I am sorry for the crap you went through, but HAPPY they helped you get out of the CULT!
I had an opportunity that made it easy for me to play the Stumbled Card and my elders were to afraid to really confront me since they had a lot of guilt about what happened.
What happened to you I think is kinda odd. You seem to have a lot of really Asshole elders, more than the usual congregation.
Good luck!