I'm a way different person than I was 10 years ago..I understand my upbringing has shaped me for better or worse as a adult. what's unfair is I brought up to her saying "you might find someone and not want me anymore so let's take things slow". She got all offended like I would be ok with if she found someone else. Which is what happened after we got divorced the first time. I can usually read a situation and try to descalate it. But for instance, I say let's take things slow you might find someone else. And then the topic is her getting offended because I stated a possibility. Her sexual identity is she has always been Bi-sexual since I known her. She broke up with her gf because she was using drugs again. I think she likes companionship more than she questions her sexual identity.
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37My "shameless" relationship with my ex wife
by Jayk ini've thought about keeping this to myself but i'm still confused on what i should do.. my ex wife(never been a jw) and myself(raised in the org till 16)have been reconnecting these past few weeks.
we been divorced for almost 10 years, we got married when we where pretty young, and it didnt last long.. fast forward 10 years, her and i have been reconnecting and things are getting semi serious.. she got remarried, divorced again, and recently broke up with her gf.
so in the past 10 years she has only been with 3 people (including myself) and here comes me "a sucker with no self esteem".
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My "shameless" relationship with my ex wife
by Jayk ini've thought about keeping this to myself but i'm still confused on what i should do.. my ex wife(never been a jw) and myself(raised in the org till 16)have been reconnecting these past few weeks.
we been divorced for almost 10 years, we got married when we where pretty young, and it didnt last long.. fast forward 10 years, her and i have been reconnecting and things are getting semi serious.. she got remarried, divorced again, and recently broke up with her gf.
so in the past 10 years she has only been with 3 people (including myself) and here comes me "a sucker with no self esteem".
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King David I'm hoping for a situation like that. I wouldnt mind being in a relationship with my ex wife but I dont think getting "remarried" is necessary. I explained I still have feeling and I dont want to talk to other people. -
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My "shameless" relationship with my ex wife
by Jayk ini've thought about keeping this to myself but i'm still confused on what i should do.. my ex wife(never been a jw) and myself(raised in the org till 16)have been reconnecting these past few weeks.
we been divorced for almost 10 years, we got married when we where pretty young, and it didnt last long.. fast forward 10 years, her and i have been reconnecting and things are getting semi serious.. she got remarried, divorced again, and recently broke up with her gf.
so in the past 10 years she has only been with 3 people (including myself) and here comes me "a sucker with no self esteem".
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First off I was young and immature. Im willing to admit that was the biggest problem. But also I had/have a less than supportive JW family and I didnt realise how much that was gonna play a part. I'm having to come to terms with unless I go back to the org and marry a JW women. My JW family will not except my family. -
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My "shameless" relationship with my ex wife
by Jayk ini've thought about keeping this to myself but i'm still confused on what i should do.. my ex wife(never been a jw) and myself(raised in the org till 16)have been reconnecting these past few weeks.
we been divorced for almost 10 years, we got married when we where pretty young, and it didnt last long.. fast forward 10 years, her and i have been reconnecting and things are getting semi serious.. she got remarried, divorced again, and recently broke up with her gf.
so in the past 10 years she has only been with 3 people (including myself) and here comes me "a sucker with no self esteem".
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I've thought about keeping this to myself but I'm still confused on what I should do.. My ex wife(never been a jw) and myself(raised in the org till 16)have been reconnecting these past few weeks. We been divorced for almost 10 years, we got married when we where pretty young, and it didnt last long.. Fast forward 10 years, her and I have been reconnecting and things are getting semi serious.. she got remarried, divorced again, and recently broke up with her gf. So in the past 10 years she has only been with 3 people (including myself) and here comes me "a sucker with no self esteem". I'm not leading her on, I would like to see if things could work again, but I feel we should take things slow for obvious reasons. She is starting to push for us becoming more "official" but her way of doing it is standoffish and I'm trying to help her understand why we shouldnt rush into it. She has kids from her 2nd marriage, and I been trying to explain I don't want to get hurt again or hurt her. Should I pursue this, move on, or how do I help her see why we should take things slow... I'm so f×@#ing confused...
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Anyone notice how only some JWs are on FB or social media
by rockemsockem ini notice only about half the people i knew in the borg are on social media.
anyone else notice this?.
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I deactivated my FB a couple years ago. But the people who criticized my generation for having a Myspace all ended up having FB accounts. It's not just JW I think alot of people have been deactivating there FB accounts. Just like Myspace, social media is kinda a fad. Right now Instagram is very popular because it's mostly about pictures and less about what people have to say. -
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Need some advice, my gf just tried to commit suicide (very long post)
by Jayk insorry for the grammar and spelling errors if any..(me 29 raised in the org) (gf 25 not raised) just left her at the hospital with (call her sara).. sara had just ingested half a bottle of her antidepressant pill and half a bottle of melatonin.
this took place after a discussion we where having about a recent event that took place.
long story short, sara told me she slept with my best friend/coworker(call him tim) after a argument we had, the morning after it supposedly happened.. i was pretty torn but i was maintaining and i even thought sara was lying because tim was such a good friend.
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You might be onto something Billzfan.. But in all seriousness my roommates gave me credit for how calm I stayed during the whole fight. -
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Need some advice, my gf just tried to commit suicide (very long post)
by Jayk insorry for the grammar and spelling errors if any..(me 29 raised in the org) (gf 25 not raised) just left her at the hospital with (call her sara).. sara had just ingested half a bottle of her antidepressant pill and half a bottle of melatonin.
this took place after a discussion we where having about a recent event that took place.
long story short, sara told me she slept with my best friend/coworker(call him tim) after a argument we had, the morning after it supposedly happened.. i was pretty torn but i was maintaining and i even thought sara was lying because tim was such a good friend.
