CAA,
You are going to have to change your name on this board I think. I admire your straightforward approach. It is a shame your parents slander you and then ask you for what they need. If I did what you did down here they would have announced me faster than you could say "mentally diseased". I am really interested in what the new employee and her husbandly owner think about this when it gets out. How could Jehovah had maneuvered this blessing, when you don't serve the congregation (head explodes).
Lets be honest here for a minute. You have a strong personality, and are a lone wolf in alot of ways. At least that is my perception. The brothers kind of asking you what you want to do, shows a small bit of intimidation. You probably intimidate them, and the more affluent brothers get away with a bit traditionally. Trust when my buisness was seriously poppin, I was treated like gold despite the fact I had a couple guys gunning for me and the handwriting was on the wall.
I mean it got on where one of these elders told me I had "pre-apostate thinking", after a 4 hour back room fest, and I slammed my fists on the table so hard out of anger the coward jumped back into the corner of the room. But nope......they didn't go there. Was it because I employed a bunch of JW's and was well liked and respected by others? Yep.
My fam is in, and friends that are good people are in, I need to continue the fade. But I understand your point of view. I am sorry about your family and their attitude.