Posts by jp1692

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Charging $150 To Tell Your Stories

by Bangalore in

jw
friends

https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/how-to-escape-from-jehovah-s-witnesses-religion#/.

for $150: collaboration with the backer so that their story of successfully escaping an abusive belief system (300 words max) features along with others in the final pages of how to escape from jehovah's witnesses.

the text will be written by the author but will include a minimum of one quote worded by the backer.

jp1692

jwundubbed, your comments reminded me of something I'd previously written on this point:

Many people that leave a cult are emotionally stunted cases of arrested development, particularly those that are born into it. Lawrence Wright, journalist and author of Going Clear: Scientology, Hollywood, and the Prison of Belief (2013) wrote, “a lot of former cult members are ‘living in the shadows’,” that is they have never really learned to have a full and complete life outside of the cult. No longer in the cult and not either in the larger world, they have a “shadowed” existence midway between the two worlds. We need to find a way to put an end to the pain that these people are suffering and enable them to live to their fullest potential.

Expounding on this idea, Mike Rinder, a former senior executive of the Church of Scientology, commented:

It's a lot of work to recover from leaving a cult, so much so that some people never fully recover. They spend their whole life "living in the shadows," never really having the life they could and should have.

These people need help to come out of the shadows. We can do that by shining a light, a bright light, on the dysfunctional beliefs which keep them confined to living on the fringes of life.

[Word Count: 206 words ... LOL]

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Charging $150 To Tell Your Stories

by Bangalore in

jw
friends

https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/how-to-escape-from-jehovah-s-witnesses-religion#/.

for $150: collaboration with the backer so that their story of successfully escaping an abusive belief system (300 words max) features along with others in the final pages of how to escape from jehovah's witnesses.

the text will be written by the author but will include a minimum of one quote worded by the backer.

jp1692

jwundubbed: We learned to be abusers. You don't stop being an abuser until you put in the time and effort to stop being an abuser.

I really appreciate your response and comments. The other side of the abusing coin is the victim mentality. Those are two of many cult cultivated (did you see what I did there?) traits and behaviors which take much work to identify and overcome.

Your next comment is also insightful:

And pointing out other abusers doesn't make you less of one. You still have to do the time and work of changing your behaviors.

I'm always amazed at how easy it is to see negative, dysfunctional behaviors in other people and hard it is to see it in ourselves.

We all need mirrors ... that and the desire and courage to see the truth about ourselves. In my experience, most people don't want to know.

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Things You Still Agree With The JWs On

by Fred Franztone in

aside from obvious things that most people agree on, like theft being wrong and the importance of family, i can't think of a single thing i agree with the jws on, nothing that's specific to their religion anyway.

do you have any?.

jp1692

178

Charging $150 To Tell Your Stories

by Bangalore in

jw
friends

https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/how-to-escape-from-jehovah-s-witnesses-religion#/.

for $150: collaboration with the backer so that their story of successfully escaping an abusive belief system (300 words max) features along with others in the final pages of how to escape from jehovah's witnesses.

the text will be written by the author but will include a minimum of one quote worded by the backer.

jp1692

ScenicViewer: This is definitely off topic, but it struck me just how narcissistic members of the GB are. It all fits, especially the last remark about having an exaggerated sense of superiority.

Actually, I don't think it's off topic at all.

Many people leave the organization known as Jehovah's Witnesses (or any other cult for that matter), and they do so for a variety of reasons.

But most don't do the hard work to eliminate the cult-indoctrinated negative personality traits which they acquired as a part of their association with the cult.

Of course many people have numerous negative personality traits without ever being part of a formal cult, but the whole cult experience can both create personality defects that were not native in the individual as well as magnify those that were.

It takes both time and hard work to recover from being in an abusive relationship of any kind.

It's telling that Evan's book title focuses on "escaping" from the religion and not recovering from it. Of course the only barriers to leaving are psychological, but those "bars" can be as effective as the physical kind until a person learns to recognize them for what they are. Once we do, then the recovery can begin.

