inquiring minds want to know who out there is single.
lets see if we can hook anyone up.
how about a love connection on the jwd.
I am not single....LOL.......I just am passing thru this singles bar.....um.......to use the restroom! LOL
ColdRedRain......MINNESOTA?! Where at? Did you know a bunch of us are getting together Saturday night (Jan 4) in Forest Lake? My email is open....email me!
i will start off saying that at first when i was trying to think of a title to this thread the only word that came to mind, was two really............sorry but i am trying to not get this edited.... i will feel bad for the words i want to say right now.
f you daddy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.
and that the one pappaw would give his life for him.
(((((DeDe)))))
I CAN RELATE!
My parents (mostly my mother) wanted to see/get to know my children. After many years of apprehension I finally agreed. I allowed A. and J. to go see them. Eyegirl was going to be with and I knew that she (eyegirl) would watch over things. Everything went well. Kids had a blast and were really excited about getting to know their grandparents. Emails and phone calls were exchanged.......a relationship was beginning to grow between granparent/grandchild (still shunning me though). This went on for a few months and then my parents just dropped out of sight. My daughter would send an email but would get no reply. One day in the car, the kids were talking amongst themselves and I heard them say to each other "well, grandma and grandpa must not like us". It broke my heart. Two innocent little kids doing their part for a relationship while two adults weren't.
I emailed mother on Mother's Day of this last year. Kindly and respectfully mentioned how the kids felt. This to no avail. My kids still felt slighted. As a parent, the worse thing to see is your child hurt.
You know what I realized, my children were in a sense "begging" for love and attention....the same thing I did with my parents for so long. I make no excuses for people, no lies about people...my children see people for what they are. And, unfortunately, they see that they have grandparents that are not willing to set aside time for their grandchildren.
Things came to a big blowout when Mother finally emailed me asking if my kids could accompany them on a "family" ("family" meaning everyone else in the family MINUS me) to an all-expense paid trip to Florida. This following months of no contact with my kids. This burned my butt. Simple emails, phonecalls, or letters couldn't be sent....knowing that two children are hurting, but to think that they could walk in dangling this trip in front of their noses......that would make everything okay?! NO WAY.
The first email I sent back was "generous offer, but no thanks." Then, instead of asking me why I felt this way, my siblings were involved in this....trying to find out "what was wrong with" me. When I found this out (which REALLY p.o'd) me, I emailed AGAIN and said "that they had not established enough of relationship with my children to take them that far for that length of time without me". Well, this was replied w/an email from Mother riddled with guilt and marytrdom......how she has tried and tried to establish a relationship only to have it shot down by me. Guess what I saw? A green light to tell her exactly how I felt. I fired back an email and then blocked her from my email. I shut the door, in a sense.
I sat down and was open and honest with the kids. Told them about the trip and what went on between my parents and me. Funny thing is, neither one of my kids wanted to go if it meant that I couldn't go.
Being a parent means protecting our children. Protecting my children means me keeping them far away from the dysfunctional mother that raised me.....I know how destructive her behavior can be. I've lived it and I will not let me children know how it feels.
I gotta go hug my kids now!
Edited by - scootergirl on 3 January 2003 8:58:52
okay......first of the year.......goals to be made and achieve (hopefully).. one of my goals is to drop a few pounds and firm a few places.
i know better than to get any support from my husband ("oh, you look fine, honey")....so i was wondering if there is anybody (preferrably female) on the board that would be interested in supporting me/and me supporting them (weight loss goal).
i have read of a few females that are trying to lose a few extra......so i am pretty sure i am not alone.. i am trying to focus on eating more healthy and cutting down on snacks.
been there......check your mail!
okay......first of the year.......goals to be made and achieve (hopefully).. one of my goals is to drop a few pounds and firm a few places.
i know better than to get any support from my husband ("oh, you look fine, honey")....so i was wondering if there is anybody (preferrably female) on the board that would be interested in supporting me/and me supporting them (weight loss goal).
i have read of a few females that are trying to lose a few extra......so i am pretty sure i am not alone.. i am trying to focus on eating more healthy and cutting down on snacks.
yehaw........! Thanks, you guys.....it feels nice to know that I can get xdubdom support AND weightloss support from the same people!
good morning to all and
happy new years day!
so, in a half hour it's time for me to sit down and start on my new years resolutions, a new tradition starting this year.
