The last time I got a visit from local elders (and elderettes) was really by accident about 4 years ago now at my mom's house. I think I posted here about it. Basically they were scared to death of me. They didn't know what to say or how to act. I was there taking care of mom after a major surgery. They apparently thought that I wouldn't care for my mom, being an evil worldy person now. But I greeted them courteously, offered coffee, cake, anything I could do to make them feel welcome. When they asked me when I would return to the KH, I simply smiled and said "never. but thanks for your warm invitation" The look on their faces was to die for! Kill em with kindness, that's what I live by !
Soledad
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September km- They're coming for you
by sspo in.
in sept. km under announcements, loving provision from jehovah, elders are being reminded to make the yearly visit to all those that have been df or da.. make sure you have some good coffee or a six pack for them.. treat them kindly and with respect, the gb is very much interested in all those that they kicked out.
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Slaying the Demons in My Basement Part One
by Fleur inever since we moved into this place almost eight years ago, there have been demons in my basement.
no, not those kinds of demons.
not the smurf-controlling, videogame-inhabiting and musically-backmasked, legendarily-jw-feared sort of demons.
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Soledad
Thank you Essie for sharing that!
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WWWW
by moomanchu inwitnesses with world weight.
as a witness did you feel like you had the weight of the world on you?.
a start of a list of things that made me feel like i had the weight of the world on my back.. i'm part of an exclusive true religon that is speaking for god himself, i must obey.
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Soledad
Yes, I did feel the weight of the world on me. It was worse when, say on Saturday mornings that I didn't feel like getting up to go preaching. I would start chastising myself, saying things like I'll be blood-guilty if I don't go and how would that look before Jehovah, etc. I was constantly worried about my behaviour. I was way too conscious of my role as a JW teenager and as a woman. No wonder I was depressed and sick all the time!
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Not enough words to tell you about it.
by Sparkplug inso at work i am a pretty chicken kind of person as far as the rules.
i usually walk the line and follow all of the code of business conduct things put upon me.
well last month the declared a surplus at my job.
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Soledad
Sparkplug
What can I tell you.....your work situation describes many many situations that I have been in myself, even now. What I am referring to is when you see your collegues breaking the rules or seemingly getting away with things that you know are wrong.
I have learned from experience two valuable things: a) it's not all that it appears. How would you know that what they are doing is not being addressed at some level? And if it isn't then, b) dont concern yourself with what others are doing. I know that hypocrisy bothers you, it bothers us all (that is why many of us left the WT). But why stress yourself over it? Worry about yourself. Brush up on your skills, dust off the resume and move on! EFF them!! You get what I'm saying?
Good luck to you!
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What's the worst dish your mother ever made you eat?
by mrsjones5 inyep folks this is a fluff topic .
mine is yellow squash with onions.
it's a truely hideous dish.
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Soledad
I can' t really think of anything really vile that either my mom or dad made me eat. There were plenty of dishes that I didn't care for (such as the liver with onions, cod fish stew, chickpeas, cow tongue) but its not like I'm traumatized from it. I would eat as much as I could and that was that. Funny, I actually like cow tongue and chickpeas now!
I saw that someone here posted and article on souse----now that I can't stand!!
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A question for all those who were a witness in NY........................
by vitty infor someone who lived in the uk, brooklan was like rome is to a catholic.
we all had strange ideas to what it was like.. so how was it for you who live in ny.
did it "feel" more spiritual, cos the hq where there or did you take it for granted?.
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Soledad
I would agree with IC in that the level of activity has decreased markedly, say in the last 10 years or so.
The other day I spotted a couple doing street work in front of BBQ on W 23rd street. I looked straight at them and even glanced at their magazines for a couple of seconds. It was like I was trying to say to them "come talk to me" but neither one even looked up at me. Years ago they would have walked right up to me or followed me and tried to have placed those magazines. I notice that only recent JWs (as in recent immigrants) are more audacious in this regard.
It's also ironic where they happened to be standing-----that BBQ is a known meetup place for exJWs!! I should have invited them to one of OUR meetings!!
As far as the average JWs view on Brooklyn, I would say yes, in my congregation at least Brooklyn was viewed like the Vatican. Bethelites were always present in our congregation and people would fall all over themselves. The one time we visited Brooklyn it was a huge pilgrimage, and people wore their best clothes, new shoes and bags, the works. But it was like that also for the memorial, DAs and CAs, etc.
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Keith Reddin's "Brutality of Fact" playing in NYC on Jehovah's Witnesses
by Dogpatch inwant to go see a play on jws and shunning in new york city?
support jeffrey and his work, and you can even go for free!.
randy.
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Soledad
I would love to see this! The theatre is not far from me.
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Has anybody successfully quit using caffeine altogether?
by DanTheMan inmy anxiety and stress levels are really bad lately.
i think i'd be doing myself a favor to quit caffeine, as it has become a real catch-22 for me, where i need it to stay awake, but it causes me to lose sleep, so i need more of it to stay awake, etc.. i've learned through experience that i'm very sensitive to any sort of chemical substance that affects neurotransmitter flow, and, given my general propensity towards depression/anxiety/paranoia/add, i think that at least one thing i could do to give me a calmer, more stable neurotransmitter mix would be to eliminate caffeine.
i've tried to reduce before, and i've found that i just start making excuses to have a little more, a little more, until i'm right back where i started.. so, i'm just wondering if anybody else has had a similar experience where they felt the need to not just reduce but eliminate caffeine altogether, and if so, how did it go, did it help, how long has it been, etc.
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Soledad
GOOD GOD in heaven if I am ever forced to give up coffee!! Not happenin! My day doesn't officially start without it......even if it's at 5pm!! (I work a night shift now).
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Who else loves walking?
by JH in.
gee, i walked about 15 km or 10 miles yesterday, and about 10 km today or 6 miles.. next time i go for a walk, i'll walk 7 times around the kingdom hall.
maybe it will crumble.......
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Soledad
Next time I go for a walk, I'll walk 7 times around the Kingdom hall. Maybe it will crumble.
Oh I was going to suggest that!! Beat me to it!
I walk a lot, partially cause I have no choice!! Living in a big city it's very impractical to have a car. I had one when I first moved and I spent a lot of time and money at the tow pound. No more cars for me!
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Did you forget how to make friends?
by AK - Jeff insimon raised an interesting point in my last thread about so many leaving the forum - his point was that the ideal situation would be to move on and leave forums like this one in the past at some point.
agreed.
seems as though cult victims in general - and witnesses in particular - have been taught to divest oneself of the social tangibles needed to make friends and move on.
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Soledad
They must work through their anger at the JWs' betrayal of their trust, and they must overcome their ingrained perception of the outside world as evil. That's a big double-whammy when trying to make new friends.
And that's doubly hard when you were born and raised as a JW and know nothing else. I can now say that I am finally at a point where I can really *see* the world and realize that it's not bad and that we are all the same. I no longer judge people like I used to.