Definately record it! I wish I'd recorded mine back then. I had a "shepherding" call during which they *shouted* at me and said I had the devil's reasoning.
hmmm
If you don't want DF or DA, I would seek to agree with them sometimes but be very, very non-committal. DO NOT answer the question of whether you consider yourself to be a JW anymore (or lie and say of course you do) and do not answer the question of whether you think the Society is the faithful slave (if you say no its almost like DA)
They might try and be "encouraging" because they've promised your husband, so just go along with it and smile and say you'll do your best but you can't attend meetings right now due to XYZ...
Good luck!
Sirona