I feel the same way. We are celebrating Christmas this year in hiding but i don't want to do this forver. But at the same time I know when my mom sees a Christmas tree in my house it will break her heart. she might just break down and cry Infront of me and i just keep imagining this. Such a bitter sweet time. I want to go all out next Christmas but i know when i do it will bring some sad, and probably nasty consequences...
corruptgirl
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1st christmas ever
by notalone inso, i am around 50,4th gen born in- christmas.
strange thing this christmas thing.
i've been watching people this year, really watching them.
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Do pregnant sisters wear the tight, formfitting dresses like those women of "the world" do?
by ShirleyW injust wondering about that as i was watching the news tonight with lester holt, the weatherperson was dylan dryer i believe her name is, who is also on the today show, she was wearing what pregnant women have been wearing for more than ten years now which is the formfitting style of maternity dress.
just wondering if the sisters in the hall are doing the same thing, because back in the day the old elderettes and female pioneers would have an earful to say about a pregnant women who doesn't wear the appropriate maternity wear, showing off that big belly and so on.
btw, i don't care for that style on pregnant women at all, too revealing to me, i don't have kids but couldn't imagine showing off a 30lb belly like that, seems a bit inappropriate to me, imho i guess i should add here..
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corruptgirl
Well i didn't...and most who i know didn't. I wore those long to the floor loose dresses. My belly still showed quite a bit cuz i was HUGE! One sister i know who is a pioneer though took her maternity pics in a very tight and very short dress. Another had her maternity pics in lingerie and open sheer gown on top which exposed her belly. You can go ahead and take those pics but to put them in Facebook is a bit inappropriate for a jw. I remember when i was still in i was talking to other mommies about leggings during pregnancy...how it was the most comfortable thing to wear and we literally had to excuse ourselves for doing so. We even mentioned how Tony Morris said it was inappropriate!😂
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Welcome to all the Newbies in the last six months
by smiddy ini think all of us on this forum would like to welcome all the newbies that have joined in the last six months or so ,if i`m not mistaken there seems to be an influx lately.. elders , ms ,and sisters.
speak up and make a comment , are you happy you came here ?.
we`d love to here from you.. smiddy.
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corruptgirl
Thanks for the welcome. ..I've been awake for 7 months now thanks to my husband who helped me see ttatt. It was exactly a week after my 2nd baby was born that I woke up. We recently celebrated my husband's birthday and I can't wait to celebrate my baby boys's 2nd birthday coming up next month! He didn't have a first birthday but I will make up for it this year!
Welcome to everyone else! Enjoy life, every moment of every day! It's all yours now!
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A birthday card...
by The Rebel init's time for me to move on.
i would like my leave with a good reason why we should leave j.w.
organisation.. from my son a birthday card:-.
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corruptgirl
How sweet 😊
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Elder asking for help
by untruth inthis is my first time posting on here so i’m not sure where to start.
i’m trying to keep it as short as possible since i could expand much more.
i’ve been in the process of waking up in the last year and a half.
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corruptgirl
Hi, I'm Sanchy's wife. Please read my post on how my husband woke me up here:
https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/5640149346025472/how-my-husband-helped-me-see-ttatt
It's so important to not criticize the organization or their teachings... Much easier said than done because i cannot follow my own advise but if you want to succeed in waking her up it's crucial because criticizing them is equivalent to criticizing Jehovah himself. Instead just go to her every once in a while with a "doubt" you have... hopefully she'll want to help you resolve it and therefore help you do research together...this worked for me...there was so much i didn't know and i began to have doubts about other sheep and great crowd being on earth (go to jwfacts.com), 144000 and little flock, 1914, this generation teaching (which has changed 4 times) etc. Get her with doctrine, find old articles and have her read it directly... don't just say certain book mentions this and that...its not the same as seeing the craziness with your own eyes. I woke up purely by researching and comparing bible with Watchtower articles..NO APOSTATE info. Good luck...be patient, be loving, and it just might pay off. Remember she is an indoctrinated robot who has been programmed to shut down whenever she hears anything against organization...if she get angry or emotional let it go and try again another day...i speak from experience 😉
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Community Outside of a Religious Setting
by What Now? inthis is the one thing that i have struggled with since leaving the organization.
i recognize the need and value of belonging somewhere, being a part of something, showing up weekly to a community where me and my husband and children are loved and utilized and incorporated and cared for.
a place where are my kids qualities are nurtured and encouraged , and then reigned in and developed when needed.
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corruptgirl
Lol i totally understand where your coming from and i feel the same way... Don't really have any advise but remember you only miss it because it's what you always did....we don't need to be part of a community to feel whole... Just fine a few good friends to get together with and enjoy life!
