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  I am new here and need help...or just a listening ear

  by Fallingaway in

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  my husband and i have two small children, one of which recently became an unbaptised publisher and joined the school.

  my husband is an elder and firmly committed to our family and loves me deeply as i love him.

  i would like to find a way for all of us to fade away as we have family in the organization that we do not want to lose.

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  happy@last

  Welcome, I can sympathise with you, I recognise a lot of your story in my life experiences in the 'organisation'. Take your time, never stop learning.
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  Dilemna on shepherding

  by happy@last in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my wife told me of a friend of hers who is going through a difficult time in their life.

  they are what i would describe as a 'blind follower' of wt teachings, but it does give them structure that would otherwise not be there in their life.

  anyhow, this person is having a tough time, the elders know about it and yet not one of them has either visited or called to see how they are!.

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  happy@last

  My wife told me of a friend of hers who is going through a difficult time in their life. They are what I would describe as a 'blind follower' of WT teachings, but it does give them structure that would otherwise not be there in their life. Anyhow, this person is having a tough time, the elders know about it and yet not one of them has either visited or called to see how they are!

  This gets me really annoyed, at a time of need there is none given. My dilemna is: Do I contact an elder and point out their requirement so that this person gets some encouragement, or do I leave it and let them continue to be crushed hoping that they slowly see the futility of following men?
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  Just dropped my Mom off at the Kingdom Hall...

  by Jewel in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  we live about half an hour from the kingdom hall.

  we had some snow last night and the roads are a little "iffy".

  i didn't want my 83 yo mother driving on her own so i brought her in and dropped her off.

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  happy@last

  You may be feeling worse had she gone without your help and had an accident, don't be too hard on yourself. It's her choice, her social club
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  just support please

  by Roberta804 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i have had to make some very difficult decisions in recent days.

  in one way i feel good about takeing care of myself and my mother who is on her dead bed in the room next to me.

  mom has live with me since 2005 and started to make her journey to the other side on christmas day.

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  happy@last

  I'm so sorry to hear your situation. Not knowing the whole story, all I can say is: what would your mum want? I understand why you feel so strongly about those showing such disrespect, have they said they want to visit? If you feel for the sake of your mum you will let them see her, make sure you set the ground rules as you did with the 3 JWs. It's such an emotional time, I really feel for you.
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  What Was Your "Status" Within The Organization?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  were you a sought after associate?.

  were you often invisible?.

  did other witnesses view you as "exemplary"?.

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  happy@last

  I served everyone I could, especially the weak and vulnerable. Pioneer at 16, conducting the groups for ministry through the week, ms then elder for many years, used at most assemblies, elder schools, most JCs and invited to give talks all over the country. I was approachable and empathetic to all, served as much as I could at the cost of looking after me. I guess therefore my status was "robot with a heart"
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  Girlfriend probably getting DF'd

  by The JHWH in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so the local jc decided to df my girlfriend because of basically premarital sex.. she confessed few weeks back to the elders, and the judicial system had its wheels rolling.. they confronted her today, and eventually came to the conclusion described above.. .

  she told them that she regretted our sexual acts, and that we wouldn't perform that kind of actions before we're married.. they talked with her about getting married etc.

  a week before the jc.. now the reason they decided to df her was not the sexual acts itself, nor the lack of regret,.

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  happy@last

  The setting of a date would be to show 'works' demonstrating repentance, just saying she's stopped having sex obviously isn't enough, but showing that she intends to 'make it right' might be.
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  Are you now ashamed of how gullible you were as a JW?

  by biometrics in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  now that you realise how idiotic some of the jw beliefs are/were, do you feel ashamed of how gullible you were to believe them?.

  if anything my past as an adult jw makes me understand how easily manipulated people are by the people and environment around them.

  and that even intelligent people can be influenced beyond what is rational..

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  happy@last

  Yes, and regret for supressing my concerns for as long as I did
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  QUESTIONS THAT MAY BE ASKED AFTER ARMAGEDDON

  by sieborg in

  1. social
  2. humour

  where can i plug in my i-pod to read my downloaded publications ?

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  happy@last

  Who has they key for the contribution boxes?
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  Just joined

  by Gojira_101 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  this is my first time posting on here.

  i've been inactive for 3 months now and my husband and i are going the fading way.

  i was born and raised in this religion and now after almost 30 years, they have taken most everything from me.

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  happy@last

  Welcome here, and to your journey in becoming the real you, it's an exciting time. Don't let others who are mind controlled upset you, your aunt thinks she is doing the right thing, even though clearly she is not.
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  My friend's conversation with a JW about me! Lol!

  by TimothyT in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  one of my old friends from work, who i used to have lots of spiritual conversations with, messaged me on facebook before and told me how he had a call from the jws this morning.

  here is our conversation from facebook when he told me what happened:.

  my friend: any way funny thing today, some jehovos came to me door and we were having a chat and i told them i didnt agree with their religion saying i was biased because i had a friend who used to be one and was kicked out for being gay and how could they preach like love etc and be so discriminative and then said they would know you mentioned your name and he did know you, and has even been on holiday with you in the past.

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  happy@last

  That's great - they just don't get it that you could be happier. 2 JWs came to my house recently to see my wife (she's still in) but she wasn't around. They kept remarking on how well I looked. I think they thought I would have been in sackcloth and ashes.