It's informative to see how disparate the age of consent is around the world and how it has changed over history, with ages ranging widely from as young as 10 years old (or even lower) to as high as 20. Although there are some records going back eight hundred years or so, in Western countries they are pretty sketchy before the mid- to late-19th Century.
In traditional societies, the age of consent for a sexual union was a matter for the family to decide, or a tribal custom. In most cases, this coincided with signs of puberty, menarche for a woman, and pubic hair for a man, “but the boundaries remained fluid.” Reliable data for ages at marriage is scarce [See Footnote: 1].
Even now, the age of consent varies by jurisdiction across Europe. The ages of consent are currently set between 14 and 18. The vast majority of countries set their ages in the range of 14 to 16; only three countries, Cyprus (17), Ireland (17), Turkey (18) do not fit into this pattern (Ages of consent in Europe).
Over the course of American history, the most commonly observed age of consent was 10 years. As late as 1880, 37 states had an age of consent of 10 years while 10 states kept an age of consent at 12, and Delaware maintained its age of consent at seven years, having lowered it from 10 in 1871 [See Footnotes: 2 & 3]. Most of the higher age ranges that we see currently came about during the early 20th Century.
Also, many jurisdictions have close-in-age exemptions, or so-called "Romeo & Juliet" laws. For instance, in Canada, the age of consent is 16, but there are two close-in-age exemptions: sex with minors aged 14–15 is permitted if the partner is less than five years older, and sex with minors aged 12–13 is permitted if the partner is less than two years older [See Footnote: 4].
In the United States, there exist several federal statutes related to protecting minors from sexual predators, but none of them imposes an age limit on sexual acts. Each U.S. state has its own age of consent, as does the District of Columbia. As of August 1, 2018, the age of consent in each state in the United States was either 16, 17, or 18 years of age, with the most common age of consent being 16 years of age. About half of the states have a Close-In-Age Exemption [See Footnotes: 5].
It's hard to logically and equitably reconcile why sexual activity between two willing and consenting individuals would be legal in Alabama or Georgia, but the exact same act would be illegal in Florida—a state which borders both of those other states. Two couples could engage in the exact same sexual activity literally feet way from each other on opposite sides of the state line and have drastically different legal outcomes. In the first two states, they are fine; But in Florida, someone's going to jail. Does that make sense to you? Because it doesn't to me.
In contrast, the close in age exceptions does make sense in certain, specific situations—situations which are easily understood. Consider these two very different scenarios to illustrate the point:
- Two young adults in living in Georgia and who have know each other for awhile have begun a romantic relationship. Both sets of parents know each other and approve of their children's relationship. As it turns out, their birthdays are just one day apart. On the day the older one turns 16, they have consensual sex for the first time. The younger one is still less than 24 hours away from their 16th birthday, so technically the older one has committed statutory rape—although neither of them would think of their experience that way. On the contrary, they both believe they are very much in love with each other. Nevertheless, according to the Georgia Penal Code § 16-6-3, the older one could possibly be sentenced to 1 to 20 years in prison. Does that really make sense?
- Compare that to a more egregious situation where a 50-year-old individual in a position of authority and trust who over time psychologically grooms, emotionally manipulates and then sexually abuses a young, prepubescent and naive child, even threatening and intimidating that child to maintain their silence.
Of course, these are two very different scenarios—that's the point. They would be understood that way and treated that way by any reasonable person.
I doubt that very many people, if any, would think that these two extremely different hypothetical examples should be treated the same. That is the point that extreme examples can clearly elucidate. The second example is clearly a gross and heinous crime and the perpetrator should be severely punished. In the first example, most people would probably be totally understanding and just hope our two young lovers practiced safe-sex. (Religious fundamentalists would disagree of course and would almost certainly have a different, harsher and more "Puritanical" view. But those of us living in the 21st Century would not.)
Reasonable people can easily see the differences between extreme cases. Yet things quickly get more complicated as we move from hypothetical extremes to the more common real-life acts which are often complex and frequently obscured in moral shades of gray.
If we can't even agree on what is the appropriate age of consent, we will likely never come to agreement on how to handle those morally muddy areas. Nevertheless, it is good to examine the issues with a clear mind absent outdated religious mores and informed by our historical and cultural context, biological facts and sound logical reasoning.
Works Cited:
2. Purity Congress Meets, The New York Times, 15 October 1895.
3. Children & Youth in History, University of Missouri-Kansas City.
4. "Canada's age of consent raised by 2 years". CBC News. 1 May 2008.
5."Age of Consent across the United States". AgeOfConsent.net. Retrieved 1 August 2018.
6. Sandra Norman-Eady, Sandra. Statutory Rape Laws by State. 14 April 2003. OLR Research Report.