Thanks for all the support and suggestions. I haven't been on for a few days and don't know where to start with all the questions. There's so much more to this situation than what I've stated in the posts. I understand the situation of the potential religion issues in court. Even though being a JW is part of it, I'm mainly going to focus on her unstable mental health and substance abuse. I feel like if worst comes to worst, I have a better chance with these two concerns.
I really like advice from pale.emperor - being the cool dad with the holidays, birthdays, and involvement. That's my mentality and want to my daughter to know that she's not limited to just the JW bs.
I appreciate all the links and will do more investigating
SFSDGUY
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Divorce/Terms of Agreement
by SFSDGUY ini'm a first time poster and i apologize if this topic has been discussed before.
when i met my wife she was disfellowshiped and were happy, got married, and had a kid.
after we had our daughter she got reinstated so her family and her jw "friends" could spend time with our daughter.
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Divorce/Terms of Agreement
by SFSDGUY ini'm a first time poster and i apologize if this topic has been discussed before.
when i met my wife she was disfellowshiped and were happy, got married, and had a kid.
after we had our daughter she got reinstated so her family and her jw "friends" could spend time with our daughter.
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Luckily her mental health and substance abuse are the main contributing factors of the divorce and just not solely JW things. When we were in the relationship I had no control or say on what she did. You're correct, I can't prevent her from influencing my daughter, but when she's not around I'm happily exposing my daughter to an alternate lifestyle of birthday parties, holidays, Santa, choices, and free will. I'm exposing her to new things that probably wouldn't be part of her life if we were still married.
I disagree that written agreements will end up begin futile. We have lawyers, so it's going to be a legal binding document and if she doesn't follow it, there will be legal consequences.
I've read how the Watchtower can be controlling and separate kids from their non JW parent, that's why I'll be implementing this clause into our agreement.
"Accordingly, the Mother and Father shall not directly or indirectly influence (child) so as to estrange them from the other parent. Each parent shall also not do anything that might prejudice (child) against the other parent or impair their regard for the other parent. To further support this commitment, each parent shall do everything in her or his power to prevent any of their respective family members from doing or saying anything might prejudice (child) against the other parent or impair their regard for the other parent."
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Divorce/Terms of Agreement
by SFSDGUY ini'm a first time poster and i apologize if this topic has been discussed before.
when i met my wife she was disfellowshiped and were happy, got married, and had a kid.
after we had our daughter she got reinstated so her family and her jw "friends" could spend time with our daughter.
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I'm a first time poster and I apologize if this topic has been discussed before. When I met my wife she was disfellowshiped and were happy, got married, and had a kid. After we had our daughter she got reinstated so her family and her JW "friends" could spend time with our daughter. Long story short the JWs have created a void in our relationship and I have filed for divorce for a couple reasons, but I'm worried about the JW upbringing being inflected on my daughter. We are currently in the process of divorce, and trying not to get a judge involved.
Does anyone have experience (or suggestions) in creating terms for a divorce agreement that limits exposure to JWs. According to parenting guidelines, she has every right to raise our daughter in any religion. I was planning on creating term where my daughter can only attend JW meetings or functions only with her mother. Any other suggestions?
Sorry that is a long post, but is there any scholarly studies out there that can determine the JW don't have the best interest of the child?
Thank you!