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My husband and I told our families we want to disassociate

by erinee in

well, these stories are always fun, right?

let me share mine.. my husband and have been pimo for 2 years.

inactive for one year.

erinee

Thank you everyone for your kind words. And thank you for sharing your story Tameria2001. That encouraged me a lot.

Well, why not keep being inactive? I guess I could, but I simply don't want to, simple as that. My husband and I don't want to be recognized as Jehovah's Witnesses anymore. I'm a very easily stressed and anxious person, which I think will get better if I just DA and remove it all from my life. We all have the freedom to leave religion. Granted, it's not really free in the JW world, as your family is taken away from you, but still. I want to move on and never look back. I feel that by being inactive, your family and friends will always have that hope that you'll come back. And of course I want a relationship with my family, but what kind of relationship will it be now? It's going to be awful now, anyway. Should I stay inactive just so we'll have someone to help us if we ever have to move, or our car breaks down, or need to borrow some money? I'll never depend on my family financially, I'd never want to be indebted to them, anyway. What's the point of staying in? I don't want to be around JW's or have conversations about the end coming soon or them trying to convince me of something, or them disapproving of my lifestyle. I only want normal, reasonable minded people in my life from now on. Like I said, I love my family, but now that they know the real me, I don't feel connected to them anymore or see a hope for a normal relationship.

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My husband and I told our families we want to disassociate

by erinee in

well, these stories are always fun, right?

let me share mine.. my husband and have been pimo for 2 years.

inactive for one year.

erinee

Well, these stories are always fun, right? Let me share mine.

My husband and have been PIMO for 2 years. Inactive for one year. I felt like with the inactive life, you still have to look over your shoulder and deal with stress , and DA is truly being free. So we finally came out and told our family how we feel.

We told my family first. 7 uber, suuuper indoctrinated dubwubs in a room together, against me and my husband. They had excuses and shot down everything we tried to bring up to them. The child abuse scandal? Fuck those kids, who gives a damn. Most of them are probably lying and we're still way better than other religions about it. 607 and 1914 issue? Nope. We haven't done our research. Historians have proved it happened in 607! Who would have guessed? Shunning is cruel? Nope, it's not. Sinners need a time out, like children do. And why would we want to celebrate holidays? We have nobody to celebrate with anyway (we do actually).

Some crazy shit was said. They said if we broke our vow to Jehovah (that we made when we were children) what's stopping us from breaking our wedding vows to each other? How is our marriage going to last now? One of them asked if I would become a lesbian and my mom asked if we would become SWINGERS. My dad was furious at my husband for not being a spiritual head over me. Augh, it was all so traumatic. Anyway, my mother in law was a lot more calm and reasonable, but ALL our family said they would shun us for the rest of their life, no matter what. Even if we have kids in the future, they would have nothing to do with our kids until their older and they can see them without us. So cold. No temptation to see their daughter give birth to their first grandchild. Most people wouldn't miss that for the world. Not cult members.

Anyway, the thing that pisses me off the most, is that they want us to just be inactive so they can keep talking to us. So they all actually encouraged us to live a lie, which is supposed to be against their beliefs. Why should we have to live our life in a way that's uncomfortabe for us just so they can keep in contact? They wouldn't do that for anyone! I think we're going to DA. I love them, but I'll never be able to have a meaningful relationship with them now, anyway. And if I ever do have kids, I actually like the idea of my family staying away from them so they can't try to indoctrinate them.

Sigh. Thanks for listening.