I was here on JWD with Mulan in the early years. I too have been out for 10 years after being raised in the Borg and being a 6th generation JW on both sides of my family. I was a pioneer, married to a MS, Dad has been a PO for at least 15 years, older family members claimed to be of the annointed.
You won't completely ever get over it because family relationships are forever changed and who you are is still made up of your experiences. It took me years to deprogram myself, not so long from the religious aspects but from the ways it affected my personality. You will, however if you want to, move on. As with any trauma, you have to make the decision not to wallow in it. I highly recommend therapy as a way to come to terms with what you have lost and what you need to find in yourself. It does take time. But at some point you gain your strength and confidence back (or maybe get it for the first time!) and you make the conscious choice not to let it affect your daily life.
For the most part my JW life is not something I think about too often. I finally have enough experiences, especially adult ones, on this side of leaving that my JW life is no longer the main compass as to who I am. But yes, it is still there from time to time and that's okay for it to be. I am proud of how my upbringing, my exiting the JWs, and how I struggled to find myself afterwards have molded me into the person I am today. I'm trying to get preggie with my first and know that I will often think about how my parents can make the decision to abandon their daughther, something I can't imagine ever doing. But then you are able to put pure emotion aside and think logically about why they make those choices. In the end I'm left feeling pity for them because they are so blinded and it reminds me to be grateful for my mental, emotional and spiritual freedom. In the early years it is hard to have this logical viewpoint because we carry so much pain from our experience. But as the pain subsides, as you fortify yourself by truly learning who you are and being grateful you have the chance to be that person when you could have remained blind, as you put everything in its perspective...you honestly WILL move on and you WILL be happy.
HUGS to you all who are in the early stages of this process. I remember well the depression, the feeling of drowning in the pain, being absolutely alone. But getting support from JWD and really just going out to live my life helped me so much and it will help you too.