Posts by Tallon

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Shunning vs. Silent Treatment

by raven in

i was thinking this morning in context with the shunning practice- which we all know is a degrading and abusive routine carried out among all brainwashed jw's to those who have sinned/left the org etc.. so with that in mind, how does shunning differ from the silent treatment to jw's?

both are similar in definition... silent treatment.

: an act of completely ignoring a person or thing by resort to silence especially as a means of expressing contempt or disapproval.shun, shunning: persistently avoid, ignore, or reject (someone or something) through antipathy or caution.based on jw teachings which i stupidly accepted back when i was asleep and under mind control, i didn't give it two thoughts on how both acts are related.. i do remember an article in a wt which spoke of how the silent treatment is a harsh and abusive form of discipline, but then they twist it back and claim that shunning is a loving provision?

Tallon

I agree. The Org can spin it anyway they like however, shunning and 'giving the cold shoulder' are one and the same.

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How the Present G.B. Deceives its Followers/Readers....................

by The Searcher in

............into believing that inferred "statements" are actual facts, while never stating anything!

w07 1/1 p. 28 pars.

11,12 "the first resurrection"—now under way!

Tallon

Probably

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What is "marked"?

by LifesNotOver in

jw
friends

i've been curious for a while ... what is it when people type "marked" in their posts?

what does it mean and how does it work?

thanks..

Tallon

Oh dear, I really misunderstood the original post.

Sorry.

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An Un-Shun Day

by Heartsafire in

jw
friends

i was thinking about how many of us here are either being shunned or know someone who is being shunned.

although highly unlikely, it would be wonderful if this horrible practice was completely eliminated.. i know we have the wt victims memorial day in the summer, but does anyone know of any grassroots sort of movement to have a jw break the silence day on shunning?

we could encourage and promote for all jw's who have a df'd friend or family member to contact that person on that day--maybe even with the excuse that they need to check on them.. i know that it won't demolish the shunning policy, but at least a day like this could shed some light on the harmful practice to those outside the jw community as well as providing an unofficial designated day for jws to reach out to those they're shunning.

Tallon

I agree, a great idea.

The 'powers that be' would have an apoplectic!

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What is "marked"?

by LifesNotOver in

jw
friends

i've been curious for a while ... what is it when people type "marked" in their posts?

what does it mean and how does it work?

thanks..

Tallon

Basically you're deemed to be 'bad association' and one to be wary of, or limit your association with the individual.

The same as shunning the individual although to a lesser extent.

PS: I hope that this 'marked' is what is being meant.

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Family contact in terminal illness cases.

by Disassociated Lady 2 in

i had not seen my parents for over 15 years since the funeral of my brother and even then no one spoke to me as i was da.

my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer in 2014 and i was then permitted contact with them.

i now know the reason that this is allowed.

Tallon

@ Disassociated Lady 2

I too am sorry to read of this.

Can't remember the scripture off hand, I think it is in one of the chapters in the book of John however it goes something along the lines of; 'by this all will know that you are my disciples if you have love among yourselves' - or words to that effect.

So in reference to the OP one has to question; where is this love?

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I've been in love with a Jehovah Witness without knowing it for a long time, he hid it from everyone.

by sakurafeathers in

hello :) so i know this guy for almost 6 years, i met him when i was 15 and i felt in love.

now i’m 21 and he is 22. we were in the same class and got along very well and he seemed to like me too.

when i confessed, face to face he haven't admitted and he haven't denied it and he acted like he liked me too but couldn't be with me because reasons bigger than him, but i was too young to understand and he was young to handle the pressure he had.

Tallon

LisaRose's post above ^^^ summed it up well.

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Why is it so hurtful to be shunned? Why object to it?

by stuckinarut2 in

it seems like many feel hurt or saddened by the practice of shunning by witnesses.. yes, when ones who we were close to, perhaps family or ones we thought were close friends choose to follow the warped directions of the society, it may seem hurtful.. but really, our reaction is up to us.

the fact is, these ones have shown that in reality, their love for us was never real or genuine.

no, those relationships were superficial and lacking in substance.

Tallon

Here are my thoughts;

Strong families are the building blocks of strong communities, and strong communities are the building blocks of strong nations.

IMO, I believe that one's identity, self worth and esteem is dependant on a tight family unit. Break up the family and everyone in that family suffers.

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