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  Writing private letters to the Society.

  by spectromize in

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  2. bible

  for anyone who's ever written something of a private nature or asked clarification on certain beliefs have you ever had the unfortunate experience of the elders calling you in the back room or a sheperding call ?.

  the reason i bring this out is that newer brothers or sisters don't know that everytime you write the society the society sends a copy of your letter to your local cong.

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  spectromize

  Dear Waiting,

  You are not the only one, I've just posted my experience. Take courage you'll find many understand.
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  Something you should know about child molestation.

  by spectromize in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  i realize that this is a very disturbing topic so i would encourage some of you before i get into my post not to read it if it bothers you.

  this post has to do with me and how it happened to me as a young child.

  if i can save one child from being a victim of this, then this will have been worth it.. it's not easy for me to talk about this as this is very personal stuff.

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  spectromize

  I realize that this is a very disturbing topic so I would encourage some of you before I get into my post not to read it if it bothers you. This post has to do with me and how it happened to me as a young child. If I can save one child from being a victim of this, then this will have been worth it.

  It's not easy for me to talk about this as this is very personal stuff. But somewhere down the line when you get older you learn to talk about it and accept that this was never your fault.

  You see when I was a young boy, my parents were very industrious people. They both had a full-time jobs and I would end up being babysit by my grandmother. My grandmother had many kids, in fact she had 18 of them. Being raised a catholic it was encouraged back then to have big families. It was good for church membership and the donation plate.

  So you see I come from a big family with lots of uncles and aunts. Unfortunately it was when my mom was gone to work and I had to be babysit by my grandma that all of this happened. One of my uncles use to lure me as a young child. He would start out by isolating me and inviting me in the garage to play pool with him. Then he would take advantage of me.

  This went on for some time till my mom stopped work and was able to stay at home with myself and my brothers and sisters. Thank God for that.

  One thing my mom observed from me after picking me up from grandma and she later told me later on in life, is that I was a very clingy child and would hold her and not let her out of my sight when she would pick me up from my grandmother. I was a very insecure child and very emotional.

  I was to afraid to tell anyone as my uncle would threatened me if I told anyone about what he was doing to me.

  Now my uncle never was or been a JW. I didn't start studying and become a JW till my teens. But what he did to me was no excuse.

  One day I confided to one of my relative who is close to me about what had happened and my relative could hardly believe it. It was suggested that I approach my uncle and talk to him. Well when I tried that, he threw me out of his house and I have my relative as a witness as we both were there.

  Never did I hear back from my uncle but I did hear back from his wife and was told by her. " It doesn't matter what happened back then, my husband is a good husband."

  Now one thing I found about about my uncle later on in life is that I wasn't the only one that was molested by him. I also have 2 cousins that I'm aware of, and everything that I know of them matches the same patterns and places that my uncle use to carry on his deviousness.

  I can honestly say that how it affected me later on in life was with low self esteem, lots of guilt and you don't know why, problem with male authority.

  So to conclude I want to say that by the time a child molester gets known and caught, it will not have been his first time to molest a child.

  So I hope you don't think I'm a basket case because of mentioning this about me because I'm not, I've worked hard at overcoming my problems and have a comfortable level of peace. I just wanted to tell you that child molestation can happen in the org. and does happen as we have seen a post on this board already, except it seems the brothers and sisters take the view that we should never talk about it and want it brushed under the rug.

  So I just want to say to you parents to watch over your little children, because it is an inheritance from Jehovah and pray that swift justice come upon those who abuse their authority.
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  About posting your picture be careful!

  by spectromize in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  simon i'm sorry i don't mean to rain on your parade but you have to remember the society and your local elders watch for stuff like that.

  this is a very liberal board as far as discussions go and forever thankful for that, but you have to be careful because you could face a jd meeting.

  i'm sure everyone is well aware that some posts on this board just wouldn't go over to well with the society.