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Not too my son...
by The Rebel inwill i say " orlando, your hair is too long, and needs to be cut short" and never will i say " orlando, invites to birthday parties can't be accepted".
and i will buy my son books he wants to read, books that bring him happiness, and that he understands.
and by so doing, i hope he will acquire happy memories of his childhood, so that the sensitive and delicate, in him will be allowed to grow.
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corruptgirl
Just the other day I told my husband, who woke up first, that if it wasn't for our kids (and not just any kids, but these specific 2 kids we have ) he wouldn't have learned ttatt and therefore woken me up. My husband says he would always wonder about our older bog because he seems to have a rebel side and think that if he wasn't in the truth that he would die in Armageddon with him. Horrible the stuff indoctrinated ppl have to think about....anyways then when I was pregnant with our 2nd we had some complications which threatened his health but everything turned out ok. Well that's when my husband started questioning everything and wondering why God allows suffering etc, which led him to do alot of jw research and here we are. 😊 Our boys are babies, one is almost 2 and the other is 6 months. And they will have the life they want to live, and pursue whatever interests they want to pursue. They gave us the gift of freedom and we will be sooooooo happy to return the favor!😊 -
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In love with a JW girl
by rastapau inneed advise.
i was in a relation with a jw girl for almost three years(im am not jw) and we are so inlove with each other until someone saw us from her congregation and she was disfellowed and that where the oddness happened.
her family and friends are not talking to her anymore, she wants me to stop seeing and talking to her anymore not until i became a baptized jw.
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corruptgirl
Obviously I agree with all these comments. And don't be fooled to thinking is all coming from a place of hate toward the Jehovah's witnesses. It's just that we've all been there and have come to know what is really like. ...the hard way. Most of us are being shunned by our entire families just because we decided to leave the organization. ...that's how much loyalty are among the jw's. I'm sure when you go into the meetings they all smoother you with love, unless your sitting with the disfellowshipped sister, they can't even make eye contact with her. But generally, this is how newbies in the kingdom hall are treated. And if your studying the bible with them you might be thinking that its all good and reasonable. Don't. Go to jwfacts.com! I was born in this organization and never realized our doctrine was so off from what the bible says. And regarding the girl, yeah not a good idea. She might love you but her love and loyalty for "jehovah " are stronger. I'm sure she feels very torn right now but at the end of the day, she just another indoctrinated person who's life choices and concience revolve around whatever 7 men in New York have to say.
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Got my JC cancelled... (at least for now)
by Sanchy inso my wife and i have been in the process of fading for a few months now as per my original post here.
about a week ago, i was browsing some ex-jw facebook groups when i saw a post that linked to the crisis of conscience book.
i said "f@(k it" and hit share on it.. a few hours later, i get a long text letter from my mom (who was a fb friend of mine) telling me the typical "good luck finding friends in the world" and how we have "nothing in common anymore"; basically, it was a 'farewell' text.
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corruptgirl
All or Nothing: hi I'm Sanchy's wife. Yes he's put alot of personal information here... He even has his profile pic so it would be easy for anyone to catch him.... But we were going to a Spanish congregation and trust me, those elders are so lost when it comes to these matters. They are oblivious to the fact that these forums even exist. Most of them don't even know how to use a computer... Sadly.
Anyways we are fading but our entire family is already treating us like we're disfellowshipped.... Especially now. The only one who treats us the same is my mom (she even talks to her brother who was disfellowshipped on a fornication and homosexuality charge). So I'm pretty sure she'll keep taking to her daughter and coming to see her grandkids. And if it weren't for her we'd probably disassociate soon anyways.... At this point we just want to live our lives because if our family doesn't want anything to do with us than what's the point in fading.
I'm still very proud of my husband for taking back some control by telling them they can't just have a JC without taking certain steps. Why give everything to them on a silver platter? He stood up for what was right and tomorrow he'll stand up for what he believes.... Because if he's going to go down, he's going down with dignity... Not grovelling. At the end of the day I know that is what will give him peace of mind. I understand the advise given here to do so is to save a relationship with family but I'm afraid that point had passed. Anyways we'll see what happens tomorrow.
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Keep the meeting going! (even if somebody's dying)
by TimeBandit inthis is a true story.
it's about a sister named henriette venema.
she was a very loyal jw.
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corruptgirl
My grandmother died in the kingdom hall about a decade ago. Before meeting started she was sitting down and literally just closed her eyes and fell sideways. My uncle carried her to the library room and my husband (boyfriend the time) gave her CPR with no success. Ambulance took her and meeting was canceled. The funny thing is that that day, for the first time ever, we saw a few apostates dressed in black in front of the kingdom hall, everyone was talking about it. I'm pretty sure they were scared away by all the commotion and we never saw them again.....