Richie............as we go through life, we let go of some things that no longer suit us.......or, we discover they NEVER suited us. It has been said that the family we were born into is not necessarily the family of our true heart, and I agree with that because of my own experiences.........one thing you CAN thank your mother for is bringing you into the world, because you have life and the chance to grow and experience life. Also, you've learned many valuable things from her, whether you realize it or not. To me, it sounds as if you've gone through the typical human stages of accepting the death of your relationship with your mom, and you are ready to let go and bury it once and forever. My ex husband went through something quite similar with his own birth mom.......she was never there for him as a child, she was out drinking at bars and partying with other men. Years later, he got in touch with her, to try to work on a relationship with her, only to find that she was a stagnant soul........stuck in the past, and still playing the old games. Just before he got married, he invited her to our wedding, and put strong boundaries in place with her. He told her that she was his mother who had given him life, but, his Step Mother was the mother who had raised him. For his own mental and emotional health, he curtailed his relationship with her, only calling her once in a great while. I received an email from him about 2 months ago, letting me know that she had died and was buried. He had flown up from Florida to attend her funeral. My eyes filled with tears as I read the bald sentence from him...........so much pain, so many opportunities lost........but, the choices she had made in his early years had made him make his choices. In my opinion, you are doing the healthy thing, you are ready to let it all go and move into a new life, unburdened by negative energies from the past. Kudos to you!!!
Hugs,
Terri
