Spiral

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  Are baptized Witnesses that are no longer in the "truth", but were NEVER DF'D, now to be shunned and treated like disfellowshipped ones?

  by Dunedain in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  a relative of mine was telling me, that in his, and a few neighboring congregations, there is a little confusion amongst some of the jw's about this "issue".

  some families are having a hard time about whether certain relatives will be attending certain family functions, because some family members that are no longer in the "truth", might be invited to these functions.

  mind you, these persons were never disfellowshipped.

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  Vidiot5 hours ago

  Spiral - "A lot of faded people are in business, etc., in this town so the JWs talk to them like nothing is changed..."

  Of course that's happening.

  Why else do you think the GB is reminding them not to?

  @Vidiot - yes, and that's the strange.....amusing.... (not sure what to call it) thing about it. From what I understand, officially from the bOrg it's all "don't have association with them" but on the "street" nothing has changed. One elder even let one of these faded/living a bad life work on his house (fine with me but that used to be a "no-no" UGH). And yet from some I keep hearing about how the society is getting more modern and enlightened. It's as if everyone hears the talks and reads the magazines differently, to their own tastes. It really seems a bit bizarre to me.
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  Are baptized Witnesses that are no longer in the "truth", but were NEVER DF'D, now to be shunned and treated like disfellowshipped ones?

  by Dunedain in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  a relative of mine was telling me, that in his, and a few neighboring congregations, there is a little confusion amongst some of the jw's about this "issue".

  some families are having a hard time about whether certain relatives will be attending certain family functions, because some family members that are no longer in the "truth", might be invited to these functions.

  mind you, these persons were never disfellowshipped.

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  It's hard to say, where I am at present it seems to go both ways. A lot of faded people are in business, etc., in this town so the JWs talk to them like nothing is changed. There are a few cranky "die hard" types that won't talk to them but most still do.
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  Sisters as Ministerial Servants?

  by Spoletta in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  my wife has been trying to convince me that the organization is hinting at the possibility of making some older sisters ministerial servants.

  she is awake to a lot of the false doctrines, but is still clinging to the hope that the org may become more progressive in the future.

  anyone else pick up on this?

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  I heard of a time that sisters were allowed to hand out new publications at an assembly..... but under the "guidance" of a brother. (Seriously, what possible guidance could be needed?)

  However...... I do hear some dissatisfaction from some sisters. Let's face it, you can run your own company, your household, hold a good job, and yet at the KH you are treated like a child. But you better go out in service several hours a month.

  This situation probably does cause another effect, that of less and less young sisters becoming JWs, at least in places like the US. ALSO - some sisters are getting really tired getting stuck in unhappy marriages. I have been hearing this complaint from time to time.

  And the wearing of a tea towel or other item on your head is just a joke, lots of sisters think so.

  So, would they throw the sisters a little "treat" (UGH) to keep them happy? IDK......

  Won't be me, in any case.
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  Life is changing for me: no pioneering, got a job!

  by Skepsis in

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  2. friends

  a month ago i decided to register in this board.

  i had decided to step down pioneering but was frightened about the consequences.

  i had finished my university degree some months before (despite disaproval from brothers in my congregation) and i had to choose: continue pioneering and working in jobs with no future or starting a career, working full-time.. i was thinking to postpone the decisiton but... i was fed up with preaching.

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  Go Skepsis Go! Run, be free!

  Really - I have nothing else to add to all the great advice you've been given, but don't waste any more time on the cult. Go live your life. There will be ups, downs, good jobs, possibly bad jobs, family times good and bad..... because that is really the stuff a well lived life is made of. You are young and at the door of the best times of your life. Don't waste it being brainwashed by a bunch of stale people.

  BOC, I'll remember your advice if anyone every bothers to ask me what my issue is, that is just..... amazing. As a atheist, I can express doubts about the existence of God quite sincerely.
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  Walking away will get you D/Fed

  by Drifting Away in

  1. jw
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  someone just told my wife, that those who are just leaving organization or not going anymore will be dfed, has anyone read that or heard of that?

  i have seen nothing of that, and according to jackson at royal commission, we are free to go as we please...

