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  33 %

  by Theredeemer in

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  2. friends

  so, my mother in law who is still active went out in service with the group that had the co visit and came back with some very interesting news.

  first off, she knows that we are fading and is ok with it and has some doubts herself.

  anyhow, she said that the co went off track during the meeting before service and mentioned how we are now allowed to receive up to 33% of blood in a transfusion.

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  happy@last

  Id like to see it in writing first, sounds like a fading CO to me, lol.

  What scriptural basis would they have for 33%, how would you know an anaesthetist had given 33% and not 34%?
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  Just yelled at my mom today

  by trujw in

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  sorry to post this but for some reason after a year of not talking i got drunk this morning(yeah i know no lecture) and called my mom and blew up.

  i tolded her she was a false prophet and a horriable christian mother who never even came to her grandson's birth by my wife.

  my words came out like a river of rage from which i never knew.

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  happy@last

  Im assuming your relationship with her is not good already, this could have burned the bridge between you, if you want a relationship in the future perhaps you should write her a letter detailing your conclusions and expressing your desire for her to be part of your children's life.
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  Anonymous v. Silentlambs... things are starting to get ugly

  by cedars in

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  2. friends

  bowen fights back.... .

  http://www.silentlambs.org/trustsilentlambs.htm.

  cedars.

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  happy@last

  To me it is clear what Silentlambs and Bowen's agenda is, clearly focused on helping victims of abuse. It is a highly emotional subject, and I applaud him and his colleagues for highlighting the issues and continuing to offer support.
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  Jehovah's Witness Child Molester

  by free2beme in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  my best man at my wedding, twenty years ago, was someone i always trusted.

  he was a friend for fishing, a friend who remained when i left the religion with my wife 15 years ago and although he was a bit issolated.

  i kind of trusted him.

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  And they still say "Find security, peace and comfort in the organisation" whilst they ignore the facts and ignore victims of abuse. These are sad sad stories but in no way isolated.
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  I am new here and need help...or just a listening ear

  by Fallingaway in

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  2. experiences

  my husband and i have two small children, one of which recently became an unbaptised publisher and joined the school.

  my husband is an elder and firmly committed to our family and loves me deeply as i love him.

  i would like to find a way for all of us to fade away as we have family in the organization that we do not want to lose.

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  happy@last

  Welcome, I can sympathise with you, I recognise a lot of your story in my life experiences in the 'organisation'. Take your time, never stop learning.
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  Dilemna on shepherding

  by happy@last in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my wife told me of a friend of hers who is going through a difficult time in their life.

  they are what i would describe as a 'blind follower' of wt teachings, but it does give them structure that would otherwise not be there in their life.

  anyhow, this person is having a tough time, the elders know about it and yet not one of them has either visited or called to see how they are!.

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  happy@last

  My wife told me of a friend of hers who is going through a difficult time in their life. They are what I would describe as a 'blind follower' of WT teachings, but it does give them structure that would otherwise not be there in their life. Anyhow, this person is having a tough time, the elders know about it and yet not one of them has either visited or called to see how they are!

  This gets me really annoyed, at a time of need there is none given. My dilemna is: Do I contact an elder and point out their requirement so that this person gets some encouragement, or do I leave it and let them continue to be crushed hoping that they slowly see the futility of following men?
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  Just dropped my Mom off at the Kingdom Hall...

  by Jewel in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  we live about half an hour from the kingdom hall.

  we had some snow last night and the roads are a little "iffy".

  i didn't want my 83 yo mother driving on her own so i brought her in and dropped her off.

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  You may be feeling worse had she gone without your help and had an accident, don't be too hard on yourself. It's her choice, her social club
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  just support please

  by Roberta804 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i have had to make some very difficult decisions in recent days.

  in one way i feel good about takeing care of myself and my mother who is on her dead bed in the room next to me.

  mom has live with me since 2005 and started to make her journey to the other side on christmas day.

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  I'm so sorry to hear your situation. Not knowing the whole story, all I can say is: what would your mum want? I understand why you feel so strongly about those showing such disrespect, have they said they want to visit? If you feel for the sake of your mum you will let them see her, make sure you set the ground rules as you did with the 3 JWs. It's such an emotional time, I really feel for you.
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  What Was Your "Status" Within The Organization?

  by minimus in

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  2. friends

  were you a sought after associate?.

  were you often invisible?.

  did other witnesses view you as "exemplary"?.

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  I served everyone I could, especially the weak and vulnerable. Pioneer at 16, conducting the groups for ministry through the week, ms then elder for many years, used at most assemblies, elder schools, most JCs and invited to give talks all over the country. I was approachable and empathetic to all, served as much as I could at the cost of looking after me. I guess therefore my status was "robot with a heart"
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  Girlfriend probably getting DF'd

  by The JHWH in

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  so the local jc decided to df my girlfriend because of basically premarital sex.. she confessed few weeks back to the elders, and the judicial system had its wheels rolling.. they confronted her today, and eventually came to the conclusion described above.. .

  she told them that she regretted our sexual acts, and that we wouldn't perform that kind of actions before we're married.. they talked with her about getting married etc.

  a week before the jc.. now the reason they decided to df her was not the sexual acts itself, nor the lack of regret,.

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  happy@last

  The setting of a date would be to show 'works' demonstrating repentance, just saying she's stopped having sex obviously isn't enough, but showing that she intends to 'make it right' might be.