Posts by Jayk

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My JW mom tried telling me this

by Jayk in

going thru a bit of a life situation right now... i should have listened to a few of your a couple months ago.

this girl i was seeing has completely stopped talking to me as of 2 weeks ago.

she springs on me she is pregnant possibly a abortion, but would consider adoption or sever the rights.

Jayk

I told her from the beginning I would take the child if she didnt want it. I was supportive and comforting as I possibly could. Any avenue I could take to just calm her down, assure her I'll take responsibility, and keep the peace I did. She kept going in all directions trying to argue. She was probably extremely stressed out and I understand that. Abortion isnt her way, she rather put it up for adoption she doesnt want that to haunt her.

She finally got a rise out of me and told me I "disgusted her" for the things I said when she had been pretty much using this whole situation to get a rise out of me and bring me to her level..

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My JW mom tried telling me this

by Jayk in

going thru a bit of a life situation right now... i should have listened to a few of your a couple months ago.

this girl i was seeing has completely stopped talking to me as of 2 weeks ago.

she springs on me she is pregnant possibly a abortion, but would consider adoption or sever the rights.

Jayk

I do try to cut her as much slack. She was only angry that she didnt know I was dating the person I was. Her response was "which of your aunts knew before me" which none of them knew about the pregnancy. But 2 of them knew I was dating the her.

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My JW mom tried telling me this

by Jayk in

going thru a bit of a life situation right now... i should have listened to a few of your a couple months ago.

this girl i was seeing has completely stopped talking to me as of 2 weeks ago.

she springs on me she is pregnant possibly a abortion, but would consider adoption or sever the rights.

Jayk

I wish half the crazy shit she says could be connect to the WT. Then the world could see how fake the ORG is. She stepped out of her act and I got to see the mom I grew up with again and not the "changed women" act she puts on.

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My JW mom tried telling me this

by Jayk in

going thru a bit of a life situation right now... i should have listened to a few of your a couple months ago.

this girl i was seeing has completely stopped talking to me as of 2 weeks ago.

she springs on me she is pregnant possibly a abortion, but would consider adoption or sever the rights.

Jayk

Going thru a bit of a life situation right now... i should have listened to a few of your a couple months ago. This girl I was seeing has completely stopped talking to me as of 2 weeks ago. She springs on me she is pregnant possibly a abortion, but would consider adoption or sever the rights. I was very supportive, comforting, as I possibly could while she was going thru a emotional situation. But she kept pushing and pushing till she got a rise out of me and I pretty much said "I prefer the abortion, fuck off"...

She probably isnt getting a abortion but my ex was mad I even suggested it. I know she is against it as well as I am. But I figured I better tell my mom what's about to happen. "Blah blah blah well jehovah tell use because the life was there you still have a chance of being a father".. are you talking about "in new system".. which is what she was referring to. My heart sank and I almost blew up on her but i just dropped it and changed the subject. Thanks for trying to pray on me in one of my most vulnerable times mom

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My "shameless" relationship with my ex wife

by Jayk in

i've thought about keeping this to myself but i'm still confused on what i should do.. my ex wife(never been a jw) and myself(raised in the org till 16)have been reconnecting these past few weeks.

we been divorced for almost 10 years, we got married when we where pretty young, and it didnt last long.. fast forward 10 years, her and i have been reconnecting and things are getting semi serious.. she got remarried, divorced again, and recently broke up with her gf.

so in the past 10 years she has only been with 3 people (including myself) and here comes me "a sucker with no self esteem".

Jayk

From what I know her ex his a pretty big guy with a ego just as big. I think I'm big considering I'm 6,4 and 230lbs. He works out quiet a bit than I do and has also used steroids.

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My "shameless" relationship with my ex wife

by Jayk in

i've thought about keeping this to myself but i'm still confused on what i should do.. my ex wife(never been a jw) and myself(raised in the org till 16)have been reconnecting these past few weeks.

we been divorced for almost 10 years, we got married when we where pretty young, and it didnt last long.. fast forward 10 years, her and i have been reconnecting and things are getting semi serious.. she got remarried, divorced again, and recently broke up with her gf.

so in the past 10 years she has only been with 3 people (including myself) and here comes me "a sucker with no self esteem".

