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  JW's- Have they lost their ability to think?

  by Vitameatavegamin in

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  i seriously ask this question in light of some ridiculous experiences i have had in recent times.

  a while back,a freind of mine purchased a new home.

  a housewarming party was planned for her.

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  Stacey

  I never said YOU lived a double life. Just many jdubs do. Your posts make me think of people who do.
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  JW's- Have they lost their ability to think?

  by Vitameatavegamin in

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  i seriously ask this question in light of some ridiculous experiences i have had in recent times.

  a while back,a freind of mine purchased a new home.

  a housewarming party was planned for her.

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  Stacey

  I think we all know Jdubs like this. They are out there everywhere. Getting away with the little things. Let them. Geesh, I dont know how people can do the double life thing. Didn't work for me. I'd rather be completely myself than try to look good on both sides of the fence. Screw that. [>:(]

  Stacey
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  JW's- Have they lost their ability to think?

  by Vitameatavegamin in

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  i seriously ask this question in light of some ridiculous experiences i have had in recent times.

  a while back,a freind of mine purchased a new home.

  a housewarming party was planned for her.

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  Stacey

  The Jdubs that I dislike the most are the ones that live double lives that brag about being able to get away with it. While most slave for the organization with black and white, they get away with GREY. They can have their cake and eat it too. They consider themselves better because they can get away with having a personality, yet still be a jdub. I think many who think this way look down on others even in their own congregations, as following sheep. Why? Because they are unique and can think apart. What? Think apart? Would that not be independent thinking? Or wait, would that not be hypocrisy?

  Hmmmmmmmmm.

  Sad really....
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  Post WTBTS Life

  by Angst in

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  i have been inactive for about three and a half years now and just recently after making some big changes in my life have i made a commitment not to return to the "organization".

  for quite awhile now i've just felt like i was apathetic towards religion.

  now i'm disgusted by religion, religious dogma, and fanaticism.. one thing that i've noticed in those i deal with that are ex-witnesses is that many tend to swing the exact opposite direction once they leave.

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  Stacey

  Angst,

  Everyone needs to make their own decisions in life. As a JW most of us did not have any choices. There was one way, or Satan's way.

  Not every ex-jw who leaves becomes "immoral". In fact, most of them that I know live similar lives as they did before, they just are no longer JWs. I dont know where you get the idea that most people go crazy with sex, drugs, and "bad" things when they leave. Just because you might still think celebrating holidays is "wrong" does not mean it's true. Many ex-JWs are no longer religious and "celebrate" the holidays for family purposes. Everyone must do what they feel is right for themselves. Just because someone doesn't do it the way you do it, doesn't mean it's wrong.

  Getting past the judgementalism is the hardest part. If the JWs did anything for me it was to make me very accepting of people in their place in life. It's called tollerance and acceptance.

  Good luck in figuring things out.

  Stacey
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  Coming to Toronto this month? Sign in here!

  by peterstride in

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  hey all,.

  just to get an idea as to how many people are coming to toronto for the next apostofest, in case i need to make reservations at various places...all because the toronto international film festival will be taking place on the same weekend!

  when you let me know if you're coming, also state on which day you'll be arriving and which day you'll be departing.. thanks, .

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  Stacey

  I'll be there. Airline tickets are purchased, hotel reservations are made. And I even have a ride from the airport. :D

  Looking forward to meeting all of you.

  Stacey from California
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  Mothers Rules for Everlasting Life

  by Stacey in

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  just a little something that i wrote for a writing class that i was taking last year.

  and really, they are not my rules.

  therefore we must follow what the organization says and not celebrate our birthday.

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  Stacey

  ARoarer,

  As an adult, I do look back on my childhood. It was a hard time. My mother was very leniant with me also. So this story is not completely 100% true. I was allowed to have some worldly friends. And my mom was so good to me, and treated me very well. I know that she felt bad about me not being like the other kids. I remember coming home from school in tears all the way up to high school even, because I hated being so different. She really felt for me.

