jwundubbed: We learned to be abusers. You don't stop being an abuser until you put in the time and effort to stop being an abuser.
I really appreciate your response and comments. The other side of the abusing coin is the victim mentality. Those are two of many cult cultivated (did you see what I did there?) traits and behaviors which take much work to identify and overcome.
Your next comment is also insightful:
And pointing out other abusers doesn't make you less of one. You still have to do the time and work of changing your behaviors.
I'm always amazed at how easy it is to see negative, dysfunctional behaviors in other people and hard it is to see it in ourselves.
We all need mirrors ... that and the desire and courage to see the truth about ourselves. In my experience, most people don't want to know.