IMHO I notice that you joined the forum eleven years ago. Please believe me I sympathise with you because I have had depression and sometimes I have social anxiety. I just wonder why you are still in this cult after all this time. My depression got better when I left and I have made good friends. I'm not judging you I'm just concerned.
Xanthippe
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Give Love to Receive Love ???
by IMHO inplease help me understand this.
over the years i have seen and have heard of many who have changed congregation due to the 'lack of love' shown in their own.
you then hear many condemning such ones as 'having a problem' and 'taking their problems with them'.
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Out of the mouths of babes...
by pale.emperor inconversation with my 3yo this morning:.
me: hey, it's <friend in her nursery> birthday in a few days.
her: jehovah doesn't like birthdays.
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Xanthippe
Priceless! What a joy to read. You handled it so well, not silly daddy now.
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Another trolley (That's Cart to Americanos), encounter today.
by punkofnice ini couldn't bleedin' well resist it.
there were these 2 jobo blokes standing behind a jobot trolley.
jobo, 'what's that?'.
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Xanthippe
Aww Punky that's great you're being adopted!
I'm glad your girl's enjoying Canada.
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New here...
by Jacobi inmy name is jacobi, i am a born-in but mentally out for more or less a decade at this point (although it was cradual) and about 40yo.
i don't want to say a lot about my family, but it is a mix of going-through-the-motions, semi-actives (but mentally in), some who have left for a few reasons and one really depressed pioneer.
because people fade in and out i have managed to slide under the radar and i keep up apperances of not being all-out apostate but i completed my fade about years ago (it also helped i moved to another part of the country).. i might rub some of you the wrong way because of my views on different things like politics.. i am not a trump supporter at all and neither are most people in my country.
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Xanthippe
Hi Jacobi. I don't know about the religion giving people stability, they are some of the most mentally unstable people I've ever met. I agree that some people like to be told what to believe and there are so many religions that are happy to tell them. My view is we need to think for ourselves and make it our life's work to find out what's real and what isn't. You are very welcome here.
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Raising children - thoughts
by CovertsadJW injust some thoughts for today - let me know what you think.
i grew up in the jw faith / cult - .
i can’t prove i am a better person because of it , but in some ways i can prove how it has damaged me.
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Xanthippe
My daughter has just finished university and left home. She jokingly talks about having to do 'adulting' now. The other day she asked me when did I feel like I was an adult. Oh I said when I was about fifty. Difference is I wasn't joking. That religion does hold you back emotionally as well as academically.
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My 13 YO opened up to me about her memories of attending a memorial service
by nonjwspouse inshe was only around five when she last attended.
it was just when i began the "for real" investigation about the jw and watchtower, previously believing the public face.
i would agree to go with my husband so his mother could show off her grandchild.
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Xanthippe
Sound like a great conversation nonjwspouse! You showed her how to treat other people respectfully and what the basis of a great marriage is as well as getting her feelings on the religion.
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Sister may have had a slight heart attack, do I text her?
by Xanthippe inso my cousin phoned and told me my jw sister was taken to hospital with chest pains and it may have been a slight heart attack or possibly she's starting with angina.
now as some of you know my sisters and brother have had little to do with me for 29 years.
we've met at funerals, or arranged them, but i just thought today what if she did die?
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Xanthippe
Thank you very much jp!
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Sister may have had a slight heart attack, do I text her?
by Xanthippe inso my cousin phoned and told me my jw sister was taken to hospital with chest pains and it may have been a slight heart attack or possibly she's starting with angina.
now as some of you know my sisters and brother have had little to do with me for 29 years.
we've met at funerals, or arranged them, but i just thought today what if she did die?
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Xanthippe
Yes I hear you SBF, thanks. I've been through that many times believe me. Backwards and forwards, shun, speak, shun, speak, back to shunning. That may well happen again, so I haven't asked her to let me know how she gets on. The ball is in her court to let me know about the angiogram results, or not. I might text in a few weeks, I might not. I might do nothing more than leave an open door.
They're screwed up by a mind-controlling cult but having said that I've made it quite clear at funerals that I'm not doing kissy face and let's pretend we're friends for the sake of nonJW relatives any more. I will say hello but I won't sit with them or enter into conversation. I once went twelve years without contacting her because she refused to answer my letters after we left the cult and when I phoned her I got all upset and she said she would phone me back. You won't I said but she told she would definitely phone me and I would just have to trust her. She didn't. That's when I stopped trusting her SBF, they're not sane in that religion. I am aware, but thank you, I appreciate it.
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Another trolley (That's Cart to Americanos), encounter today.
by punkofnice ini couldn't bleedin' well resist it.
there were these 2 jobo blokes standing behind a jobot trolley.
jobo, 'what's that?'.
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Xanthippe
You did good Punk, not being rude to them. We used to be them! I have noticed the trolley JWs in my town on a Saturday. I recognise one guy, his family lived five doors away from us when I was a child. Not around here, strange to see him again. Our mothers were friends and I was friends with his sister.
I haven't gone up to speak, every time I walk by I look over but he looks away. I don't know what I would say. The guys on here who do speak to them say some good things but I just can't seem to think about it when I'm out shopping. I just don't think about religious beliefs when I'm in the town. Must try harder.
By the way you sound like a man in much need of cake, make sure you have some today. 😀 How's your daughter getting on?
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Sister may have had a slight heart attack, do I text her?
by Xanthippe inso my cousin phoned and told me my jw sister was taken to hospital with chest pains and it may have been a slight heart attack or possibly she's starting with angina.
now as some of you know my sisters and brother have had little to do with me for 29 years.
we've met at funerals, or arranged them, but i just thought today what if she did die?
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Xanthippe
Thanks LisaRose, yes I think serious illness does remind JWs they may die in this system but something else seems to have changed too because she's been here before. In 2003 she had cancer and I sent a card and flowers when I found out. She amazed me by phoning to thank me, it had been twelve years.
I kept in touch while she was ill, it was all one-sided of course. I especially wanted to know when she got her all clear, so phoned several times at the five year mark. She said she would let me know. I found out from my cousin she was all clear, she'd told everyone and been out for a champagne dinner but not told me.
So even cancer didn't change anything but this time it's different there is a definite change, a more human attitude towards me. I can't help hoping her attitude towards the religion is changing to make her treat me better. As Flipper says in his thread, you hope but you are still careful, self-protective.
Thanks Smiddy, I will keep you posted.