Toblerone5, yes! I went to Evans 'taking a break' YouTube video that you posted and, lo and behold, my comment is still there! Here's what I wrote:
4 months ago
Enjoy your break. If you decide to read a book... I think that most children of JW's had "toxic parents". Decades before the internet, and decades before "waking up", reading this book helped me protect my mental health. With this book, I can mentally (if not verbally) defend myself from all the misinformed people's advice. "People can forgive toxic parents, but they should do it at the conclusion—not at the beginning—of their emotional house cleaning.” – "Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life", by Dr. Susan Forward and Craig Buck.
I see now that that book is only two decades old. The book I'd read "decades ago" was actually this one, from 1986...
Women Who Love Too Much