If I ever met anyone in the ministry who was really angry with JWs it was always followed by the accusation that we broke up families. The WT wrecking of families will be and is its legacy. I just hope your son resumes family ties before you or your husband pass. I've read stories where cult affected children only leave after death of parents and the emotional guilt trips are nearly to traumatic for them to cope with .
When a " wordly" person hears about how some children don't attend funerals of parents, they in their wildest dream can't work out the reason any child wouldn't show final respects.