know now until we learn we got it wrong.
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Can't do toasts
by Xanthippe ini just phoned my cousin who's never been a jw.
last week she went with her son-in-law and my jw sister for a meal after planting a tree at her daughter's grave.
she said when my sister was dropped off at her house her husband said you do know she can't have toast.
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Xanthippe
Doc don't know why I was so slow to realise all these hundreds of ridiculous rules are the sign of a cult.
Ding you're so right, making people so self righteous and weird by a strange lifestyle isolates all their friends and family when they join the religion and is a sure way to keep them trapped in a cult.
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Can't do toasts
by Xanthippe ini just phoned my cousin who's never been a jw.
last week she went with her son-in-law and my jw sister for a meal after planting a tree at her daughter's grave.
she said when my sister was dropped off at her house her husband said you do know she can't have toast.
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Xanthippe
Yes Listener he was fussing over her as if she's a child so my cousin said. It is lovely that my cousin wants us to get back together, it's just that my sister acts like I died.
I did drop her a note years ago after our parents died asking if she'd like to go for coffee but she had to consult her husband and he decided if might stumble someone. For 'stumble' read someone might tell the elders and he might lose his MS position.
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Can't do toasts
by Xanthippe ini just phoned my cousin who's never been a jw.
last week she went with her son-in-law and my jw sister for a meal after planting a tree at her daughter's grave.
she said when my sister was dropped off at her house her husband said you do know she can't have toast.
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Xanthippe
I just phoned my cousin who's never been a JW. Last week she went with her son-in-law and my JW sister for a meal after planting a tree at her daughter's grave. She said when my sister was dropped off at her house her husband said you do know she can't have toast. She knew my sister doesn't eat meat but she thought it was odd. Anyway he said no she can't do a toast when you go for a meal. Why on earth he thought they have a toast after visiting a grave I don't know.
Anyway my cousin thought this 'new' belief was really weird. I told her it has always been a no-no. We couldn't have a toast at our wedding. She thinks all theses rules are crazy. I told her the nonJW husband in a couple who came to my wedding gave us a present to be opened on our honeymoon. It was a piece of toast with a card saying 'a toast to the bride and groom'. I think now he was making a point that it was a silly belief and trying to make us realise we were in a cult. Wish we'd listened then.
My cousin says it's her dearest wish to see me and my sister get back together. Mine too.
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You Need to Heal
by TheLiberator init has been awhile since i posted.
but i wanted to say a few things that may help those recovering from the watchtower, especially if you have just discovered ttatt.
it is with humility that i come here to express these thoughts.
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Xanthippe
Yes I agree no need to run into other belief systems. Catch up on childhood first, with holidays, horror films, family fun whatever we were denied. Otherwise we get stuck in the mindset of a child with a longing for fun and freedom.