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  God! No one really cares!!!!

  by JaniceA in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  there are exposes right and left.

  australia, canada , uk, usa.

  news reports, court cases.

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  Xanthippe

  They dont care. Their human consciences have been mutated and perverted.

  With or without religion, good people can behave well and bad people can do evil; but for good people to do evil - that takes religion.”
  ― Steven Weinberg
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  UK Guardian article on JW child abuse

  by scotsman in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  published today.

  jehovah's witnesses accused of silencing victims of child abuse.

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  Brilliant article, it brings out the danger to the public eye that the person knocking on their door or handing them literature on the street could be a pedophile. Also there may be a separate investigation into JWs by the committee looking into institutionalised child sexual abuse in the UK!
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  Why are there more sisters than brothers at the Kingdom Hauls?

  by Sour Grapes in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i have always wondered why there are more females than males in all of the congregations that i have visited?

  some of these females are in their 70's so maybe their husbands have died and women just live longer.

  or could the reason be that years ago men were the breadwinners and women stayed home to raise the children thus they were home during the week when the jdubs came a knocking?

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  Do some women who are unhappily married with small children feel helpless and hopeless when they lack the financial independence to get a divorce and like the idea of God waving a wand and making all their problems go away at Armaggedon? Even if that means their husbands get destroyed? I'm not being spiteful I'm just thinking about my own parents.
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  Self indulgent attention whore thread....

  by _Morpheus in

  1. social
  2. current

  today is my birthday :) in happy to be able to say that guilt free!

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  Xanthippe

  Self indulgent attention whore

  Surely not 😏 Happy Birthday 🍰🍺🎈🎉
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  What is this "religion"?

  by Kom 197 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  for a long time, i was convinced jehovah witnesses were just people preaching the word of god in a different way than other christians.

  i was shown the real truth over the past few months.

  i've been friends with this guy for over 5 years.

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  Xanthippe

  Why would anyone commit their soul to an organization?

  As you said your friend was feeling very vulnerable when he joined and in need of friends. Now he's been taught that if he leaves he could face eternal destruction.

  What really hit me is that people say the JW organization is a cult and that their members are brainwashed. Then I started to remember little things that happened in our relationship that pointed to his odd behavior.....Is he always going to be so conflicted and give up things that make him happy?

  Yes I'm afraid he is going to be forced to give up things that make him happy. I know you want to help him and this situation is awful for you but there's no way he didn't know dating outside the religion is discouraged and sex before marriage is strictly forbidden. I'm not going to tell you what to do. I hope your young life won't be blighted by this cult. Good luck xx

  
  
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  After leaving the JWs - Has anyone stayed with Christianity?

  by rulehayl in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i recently made the decision to stop studying with my study conductor, due to a situation i found myself in that led to a high possibility of my unbaptized publisher "rights" being taken away from me.

  i have since told my study conductor i have joined a new church (to which she dropped me like a hot rock, of course).... last time i posted on here, i was progressing nicely towards baptism, and was well into it.anyhoo, i like my new church, very hillsong-esqe.

  so just wondering if anyone else has stayed the course of christianity after leaving the jws, and if so - where did you go?

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  I was a Christian for about two years after leaving the witnesses but didn't attend any church. Studying medieval history for a degree finished off any belief in religion. The obscenely cruel tortures enacted against their fellow humans by Christians just appalled me. Where was God when people were being "slowly roasted, for beliefs they neither knew nor understood"? (Michel de Montaigne)
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  Quick and vague Memorial invitations

  by RULES & REGULATIONS in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  this morning my doorbell rang.

  i opened the door thinking it was a package delivery person or local politicians thanking my community for voting in yesterday's election.

  there was a middle aged man standing by himself.

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  Xanthippe

  Yeah talk about vague I was given a leaflet by JWs and they said they were from the RNIB! When did they become so ashamed of who they are?
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  CO picked the wrong "old lady" to say this to!

  by clarity in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  is this the latest bs to pacify the multiple thousands of singles who are made veritable eunochs because of this organization?

  ...when i tearfully blurted out that i just couldn't carry on any longer!

  i mean almost three decades, for g*ds sake!

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  Xanthippe

  Nice to hear from you Clarity, hope you're doing well. Yes I agree it's great to make friends and not think oh no they'll be destroyed if they don't come in da troof.
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  Once bitten, twice shy

  by UnshackleTheChains in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  ok. having experienced the jdubs over 27 years.

  i have come to the conclusion that sincere people have been 'conned' into the troof, into a 'system' of beliefs that immerses them into an organisation that holds them captive ie no honourble way out without being shunned by friends and family.. having gone through this horrible experience, many are afraid to join another christian group.

  it's a bit like someone who trusted someone most of their life only to find that person was a devious lying individual.

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  Xanthippe

  As someone who firmly believes in God and Christ, I am now cautious. I love God's word, I love God, I love the Messiah.......but am extra careful who and what I believe.
  Is this something you personally feel?

  No not now but a year after leaving the cult I did feel like that. As it's a year since you've joined the forum am I to assume you're about a year out of the cult? All I can say is honour where you are now but also question everything.

  Once bitten is twice shy so don't just jump into another church. Ask yourself, is the Bible the word of God? What about all the other holy books? Would I be a Hindu if I'd been born in Delhi? What about evolution, what's that all about? Keep asking questions. Good luck.
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  Disfellowshipped/disassociated – How did your parents handle it?

  by Richard_I in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  to those who were disfellowshipped/disassociated – how did your still-in parents handle it?.

  i don’t want to fade, so i am thinking about disassociating soon – i don’t care if i’m playing by the org’s rules, i just want out.. however, i am concerned about how my parents will react.

  i don’t want them to become super depressed or whatever due to me leaving the org.. i don’t want them to be hurt by my decision to leave the org, but i feel like there is no way of avoiding this..

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  Xanthippe

  My mother was very depressed about me DAing but then my mother was depressed her whole life. Nothing I said or did ever helped her. She wouldn't get professional help. She reacted by shunning me and having nothing to do with the child I had six years later. My daughter could have brought her so much joy. She was dying in hospital the only time she asked after my daughter, who wasn't there, she was at a birthday party.

  So be aware if you DA your JW parents may shun you until they die. Sorry to be so blunt but it needs some serious thought. For me there was no choice.