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  I think it must depend on where you are. Actually, I've heard it both ways recently: "The society is getting more strict" and "the society is getting more understanding". If you listen to the meetings it depends on which brother is sounding off.

  So, I've quit worrying about it. The locals will do whatever they want to do and find an article to back it up.

  In this little town so many people have studied/baptised and then walked away if they did any aggressive action along those lines half the town would be involved. Oh, and no one would be able to get a job because the employer might be a "former" brother.

  As usual, "theocratic order" is in confusion!
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  My Dad wants to study with me

  by BlackWolf in

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  2. friends

  so my parents continue to pester me about getting baptized.

  the other day my dad told me that i was old enough to make a decision, and was wondering why i wasn't ready (assembly is in a few weeks) so i told him calmly that i have many doubts and if i were to get baptized it has to be 100 percent my idea.

  he was a little annoyed by this, and now wants to study the "is there a creator that cares about you" book (which is complete bs) with me.

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  So sorry Black Wolf that you are going through this. As a son, and almost 18, I'm sure your Dad is feeling pressure within himself that you need to be baptised to make him look good.

  Alas, sometimes as parents we THINK we are doing something for the benefit of our children, but in fact it is for OUR benefit. I feel this is the case, he just wants to look good in front of the congregation. He has anger issues because he feels he looks bad .....

  But that is HIS problem. You shouldn't get baptised and shouldn't feel pressured. Of course, you do feel pressured. I am hoping you have a plan when you turn 18 (and PLEASE may it include higher education!!!!!)

  The truth of the matter is there's not much you can do to ease your Dad's discomfort, but in the end, you can't mess up your life to make him feel better.

  Do whatever you need to do to survive in some comfort until you can be independent. Your Dad may come around in time, but he may not. But, as I said, it's his problem not yours.

  I am a mother and when Son of Spiral said "No way!" it woke me up (totally). Perhaps it will happen that way with your parent(s). I really hope so, but your choice is YOUR choice.
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  Bro Knorrs Notes RE Disfellowshipping & Two Witness Rule

  by pale.emperor in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  hi guys.

  a fellow ex jw shared this with me.

  haven't time to read them yet (i'm using my phone to go on internet).

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  Yes, the "local needs" talk following (or just preceeding) the DF announcement made it quite clear what the "crime" was. I remember that, even as a child/teenager. I also remember one occasion when the brother giving the talk got a little out of hand with the details...... it really stirred a scandal.

  Ridiculous.
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  The JW governing body are all overweight, creepy looking little men

  by jambon1 in

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  2. friends

  having seen a few of these tv productions and some youtube clips of their assembly parts, how can jehovah's witnesses really take these silly little men seriously?.

  you take one look at them; their overweight, fat little bodies.

  their entirely shabby, overhanging suits.

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  Vidiot - Yes, I just can't figure out how anyone watches it..... really! So painful. Anyone who has observed how religion has controlled the disadvantaged and desperate (which, supposedly, the JWs have) should look at that and cringe. I agree, bOrg TV really exposes what they are.
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  2 questions about Warwick

  by Gorbatchov in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have two questions about warwick.

  see the picture included.

  1) at the other side of the lake you see other buildings.

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  @Vidiot, I guess you are right, how scary is that thought!
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  The JW governing body are all overweight, creepy looking little men

  by jambon1 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  having seen a few of these tv productions and some youtube clips of their assembly parts, how can jehovah's witnesses really take these silly little men seriously?.

  you take one look at them; their overweight, fat little bodies.

  their entirely shabby, overhanging suits.

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  Yes, yes, yes. The first time I saw bOrg TV I was just appalled..... ok, I had been out for quite a while, but the whole effect is fundie-creepy!!! It made me see the bOrg in a whole new, ugly, sticky, creepy light.

  If I hadn't faded/left already, that would have pushed me out the door.