  All I can say is that I know she was doing what she thought was right. How can I blame her for that? I don't blame her for that. She is out of the JWs too, and I have had some heart to heart discussions with her. She has cried to me and told me she was sorry for raising us this way. All that I could say to her was that I would not have it any different! She thought it was the truth. I am who I am because of my childhood and my formative years. Yes, it was hard. But it's given me some character. It's given me some strength. It's taken me a long time to realize all of that. But I thank my mom for doing what she thought was the right thing. For giving us the ability to think differently. I am not angry at her for any of this.

  Dont take it on yourself. Everyone is who they are from their trials and tribluations in life. It's not always a bad thing. You were doing what you thought best. We always have today to do the things we didnt get to do as children. I am loving my life now. And I love my mom very much. I'm sure your children love you too.

  Happiness to you,
  Stacey
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  get a life -- 10 facts

  by joelbear in

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  i thought it would be interesting for people to just post a few things about themselves so we can get to know each other just a bit.. try posting 10 facts about your life.. joel.

  1. i was born and raised in south georgia.. 2. my favorite subject in school was math.. 3. i was in the fulltime service (bethel and pioneer) for 4 years.. 4. my favorite color is blue.. 5. mitch and i have been together over 12 years.. 6. we live in a suburb of atlanta georgia.. 7. we love to eat out and have friends over for dinner and board games.. 8. the only sport i was ever any good at is tennis.. 9. my favorite tv show of all time is the simpsons.. 10. we are both naturists and wish we could lay on the beach naked every day.

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  Stacey

  For anyone who wants to know:

  1) I'm going to be 29 in November.

  2) I have lived in four houses in California all of my life, and all within a ten mile radius of each other (talk about sheltered).

  3) I'm so tired of being sheltered, that I'm quitting my job and moving to Hawaii in January to go and enjoy my life, be a beach bum and wait tables for awhile.

  4) I'm divorced and I have no children. I was married for five years.

  5) My parents are married 31 years and they are actually truly still in love! (No longer JDubs either, thank goodness).

  6) I still dont know what I want to be when I grow up. (I think that was an effect of being raised a JDub, not allowed really to have a "passion" other than the religion)

  7) I have two jobs right now. My day job is extreemly boring but it gives me plenty of time to be on this board. My other job is waiting tables, and it's very fun! (Not what I want to do when I grow up, but perfect for me right now)

  8) I love to travel and want to see the world.

  9) I love to read, and although I am agnostic, I want to study religion.

  10) I have always been a very shy person, and I'm coming out of that phase of my life. Watch out world!
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  Can you be DF'd for obesity?

  by cosmo in

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  if jw's can be(or should i say are) df'd for smoking, why aren't people df'd for obesity.. it seems they say that you are violating your body and hurting it from smoking but i've never seen a person live over the age of 80 that was obese.

  just seems like being obese is worse than smoking.

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  Stacey

  I think you'd know me if you were Cosmo Kramer. Are you?
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  Can you be DF'd for obesity?

  by cosmo in

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  if jw's can be(or should i say are) df'd for smoking, why aren't people df'd for obesity.. it seems they say that you are violating your body and hurting it from smoking but i've never seen a person live over the age of 80 that was obese.

  just seems like being obese is worse than smoking.

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  Stacey

  Cosmo? Is that YOU?????

  Stacey
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  Sad. Very, very, sad.

  by outcast in

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  http://www.witnessesonline.com/cgi-bin/cgiwrap/witnessesonline/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=1&t=000098

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  Stacey

  Ok this story was sick enough. Did you read the replies that a few people wrote in response to the story???????!!!!!!! Someone says:

  That was very intersting, I passed along to several people, it's good to stimulate our hope for the future!
  THE IMPORTANT THING IS . . . MAKE SURE YOU ARE A SURVIVOR!

  Another says:

  LOVED THIS STORY!!!
  It made me think though.

  I am at work and was looking around at my co-workers and suddenly realized that I have to witness more to them or it will be their bodies I find dead.

  A good reminder for us all!

  And yet another says:

  Thank you for this story. I feel so encouraged! less sad and blue...

  WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE WHO FIND THIS STORY HAPPY AND ENCOURAGING????? YUCK!