Posts by Xanthippe

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Advice on my JW Mother

by InjusticeSystem in

i need the advice of those of you who are exjw's on what to do about my still in mother.

briefly, here's the situation: i am a born-in, never got baptised (thank the fsm), became an athiest about 2015 but haven't come out to anyone but my wife and some trusted friends.

my mother was raised in the society and is a true believer, but was never as strict about it as some parents are when i was growing up.

You're an adult, if you really can't bear that your mother has gone back to the religion that ruined your childhood then you have to make decisions now for your own well-being. Your mother was a widow and started a relationship with a married man that turned into a very bad marriage. The divorce damaged her and now she's blaming a wrong choice on leaving the religion.

I don't have a relationship with my siblings, my JW mother died years ago. After a while I couldn't stomach their silly passive-aggressive games to bring me back. I realised that the so-called acts of love, shunning, we're just punishment for hurting them by shaking their faith when I left. I just get in touch if I hear they are seriously ill, then watch them drop me again, which I can handle.

So it's up to you, make your decision for your own health and happiness. I assume when you talk about coming out you mean telling your mother you're an atheist. If you decide you do want to keep some sort of a relationship with her, why tell her what your beliefs are now? People don't normally talk about beliefs or lack of them outside the JWs. It's up to you but if it's going to shatter your relationship and you do want to keep it to an extent, why mention it?

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do not keep account of the injury?

by Addison0998 in

i have a long time “friend” around my age, she and her husband are big sheeple who have been raised to practically worship elders and view their as police angels.

anyways, they recently arranged to have a meeting with the elders to ask for their blessing pretty much to go to a wedding of a relative of hers who is not in the best standing, (she just recently got baptized and her husband was recently reinstated) anyways, the elders told them of course that it was their choice, but warned them that every time they ask for the elders advice on something, it is recorded whether they heeded the advice or not and looked at for things such as ske school, which is a goal they have to do together.

and of course they advised them not to go so they didn’t, especially since they want to go to the ske school, and i guess they only accept people who let people have full control of their lives.

Xanthippe

Thanks Freddo, I googled NVM and saw it could mean nevermind but I thought it can't be right because it didn't fit the context.

I've honestly never heard of this SKE, mini Gilead school. Things on here still surprise me.

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do not keep account of the injury?

by Addison0998 in

i have a long time “friend” around my age, she and her husband are big sheeple who have been raised to practically worship elders and view their as police angels.

anyways, they recently arranged to have a meeting with the elders to ask for their blessing pretty much to go to a wedding of a relative of hers who is not in the best standing, (she just recently got baptized and her husband was recently reinstated) anyways, the elders told them of course that it was their choice, but warned them that every time they ask for the elders advice on something, it is recorded whether they heeded the advice or not and looked at for things such as ske school, which is a goal they have to do together.

and of course they advised them not to go so they didn’t, especially since they want to go to the ske school, and i guess they only accept people who let people have full control of their lives.

Xanthippe

SKE, NVM?

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2018/19 new light

by Ray Frankz in

hi guys, long time without paying a visit to this site.

today i returned to check a 'gossip' that is running around in brazilian exjw forums.. they are stating that is almost certain they will make a big change in their doctrine maybe this year yet in the annual meeting.

they say people in warwick were commenting on this.

Xanthippe

Brothers, for some time we have noticed some among us have speculated when Armaggedon will arrive. Some impatient and indeed weaker ones have suggested 1879, 1914, 1925, 1975 or even 1994.

Time and time again the faithfull slave have made it clear that nobody knows the day or the hour. So we need to search our hearts and ask ourselves, are we today of the 'nobody' class? We here in Bethel certainly are of the 'nobody' class. Are you?

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Why not extend your child's life and take the consequences?

by I_love_Jeff in

jehovah's witnesses & blood transfusions.

if your son or daughter were badly burned, he or she would require regular whole blood transfusions.

as a good jehovah's witness, it is your duty to refuse this procedure and watch your child die instead.

Xanthippe

What the hell???

That made me smile. How is the JW teaching any different from 500 years ago when religious dissenters were tortured or burnt to death because better to die now than burn in hell forever.

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Financially Are You Doing Better Than a Year Ago?

by minimus in

jw
friends

this isn’t a usa question.

is your financial situation better or worse or pretty much the same?.

Xanthippe

The same as last year, but next month I have to apply for my own job for the third time in about eight years. Central government has drastically cut funding to local authorities so I will probably have my working hours cut again. They say this will be the last time. Ha!

I'm in the UK, still one of the richest countries in the world but I'm annoyed that tax payer's money is funding new nuclear weapons. Depending on who you read Trident is going to cost between 50 and 200 billion pounds! So we have to cut funding for disabled people and libraries. Fear is running my country.

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Jehovah’s Witness dating rules

by Addison0998 in

i’m sorry that i talk about dating a lot, i know it is probably very annoying, but you don’t have to read it.

but did anyone else have the most difficult time dating as a young jw?

me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year in half, we are in our early 20’s, and we are still not allowed to hold hands, cuddle or kiss.

Xanthippe

My sister married a guy who didn't want sex with her at all. She ended up so desperate she had sex with a stranger. She was the one publicly reproved not him. He might be gay or asexual, not marriage material, not to a woman anyway. Of course being a JW she didn't find out until they were married. She's been miserable with him for over forty years. Don't do that!

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The Longest Goodbye Of John McCain

by minimus in

jw
friends

can you believe it?

this funeral arrangement goes on and on and on.

if the people loved him so much he would have been elected president.

Xanthippe

Strange the way the US honours even the politicians who didn't make it. We really don't honour politicians at all in the UK. Soon forgotten.

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Twelve days in Spain -- Nary a JW Cart in Sight

by Room 215 in

just concluded a twelve-day holiday in spain... seven cities in twelve days -- and not one sighting of a jw cart..

Xanthippe

Spain... seven cities in twelve days --

Cool, sounds like a great holiday. Where next?

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Bumped Into One Of My Best Friends On The Carts This Morning

by pale.emperor in

so this morning i'm walking to my office and there's the jws on their carts outside as usual.

and old sister, a brother in his 20s and an elder i instantly recognized from my jw days.

one of my best friends of about 20 years.. i genuinely just wanted to say hi as i havent seen him in 3 years.

Xanthippe

But I'll know for next time that no matter how close we were to a JW, even if we we're related - they just dont want to know. -PE

The trouble is they're so invested in it all being true. If it isn't they've thrown away an education, a good job, probably married the wrong person because they had to marry only in the Lord. They've given up birthdays, Christmas, parties, dating, experimenting with sex. They've worn themselves out for a stupid, meaningless cult and their whole lives are a waste of time if you're right. So you have to be wrong, bitter, a bad person.