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  Simon I'm sorry I don't mean to rain on your parade but you have to remember the society and your local elders watch for stuff like that. This is a very liberal board as far as discussions go and forever thankful for that, but you have to be careful because you could face a JD meeting. I'm sure everyone is well aware that some posts on this board just wouldn't go over to well with the society. Personally I have no problem with diffrent ones expressing themselves, I just wouldn't want to see anyone in trouble because of it. I'm sure you understand.
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  I AM SOOOOOOOOO HAPPY

  by overthehillgrandma in

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  i am so happy to of found this place..wowowowow i can share my feelings (and my useually silent thoughts) without feeling foolish, and no one really knows me so no one can go "tell".....yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.

  oh did i tell ya i was soooooooooo happy!!!!!!

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  spectromize

  Welcome Grandma,

  Nice of you to be here and looking forward to your posts!
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  resigning...

  by mesaluna in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  any suggestion on how to resign as a jw?.

  what would you say in your registration letter?.

  what i wanna do is resign with no question ask.

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  spectromize

  Dear Meseluna,

  Don't play the game, there is no need to resign. You have to understand the stigma that will be attached to you and the gossip that will go on in your cong. as far as a D.A. letter. The brothers and sisters won't show mercy or understand because they have been conditioned this way. What you need to do if you disagree with the society just simply let no one know your business. You don't want to lose your family, friends or others you care about. Because wants you've cut off the lines of communication as it will certainly happen to you if you send a D.A letter, you want to help see diffrent ones how hateful this practice is of shunning while you might have a problem accepting diffrent things for the society. By all means don't get trapped into playing this game. Just go away quietly and keep silence then nobody can label you and you will have more peace.
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  I Need advice on Women.

  by spectromize in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  okay, here is a few questions concerning women that i would like a little help with.. supposing your trying to get some lady's attention because your interested in her, what is a good approach without sounding to cheesy?

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  another question is how do you know and what are the indications that the girl is taking interest in you, and what are the indications she wants you to take a hike?

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  spectromize

  Frenchy,

  It's their nature, they are concerned about their hearts being conquered for once you've conquered them they are your's.
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  I Need advice on Women.

  by spectromize in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  okay, here is a few questions concerning women that i would like a little help with.. supposing your trying to get some lady's attention because your interested in her, what is a good approach without sounding to cheesy?

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  another question is how do you know and what are the indications that the girl is taking interest in you, and what are the indications she wants you to take a hike?

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  Dear Waiting,

  I have no problem with dancing. In fact I get right in the party when I get going. I even do the kareoke thing wants in a while and actually had beer bought for me and song requests from complete strangers. I don't think they were taking pity on me either, well ok the odd time I goofed on a song.
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  Reply to Redhorsewoman on prayer.

  by spectromize in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  hi redhw,.

  i've been having a few problems with my computer so anyways i thought i'd reply to you in a new thread.. you said:" spectromize, i disagree with your assertion that because someone is not a jw, their prayers must therefore be answered by satan.".

  i never asserted or even said that.

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  spectromize

  It's ok sweetheart Redhw,

  I enjoy a little bit of contoversy at times. Feel free to express yourself anytime.
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  Writing private letters to the Society.

  by spectromize in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  for anyone who's ever written something of a private nature or asked clarification on certain beliefs have you ever had the unfortunate experience of the elders calling you in the back room or a sheperding call ?.

  the reason i bring this out is that newer brothers or sisters don't know that everytime you write the society the society sends a copy of your letter to your local cong.

  elders.

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  spectromize

  Dear Waiting,

  Don't give up on your child, very few people understand the nature and the emotional problems that child molestation could cause an individual. I know I speak from experience.
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  Mediator for Great Crowd?

  by waiting in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  sorry no scriptures are quoted, i'm at work - but for all you that are diligent, i'm the owner and i can be on the web when i feel like it!.

  i have been reading, a lot.

  again, why do we pray through jesus, if he is not our mediator?

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  spectromize

  Excellent points Waiting, very good arguments!