TonusOH, your post reminds me of something I heard from a sweet, young friend that I had, decades ago. She was a witness daughter, possibly baptized, who had broken off a relationship with one “worldly boy”, but had now fallen in love with a different “worldly boy” who she later went on to marry. She and I were sharing a meal at a restaurant. She explained that she had been very devoted to that first boyfriend and would always listen to his stories of his successes and battles,... his hopes and his dreams, and would give him encouragement and support whenever she could. But, after a small event in which he ridiculed her for being in love with him, she saw that her relationship with him was always “her giving understanding to him”, but never the other way around, and she ended the relationship. She had good sense. Not everyone does.