Jayk

She isnt a vindictive person but she has her flaws. From what she told me she dealt with him for along time but when he started being mean to the kids that's when she had enough. Ok so the order of her relationships was. 1st was Baby daddy, then Me(we got married then divorced) back to baby daddy(got remarried and had kids), started seeing her gf then they broke up now back to me. I can see how that could have been confusing. But you could be right and she is lying but I don't feel that is the case. She can be hard to deal with sometimes but she has show me texts he sends her.

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My "shameless" relationship with my ex wife

by Jayk in

i've thought about keeping this to myself but i'm still confused on what i should do.. my ex wife(never been a jw) and myself(raised in the org till 16)have been reconnecting these past few weeks.

we been divorced for almost 10 years, we got married when we where pretty young, and it didnt last long.. fast forward 10 years, her and i have been reconnecting and things are getting semi serious.. she got remarried, divorced again, and recently broke up with her gf.

so in the past 10 years she has only been with 3 people (including myself) and here comes me "a sucker with no self esteem".

Jayk

The kids real dad is a asshole from what I'm told. He gets them on the weekends. When she left him after she couldn't deal with him anymore he burned a bunch of her stuff. She still had pictures from our wedding and he burned my eyes out in all of them... She was dating him before her and I got married.. They split up then her and I got together. When her and I got divorced she didnt immediately go running back to him but it eventually happened. His family never excepted her after that, because they felt she left him for me but she left him and just happened to meet me.. Funny you say that because she usually does pay on dates. I will try but she usually insists on it. I'm not gonna argue I will just get her back another time.

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My "shameless" relationship with my ex wife

by Jayk in

i've thought about keeping this to myself but i'm still confused on what i should do.. my ex wife(never been a jw) and myself(raised in the org till 16)have been reconnecting these past few weeks.

we been divorced for almost 10 years, we got married when we where pretty young, and it didnt last long.. fast forward 10 years, her and i have been reconnecting and things are getting semi serious.. she got remarried, divorced again, and recently broke up with her gf.

so in the past 10 years she has only been with 3 people (including myself) and here comes me "a sucker with no self esteem".

Jayk

The kids are deff something we are taking into consideration so that people dont come in and out of their lives. I'm just about to turn 30. She doesnt need me to be there financially or a father figure for her kids.

Ps I thought the shameless reference was necessary

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My "shameless" relationship with my ex wife

by Jayk in

i've thought about keeping this to myself but i'm still confused on what i should do.. my ex wife(never been a jw) and myself(raised in the org till 16)have been reconnecting these past few weeks.

we been divorced for almost 10 years, we got married when we where pretty young, and it didnt last long.. fast forward 10 years, her and i have been reconnecting and things are getting semi serious.. she got remarried, divorced again, and recently broke up with her gf.

so in the past 10 years she has only been with 3 people (including myself) and here comes me "a sucker with no self esteem".

Jayk

Well mrmustard this is where I'm supposed to say "well no one is perfect". The toughest pill for me to swallow is that manipulative part.. Growing up with a abusive and manipulative mother was pretty hard. I'm at peace now but it took years for me to find it on my own. I dont want to think that's what she is doing but she probably is. She wasnt using drugs in her last relationship just her gf was. I guess I got alot of thinking to do on this subject. I appreciate the advice everyone.

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My "shameless" relationship with my ex wife

by Jayk in

i've thought about keeping this to myself but i'm still confused on what i should do.. my ex wife(never been a jw) and myself(raised in the org till 16)have been reconnecting these past few weeks.

we been divorced for almost 10 years, we got married when we where pretty young, and it didnt last long.. fast forward 10 years, her and i have been reconnecting and things are getting semi serious.. she got remarried, divorced again, and recently broke up with her gf.

so in the past 10 years she has only been with 3 people (including myself) and here comes me "a sucker with no self esteem".

Jayk

That's all pretty solid advice I appreciate that. What you said about the kids is being discussed and I feel the same. I'm trying to look at this situation from all perspectives before I make my final decision.