Posts by jp1692

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A Question for Born-ins Who Had a Parent Leave the Cult Before They Did

by jp1692 in

question: have any of you that are now exjws had a parent leave the religion before you, and you shunned them because of that?

if so—and while you were still in the cult—what, if anything, could your parent have done to reach your heart and begin a reconciliation?

it’s been almost ten years since i left the religion and my two sons continue to shun me and rebuff all efforts i make to reconcile.

jp1692

It was nice to wake up this morning and see all the different responses to my late-night (for me) post.

Thank you!

It is interesting—although not particularly surprising—to see how varied your differing responses are. And even though some of the advice offered conflicts with that suggested by others, there is certainly some value and merit in everything that all of you have written. There really is no “right answer.”

This well illustrates the reality of just how difficult it is to deal with the damage done and the broken relationships caused by this cult, it’s policies and practices.

You’ve all given me much to think about.

Again, thanks!

jp

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A Question for Born-ins Who Had a Parent Leave the Cult Before They Did

by jp1692 in

question: have any of you that are now exjws had a parent leave the religion before you, and you shunned them because of that?

if so—and while you were still in the cult—what, if anything, could your parent have done to reach your heart and begin a reconciliation?

it’s been almost ten years since i left the religion and my two sons continue to shun me and rebuff all efforts i make to reconcile.

jp1692

QUESTION: Have any of you that are now exJWs had a parent leave the religion before you, and you shunned them because of that?

If so—and while you were still in the cult—what, if anything, could your parent have done to reach your heart and begin a reconciliation?

I’m asking for myself. It’s been almost ten years since I left the religion and my two sons continue to shun me and rebuff all efforts I make to reconcile.

In the last decade I’ve done everything I can think of to maintain a relationship with them, but all to no avail. I know that I can’t understand how my leaving feels from their perspective no matter how much it try.

I am trying to understand how they feel and see if there is something I’m missing that could possibly make a difference.

Thanks in advance for your help!

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Is White Nationalism A Major Problem In Your Opinion?

by minimus in

jw
friends

after seeing the atrocity in new zealand, do you think white nationalism is a major issue affecting you or where you live?.

somebody already called out chelseaclinton, blaming her for the attack!

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jp1692

Absolutely, as are any and all extremist views and ideologies—whether political, religious, social or ethnic.

One has only to look objectively at the results of extremist views of ANY type to see that they should be condemned. All of them.

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How are you all.

by Holden Caufield in

jw
friends

how is everybody?.

jp1692

I’m good. Thanks for asking. You?

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Ending Bible Study

by Maria Nieves in

i have been studying with jehovah's witnesses for approximately two years.

initially, i liked the studies and felt that i was growing closer to god.

however, as the studies progressed, they seemed to become increasingly negative and i did not like what i was being taught.

jp1692

Here's a great thread on the topic of boundaries:

Relationship Issues: Boundaries, Freedom of Choice and Codependency

Enjoy!

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Awake No. 2 2019 - Way To Destroy Your Childrens Hopes And Dreams Watchtower!

by pale.emperor in

not that i spend much time on the cult's website, but i like to skim through their latest propaganda to make sure i'm up to date with their nuttiness.

(and when i say skim, i mean just that.

the wafer thin, dumbed down content can be read in like 2 mins flat).. i just had to share my thoughts on the above piece of trash.. no.

jp1692

Sparky: LISTEN, OBEY and be BLESSED.

jp1692: LISTEN, OBEY and be BLESSED: It's a cult!

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When you were an active JW, did you ever have dealings with a pyramid scheme?

by Tameria2001 in

i'm not sure why this memory popped up, and i was wondering if any others, when they were still active jw had dealings with a pyramid scheme involving other witnesses in the organization?

at the time it was 1993, and my husband and i were still newlyweds.

once in a while, we would attend a neighboring congregation because that was where he grew up, and some of his family was still attending there at the time.

jp1692

JWs and MLMs are an interesting sociological phenomenon.

You have the least educated group of people in the country (by religious affiliation) who are kept busy during all, or most, of their free time with “the ministry,” both of a which make it difficult for the majority of JWs to earn a decent living. So naturally they are ripe for this kind of scam because they need to earn more than they do, and they’re not educated enough to recognize the futility of any “get-rich-quick” schemes.

But it gets better. JWs are not supposed to “conduct business” at the Kingdom Hall and are discouraged from having relationships with “worldly people.” So who will be their customers?

JWs are easy targets for getting involved in questionable business dealings which have little chance to succeed.

It’s just a recipe for frustration!

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Awake No. 2 2019 - Way To Destroy Your Childrens Hopes And Dreams Watchtower!

by pale.emperor in

not that i spend much time on the cult's website, but i like to skim through their latest propaganda to make sure i'm up to date with their nuttiness.

(and when i say skim, i mean just that.

the wafer thin, dumbed down content can be read in like 2 mins flat).. i just had to share my thoughts on the above piece of trash.. no.

jp1692

Encourage your child to apologize quickly. Help your child to see where he is wrong and to acknowledge it.

Do they mean just like the Governing Body does whenever they make a mistake? Oh, they never, ever admit to being wrong about anything. Goddamned hypocrites!

Let’s review: It’s a cult!

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Ending Bible Study

by Maria Nieves in

i have been studying with jehovah's witnesses for approximately two years.

initially, i liked the studies and felt that i was growing closer to god.

however, as the studies progressed, they seemed to become increasingly negative and i did not like what i was being taught.

jp1692

Maria Nieves: I no longer believe the truth to be the truth.

jp1692: I no longer believe that Jehovah’s Witnesses are a positive, healthy—or even benign—religious organization.

There. I fixed it for you.

Lets review: It’s a cult!

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Ending Bible Study

by Maria Nieves in

i have been studying with jehovah's witnesses for approximately two years.

initially, i liked the studies and felt that i was growing closer to god.

however, as the studies progressed, they seemed to become increasingly negative and i did not like what i was being taught.

jp1692

There’s a good reason that you “fear the repercussions of ending the study.” That’s because Jehovah’s Witnesses are a high-control, authoritarian group. The slang term for this is: cult.

The fear you are feeling is a major red-flag you should not ignore. But realize this, you have become indoctrinated to be afraid to leave, but there is really nothing the JWs can do to you except shun you.

Do yourself a favor and just end the study, and quit going to the Kingdom Hall. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your reasons. Take back the control over your life that you have gradually been relinquishing and re-establish appropriate personal boundaries.

Let’s review: It’s a cult!