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I'll start by saying I do believe Tim. He seemed sincere, and didnt get defensive about me asking him. He could have lied said "nothing happened" and if I didnt believe him then that's my problem. For what it's worth they couldn't stand each other but that doesn't mean things couldn't have happened. Her family has been dealing with her behavior for awhile. This isnt her first outburst/attempt in her life. In the past 6 months its actually her 2nd suicide attempt. I cant tell you if it's a cry for help or a cry for attention hence her saying "you better call a ambulance I just swallowed a bunch of pills" then proceeded to swallow more. She is diagnosed bipolar, that could be from her physically abusive father that also gave her everything(as weird as that sounds) or her PTSD ( about 4 years ago she was jogging real late one night in a bad side of town) that's all I'll say about that. She deff needs professional, she knows she needs it, but refuses to accept the advice. -
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Need some advice, my gf just tried to commit suicide (very long post)
by Jayk insorry for the grammar and spelling errors if any..(me 29 raised in the org) (gf 25 not raised) just left her at the hospital with (call her sara).. sara had just ingested half a bottle of her antidepressant pill and half a bottle of melatonin.
this took place after a discussion we where having about a recent event that took place.
long story short, sara told me she slept with my best friend/coworker(call him tim) after a argument we had, the morning after it supposedly happened.. i was pretty torn but i was maintaining and i even thought sara was lying because tim was such a good friend.
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You're very right with everything you're saying Sea Breeze. My life since I left the ORG at 16 hasnt been easy. Confusing sex with love has been my problem. Then pursing toxic relationships because I hate failure but want to try and make it work. It's not preachy it's pretty solid and easy to understand advice. I'm pretty confident I'll be able to get over it myself.
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Need some advice, my gf just tried to commit suicide (very long post)
by Jayk insorry for the grammar and spelling errors if any..(me 29 raised in the org) (gf 25 not raised) just left her at the hospital with (call her sara).. sara had just ingested half a bottle of her antidepressant pill and half a bottle of melatonin.
this took place after a discussion we where having about a recent event that took place.
long story short, sara told me she slept with my best friend/coworker(call him tim) after a argument we had, the morning after it supposedly happened.. i was pretty torn but i was maintaining and i even thought sara was lying because tim was such a good friend.
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Pretty much you're all hitting the nail on the head. She needs professional help clearly. Saras mom pretty much had told me she had been dealing with this for the last 10 years. Last night was the last straw. The break up is one thing but what I had to deal with last night no one should have to deal with. Luckily I was in contact with Sara's mother the whole time telling her to come over because of how Sara was acting. -
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Need some advice, my gf just tried to commit suicide (very long post)
by Jayk insorry for the grammar and spelling errors if any..(me 29 raised in the org) (gf 25 not raised) just left her at the hospital with (call her sara).. sara had just ingested half a bottle of her antidepressant pill and half a bottle of melatonin.
this took place after a discussion we where having about a recent event that took place.
long story short, sara told me she slept with my best friend/coworker(call him tim) after a argument we had, the morning after it supposedly happened.. i was pretty torn but i was maintaining and i even thought sara was lying because tim was such a good friend.
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Sorry for the grammar and spelling errors if any..(me 29 raised in the org) (gf 25 not raised) just left her at the hospital with (call her sara).. Sara had just ingested half a bottle of her antidepressant pill and half a bottle of melatonin. This took place after a discussion we where having about a recent event that took place. Long story short, sara told me she slept with my best friend/coworker(call him Tim) after a argument we had, the morning after it supposedly happened.. I was pretty torn but I was maintaining and I even thought Sara was lying because Tim was such a good friend. Tim had been out of the country for over a week since she mentioned it. But I finally got a chance to ask him tonight. He denied it ever happened and seem very concerned for our friendship that he would never betray that. For a while I felt Sara could have been lying, just using it as a excuse to move out of our place but she still wanted to make things work just not live together. I decided to bring it up one last time and give Sara a chance to tell me if she was lying. Sara got very defensive fast. I never even got a chance to tell Sara what Tim said I just told Sara that Tim's version was a bit different. She lunged at me then spit in my face. Everything after happened very fast but her mom was already on the way over and Sara knew that. Sara came into my bedroom (we had separate rooms the whole time we lived together) and proceed to tell me "I just ate a bunch of pill you better call the ambulance". I called her mom immediately told her to meet me at the hospital. Literally as I'm doing that Sara is swallowing another mouth full of pills and I'm gagging on the phone as I'm telling her mom what Sara is doing. On the car ride to the hospital I had my arm wrapped around Sara's because she asked me (would you be mad if I jumped out of the car) multiple times. Sara proceeds to blame Tim for her taking the pills and hopefully he can live with himself.. Get her to the emergency room, Sara's mom shows up pretty fast after and that's when I left. In tears I told Sara's mom "I have to go I'm srry about this" didnt even say bye to Sara, just walked out....Probably wont have much contact if any.. very sad way to end a relationship. To anyone else who have been thru this how did you cope afterwards. I could really use some advice before I go to my family and tell them what has happened.. no one in my family has met her.. we only been together for 5-6 month...