Posts by scootergirl

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Useless Drama Pictures

by Matty in

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do any of you good people of jw.com remember going to a district convention and hearing that little announcement the chairman would make before the bible-drama started?.

it generally went like this: "please remain seated during the drama and please do not obstruct other peoples view if using recording equipment such as camcorders" and he would also say "please do not use flash photography because it distracts others and is of little use.".

they made such a fuss anyone would think we were all going to witness the second coming of christ, floating down on his chariot onto the field!

scootergirl

I was in a drama once. I played the part of a dub youth that was "tempted" to go astray.......funny thing is........

A little over a year later I was df'd!

Hmmmmmmmm...........guess I played the part far too well!

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Ahhh, I need serious help.

by apostate man in

jw
friends

where do i start.

my wife is a "closet alcoholic".

i found out a month ago that she was lying to me since the day we met, almost 7 years ago.

scootergirl

I remember my very first Alanon meeting. I was in a relationship that was terrible. I thought that I would go, talk all about what the drinker was doing in my life and someone would stand up and tell me to "leave the son-of-a-bitch". I cried, talked, cried some more and this old woman took me by the hand. Said that they all understood. Same story, different actors. Then she suggested that "I decide NOT to make a decision today".....and that "I can live with something for 24 hours which would appaul me to live w/for a lifetime." The most suprising thing that I learned is that I had become just as "sick" as my alcoholic partner! My behavior was as distorted and irrational. I was constantly trying to control what he was doing, thinking and drinking. I literally was banging my head against a brick wall! Alcoholism effects the whole family.........everyone needs help learning how to live w/this disease.

Living w/an alcoholic is difficult. And let me say, even if your wife gets dry and sober, she is still an alcoholic. Can take away the alcohol, but the "ism" is still there. You need to be w/people who can relate, can support, and can listen to you. No one will (or shouldn't) tell you what you are to do. No one will judge. What you are going to learn going to Alanon is the tools to live a healthy, happy life. Nothing is going to happen over night.

My email is open for anyone that wants to talk to me about my experiences w/Alanon. It has been a literal life savior to me.

Edited by - scootergirl on 17 September 2002 15:14:18

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Ahhh, I need serious help.

by apostate man in

jw
friends

where do i start.

my wife is a "closet alcoholic".

i found out a month ago that she was lying to me since the day we met, almost 7 years ago.

scootergirl

Go to Alanon.

Although I am not a newcomer to Alanon anymore but not yet a lifer, the last 5 years attending Alanon and learning how to take care of myself, understanding the 12 steps, what I have control over and what I don't have saved my life.

Go to Alanon........TONIGHT.

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dry humping

by freddi in

freddie - check with simon if you feel that this post should remain.

hs

edited by - hillary_step on 16 september 2002 18:38:2.

scootergirl

I second (guess third) that Englishman. Well said.

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dry humping

by freddi in

freddie - check with simon if you feel that this post should remain.

hs

edited by - hillary_step on 16 september 2002 18:38:2.

scootergirl

Trauma hound you are right. My apologies. The word "stupidity" should have been nievity........guess it was just the early morning fuzzies. Guess that just goes to show that Scooter shouldn't post early in the a.m.!

Again, my apologies for referring to someone as stupid.

BUT........the post clearly was uncalled for, crude, crass and I have yet failed to see why something like that was written other than to elicit some sort of knee jerk response (such as mine).

You know, thinking about it and reading more on this board from this particular poster, I wonder if it wasn't written in anger.....out of pain. If so, my heart goes out to this poster. There is lots of support here, but sometimes being so "crude" about something can give the wrong impression. If so.......my apologies to you freddi. I hope you find whatever it was you needed when you posted this thread.

Edited by - scootergirl on 17 September 2002 9:24:54

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Do We CHOOSE to be depressed?

by Crystal in

the answer to that question is yes!!

we always want the easy way out , a pill, a religion , a shrink to make us happy.no one can make you happy but you.start taking control of your own life and your own brain and stop depending on others.

xena posted this the other day.

scootergirl

OMG.........three pages longa and I just now decide to put my .02 in! LOL

Ladylee wrote:

I think self-help books have their place - not as a cure but as a way to understand what you are going through

I agree with you there, girly! Self help books have helped me so much in the past. Some have been complete bullsh** and some have helped fill in the blanks. Just my opinion.

Ah, depression. What a touchy subject I see. Depression is not chosen. Depression can be genetic, and yes, some people can be "crisis orientated" and bring on the "doom and gloom" attitude in their lives, but true clinical depression is not chosen. Mimilly, your analogy of the concrete was great!

BUT.........again, here is my opinion, treatment options ARE chosen. There are many many options available. Some work for some, others for others. Therein lies the choice of treatment for depression. Unfortunately, some people are never cured of depression and have to learn to manage their lives under such an illness. If only depression were so easy to cure as to take a pill.......such a misunderstood illness. *sigh*

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dry humping

by freddi in

freddie - check with simon if you feel that this post should remain.

hs

edited by - hillary_step on 16 september 2002 18:38:2.

scootergirl

All I am going to say is this........I was the first to respond to Freddi and apparently she (it?) has absolutely NO idea what "dry humping" is. Most definately trying to get a rise (no pun intended) out of whomever she could. Her stupidity shined thru very brightly (had to wear my sunglasses).

Edited by - scootergirl on 17 September 2002 7:29:16

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