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Charging $150 To Tell Your Stories

by Bangalore in

jw
friends

https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/how-to-escape-from-jehovah-s-witnesses-religion#/.

for $150: collaboration with the backer so that their story of successfully escaping an abusive belief system (300 words max) features along with others in the final pages of how to escape from jehovah's witnesses.

the text will be written by the author but will include a minimum of one quote worded by the backer.

jp1692

Dub: The only place where I got no response was at jwsurvey.

Yep. That sounds about right.

Any ex- or want-to-be exJW can tell their story here for free. AND they’ll have a much larger, more appreciative and sympathetic audience.

But wait, there’s more: you also get immediate feedback! No extra charge.

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Charging $150 To Tell Your Stories

by Bangalore in

jw
friends

https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/how-to-escape-from-jehovah-s-witnesses-religion#/.

for $150: collaboration with the backer so that their story of successfully escaping an abusive belief system (300 words max) features along with others in the final pages of how to escape from jehovah's witnesses.

the text will be written by the author but will include a minimum of one quote worded by the backer.

jp1692

For some activists, it’s all about the cause. For others, they are the cause.

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Do they officially give marking talks without telling the one marked?

by Wakanda in

my pimi (physically in, mentally in) friend believes she was marked without them telling her.

i believe her, and she has been making work for the elders.

she is a pain in their arse, and they are a pain in hers, which is great.

jp1692

I was an elder for over two decades in several congregations with “friends” in many more. This question came up from time-to-time.

The subject(s) of a “marking talk” would NEVER be told about it before or after. If they were bold enough to ask if it was about them, the usual answer would be something like, “Why do you ask? Did it seem to be about you?”

And yet the talk had to be specific enough so that—without actually naming names—everyone in the congregation would know exactly who it was about and why without leaving any doubts.

It’s such a humiliating and manipulative way to publicly shame a person leaving them with absolutely no dignity or chance to defend themselves or correct any false accusations.

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Royal Australian Commission - Recomendations for Jehovahs Witnesses

by curiousconfused in

the report is finally out.......... ————————.

recommendations to the jehovah’s witness organisation.

recommendation 16.27. the jehovah’s witness organisation should abandon its application of the two-witness rule in cases involving complaints of child sexual abuse.. recommendation 16.28. the jehovah’s witness organisation on should revise its policies so that women are involved in processes related to invesation and determining allegations of child sexual abuse.. recommendation 16.29. the jehovah’s witness organisation should no longer require its members to shun those who disassociate from the organisation in cases where the reason for disassocia on is related to a person being a victim of child sexual abuse..

jp1692

Well, that's soft and gentle. No teeth anywhere to be seen.

I predict absolutely nothing will change as a result of this. Nothing.

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Punctuation within and without quotation marks

by compound complex in

http://www.grammarbook.com/punctuation/quotes.asp .

would someone please make this link clickable?.

cc.

jp1692

There IS prescriptive and descriptive ways of viewing grammar ... and politics and religion too, I suppose!

I'm definitely a descriptivist.

Here's another article I think you'll enjoy by one of my favorite language mavens, Harvard professor of psychology and linguist, Steven Pinker:

Many of the alleged rules of writing are actually superstitions

For your edification I have excerpted a juicy tidbit:

Though bad writing has always been with us, the rules of correct usage are the smallest part of the problem. Any competent copy editor can turn a passage that is turgid, opaque, and filled with grammatical errors into a passage that is turgid, opaque, and free of grammatical errors. Rules of usage are well worth mastering, but they pale in importance behind principles of clarity, style, coherence, and consideration for the reader.

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Romans 2:21,22 Matthew 23:3 and the hypocrsity of the November 2017 Broadcast!

by stuckinarut2 in

hypocrites!

i know we have spoken of this before, but in light of the appaling november 2017 jwdotorg broadcast, these scriptures just need to be highlighted!.

please re-read them, and tell me if they don't apply to the society !?!.

jp1692

ttdtt: All you have to do is Google the quotes to find them in their original document, and see for your self,

Which quotes are those?