Posts by Jayk

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My "shameless" relationship with my ex wife

by Jayk in

i've thought about keeping this to myself but i'm still confused on what i should do.. my ex wife(never been a jw) and myself(raised in the org till 16)have been reconnecting these past few weeks.

we been divorced for almost 10 years, we got married when we where pretty young, and it didnt last long.. fast forward 10 years, her and i have been reconnecting and things are getting semi serious.. she got remarried, divorced again, and recently broke up with her gf.

so in the past 10 years she has only been with 3 people (including myself) and here comes me "a sucker with no self esteem".

Jayk

From what I know her ex his a pretty big guy with a ego just as big. I think I'm big considering I'm 6,4 and 230lbs. He works out quiet a bit than I do and has also used steroids.

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My "shameless" relationship with my ex wife

by Jayk in

i've thought about keeping this to myself but i'm still confused on what i should do.. my ex wife(never been a jw) and myself(raised in the org till 16)have been reconnecting these past few weeks.

we been divorced for almost 10 years, we got married when we where pretty young, and it didnt last long.. fast forward 10 years, her and i have been reconnecting and things are getting semi serious.. she got remarried, divorced again, and recently broke up with her gf.

so in the past 10 years she has only been with 3 people (including myself) and here comes me "a sucker with no self esteem".

Jayk

She isnt a vindictive person but she has her flaws. From what she told me she dealt with him for along time but when he started being mean to the kids that's when she had enough. Ok so the order of her relationships was. 1st was Baby daddy, then Me(we got married then divorced) back to baby daddy(got remarried and had kids), started seeing her gf then they broke up now back to me. I can see how that could have been confusing. But you could be right and she is lying but I don't feel that is the case. She can be hard to deal with sometimes but she has show me texts he sends her.

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My "shameless" relationship with my ex wife

by Jayk in

i've thought about keeping this to myself but i'm still confused on what i should do.. my ex wife(never been a jw) and myself(raised in the org till 16)have been reconnecting these past few weeks.

we been divorced for almost 10 years, we got married when we where pretty young, and it didnt last long.. fast forward 10 years, her and i have been reconnecting and things are getting semi serious.. she got remarried, divorced again, and recently broke up with her gf.

so in the past 10 years she has only been with 3 people (including myself) and here comes me "a sucker with no self esteem".

Jayk

The kids real dad is a asshole from what I'm told. He gets them on the weekends. When she left him after she couldn't deal with him anymore he burned a bunch of her stuff. She still had pictures from our wedding and he burned my eyes out in all of them... She was dating him before her and I got married.. They split up then her and I got together. When her and I got divorced she didnt immediately go running back to him but it eventually happened. His family never excepted her after that, because they felt she left him for me but she left him and just happened to meet me.. Funny you say that because she usually does pay on dates. I will try but she usually insists on it. I'm not gonna argue I will just get her back another time.

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My "shameless" relationship with my ex wife

by Jayk in

i've thought about keeping this to myself but i'm still confused on what i should do.. my ex wife(never been a jw) and myself(raised in the org till 16)have been reconnecting these past few weeks.

we been divorced for almost 10 years, we got married when we where pretty young, and it didnt last long.. fast forward 10 years, her and i have been reconnecting and things are getting semi serious.. she got remarried, divorced again, and recently broke up with her gf.

so in the past 10 years she has only been with 3 people (including myself) and here comes me "a sucker with no self esteem".

Jayk

The kids are deff something we are taking into consideration so that people dont come in and out of their lives. I'm just about to turn 30. She doesnt need me to be there financially or a father figure for her kids.

Ps I thought the shameless reference was necessary

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My "shameless" relationship with my ex wife

by Jayk in

i've thought about keeping this to myself but i'm still confused on what i should do.. my ex wife(never been a jw) and myself(raised in the org till 16)have been reconnecting these past few weeks.

we been divorced for almost 10 years, we got married when we where pretty young, and it didnt last long.. fast forward 10 years, her and i have been reconnecting and things are getting semi serious.. she got remarried, divorced again, and recently broke up with her gf.

so in the past 10 years she has only been with 3 people (including myself) and here comes me "a sucker with no self esteem".