My resolutions are:
Edited by - scootergirl on 1 January 2003 13:13:38
okay......first of the year.......goals to be made and achieve (hopefully).. one of my goals is to drop a few pounds and firm a few places.
i know better than to get any support from my husband ("oh, you look fine, honey")....so i was wondering if there is anybody (preferrably female) on the board that would be interested in supporting me/and me supporting them (weight loss goal).
i have read of a few females that are trying to lose a few extra......so i am pretty sure i am not alone.. i am trying to focus on eating more healthy and cutting down on snacks.
lol LB.......sounds like you may have some experience with this sort of situation? LOL
okay......first of the year.......goals to be made and achieve (hopefully).. one of my goals is to drop a few pounds and firm a few places.
i know better than to get any support from my husband ("oh, you look fine, honey")....so i was wondering if there is anybody (preferrably female) on the board that would be interested in supporting me/and me supporting them (weight loss goal).
i have read of a few females that are trying to lose a few extra......so i am pretty sure i am not alone.. i am trying to focus on eating more healthy and cutting down on snacks.
I love that site, Flower! I registered under mnscootergirl and am adding my food that I ate for breakfast already! Wow.....it keeps track of everything! I found out that I am "overweight"......but I knew that already........put in my target goal and the date of when I want to reach it (look out GREENBAY APOSTAFEST!)
Maybe this is a site that we could sign up for......(free)......we can get links for our "journals" and send them to each other. No one else but us would see them. Whatcha think?
Xena.....I completely understand about returning emails! What about a weekly email? Take a look at this site, see what you guys think.......then maybe once a week check in w/each other? Of course, I would need to email for support when that bag of potato chips start calling me.........
Edited by - scootergirl on 1 January 2003 11:48:35
okay......first of the year.......goals to be made and achieve (hopefully).. one of my goals is to drop a few pounds and firm a few places.
i know better than to get any support from my husband ("oh, you look fine, honey")....so i was wondering if there is anybody (preferrably female) on the board that would be interested in supporting me/and me supporting them (weight loss goal).
i have read of a few females that are trying to lose a few extra......so i am pretty sure i am not alone.. i am trying to focus on eating more healthy and cutting down on snacks.
Forgot to add.....
YES TALLEY......I WILL SEE YOU SATURDAY EVENING! YAHOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
okay......first of the year.......goals to be made and achieve (hopefully).. one of my goals is to drop a few pounds and firm a few places.
i know better than to get any support from my husband ("oh, you look fine, honey")....so i was wondering if there is anybody (preferrably female) on the board that would be interested in supporting me/and me supporting them (weight loss goal).
i have read of a few females that are trying to lose a few extra......so i am pretty sure i am not alone.. i am trying to focus on eating more healthy and cutting down on snacks.
Goodness gracious.....if ONE buddy is great.......imagine how much more great ALL of us would be together!
I just know, from personal experience, that I do so much better with support than when I try to do something alone.
Okay, girlies.....how do we go about this? Can we all be support for one another? My organizing brain is a little tired after the Secret Santa stuff.......
Flower........what a GREAT site! I just took the tour and am signing up now! Thanks!
Edited by - scootergirl on 1 January 2003 11:21:36
okay......first of the year.......goals to be made and achieve (hopefully).. one of my goals is to drop a few pounds and firm a few places.
i know better than to get any support from my husband ("oh, you look fine, honey")....so i was wondering if there is anybody (preferrably female) on the board that would be interested in supporting me/and me supporting them (weight loss goal).
i have read of a few females that are trying to lose a few extra......so i am pretty sure i am not alone.. i am trying to focus on eating more healthy and cutting down on snacks.
Xena.......this is what I need.
I need someone that I can email back and forth with.....NOT to be put on the board! lol....this would be strictly OFF the board stuff!
Someone to share my weight and measurements with.......someone to share a food diary with. I need and want support......pat me on the back when I am doing well, kick me in the a** when I need a good swift kick (but not too hard). Someone to share goals with.....
I need someone totally serious about doing this too. I know that I can do this......but it will take a whole lot of self discipline.
I need someone that wants to achieve the same goals as me. Someone that needs support too......because I can be a good cheerleader too, you know!
I am open to any suggestions......I just know that it is time for a change....and nothing changes if nothing changes.