Jayk

Well mrmustard this is where I'm supposed to say "well no one is perfect". The toughest pill for me to swallow is that manipulative part.. Growing up with a abusive and manipulative mother was pretty hard. I'm at peace now but it took years for me to find it on my own. I dont want to think that's what she is doing but she probably is. She wasnt using drugs in her last relationship just her gf was. I guess I got alot of thinking to do on this subject. I appreciate the advice everyone.

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My "shameless" relationship with my ex wife

by Jayk in

i've thought about keeping this to myself but i'm still confused on what i should do.. my ex wife(never been a jw) and myself(raised in the org till 16)have been reconnecting these past few weeks.

we been divorced for almost 10 years, we got married when we where pretty young, and it didnt last long.. fast forward 10 years, her and i have been reconnecting and things are getting semi serious.. she got remarried, divorced again, and recently broke up with her gf.

so in the past 10 years she has only been with 3 people (including myself) and here comes me "a sucker with no self esteem".

Jayk

That's all pretty solid advice I appreciate that. What you said about the kids is being discussed and I feel the same. I'm trying to look at this situation from all perspectives before I make my final decision.

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My "shameless" relationship with my ex wife

by Jayk in

i've thought about keeping this to myself but i'm still confused on what i should do.. my ex wife(never been a jw) and myself(raised in the org till 16)have been reconnecting these past few weeks.

we been divorced for almost 10 years, we got married when we where pretty young, and it didnt last long.. fast forward 10 years, her and i have been reconnecting and things are getting semi serious.. she got remarried, divorced again, and recently broke up with her gf.

so in the past 10 years she has only been with 3 people (including myself) and here comes me "a sucker with no self esteem".

Jayk

I'm not deflecting I'm not trying to air all the details until the questions are asked. I've already admitted I was immature in the beginning of our relationship how is that deflecting? I agreed that therapy might be the right answer and i didnt consider it. My vehicle recently broken down and she had a extra and is allowing me to use it. I have nothing against her I'm asking for other people's advice to see if anyone else has been in similar situations..

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My "shameless" relationship with my ex wife

by Jayk in

i've thought about keeping this to myself but i'm still confused on what i should do.. my ex wife(never been a jw) and myself(raised in the org till 16)have been reconnecting these past few weeks.

we been divorced for almost 10 years, we got married when we where pretty young, and it didnt last long.. fast forward 10 years, her and i have been reconnecting and things are getting semi serious.. she got remarried, divorced again, and recently broke up with her gf.

so in the past 10 years she has only been with 3 people (including myself) and here comes me "a sucker with no self esteem".

Jayk

Nahh dio I been out of the ORG since I was 16. I got married while I was 20. The reason I would ask complete strangers is because I can't going to my own family for advice. I've been told I should see a therapist which I never thought of before. But I also think i have a clear understanding of her needs and mine. I honestly think she needs to see a therapist for her own issues. Yes I probably have issues but I dont think they effect my relationships but I feel hers might..

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My "shameless" relationship with my ex wife

by Jayk in

i've thought about keeping this to myself but i'm still confused on what i should do.. my ex wife(never been a jw) and myself(raised in the org till 16)have been reconnecting these past few weeks.

we been divorced for almost 10 years, we got married when we where pretty young, and it didnt last long.. fast forward 10 years, her and i have been reconnecting and things are getting semi serious.. she got remarried, divorced again, and recently broke up with her gf.

so in the past 10 years she has only been with 3 people (including myself) and here comes me "a sucker with no self esteem".

Jayk

I got a private message from someone who said that. I'm a pretty logical person I understand where our marriage went wrong(I was young on immature).I think she should probably see a therapist. Like 2 weeks ago she started taking zoloft if that says anything.

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My "shameless" relationship with my ex wife

by Jayk in

i've thought about keeping this to myself but i'm still confused on what i should do.. my ex wife(never been a jw) and myself(raised in the org till 16)have been reconnecting these past few weeks.

we been divorced for almost 10 years, we got married when we where pretty young, and it didnt last long.. fast forward 10 years, her and i have been reconnecting and things are getting semi serious.. she got remarried, divorced again, and recently broke up with her gf.

so in the past 10 years she has only been with 3 people (including myself) and here comes me "a sucker with no self esteem".

Jayk

I didnt think this situation was gonna be easy. She is her own person and knows what she wants. She is emotionally conflicted with other things in her life. I'm not the solution she is looking for but I'm not the problem either.