i was seeing a jw man for about a year and a half until l broke it off with him last week.
we met on a dating site.
he shouldn’t have been on there, of course, but he was lonely.
Do you mean that they defend the WTS so vociferously in order to actually tamp down privately-held (or even subconscious) doubts in themselves or the Org?
Sounds exactly like my friend. He gets this weird look on his face when he speaks of "the Truth". He says the hardest thing to be is a JW. Well, yeah. That's why there are so many living on the fringes
i was seeing a jw man for about a year and a half until l broke it off with him last week.
we met on a dating site.
he shouldn’t have been on there, of course, but he was lonely.
"There's been literally like 40 or 50 of these "I'm a non-JW dating a JW and I don't understand why he does XYZ..." threads this year.
Always it's the poster's 1st or 2nd post, after they joined a short time beforehand.
Either it's a run of incredible coincidences, or....."
Well, I've been on this site for a year, reading, learning about the JWs. I didn't know much about them before meeting him. When I went researching online, this site popped up. Other than dating a JW why else would I be on this site? I saw others' stories and advice to run. Just wanted to let everyone know here that there are people who have heeded your advice.
JWs who live on the fringe are a symptom of the problem. The problem being the WTS,,,,
i was seeing a jw man for about a year and a half until l broke it off with him last week.
we met on a dating site.
he shouldn’t have been on there, of course, but he was lonely.
Some of these on the fencers are quite disingenuous and pretentious in their daily social interaction with other's.
i was seeing a jw man for about a year and a half until l broke it off with him last week.
we met on a dating site.
he shouldn’t have been on there, of course, but he was lonely.
JW's have never even "studied" their own doctrines, let alone "all the other religions".
IKR? I asked him to read some of my books, progressive Christianity writers, and he refused. of course
i was seeing a jw man for about a year and a half until l broke it off with him last week.
we met on a dating site.
he shouldn’t have been on there, of course, but he was lonely.
She stayed in because her family and friends are there. Doesn't have the mental or emotional ability to let go and live a normal worldly life that her character is much better suited to. Occasionally overindulges in 'worldly' vices then crawls back. Is a born in who never knew a normal existence. That's the only thing I can use to find some level of forgiveness in myself. She was given no choice, but boy did she turn out to be a terrible Christian.
At 50 yrs of age she would either know right from wrong by now, but she's brainwashed.
His mom is in but he's not close to her and he has no friends or acquaintances at his KH. He's moved around a lot. Like your friend, his character isn't suited to being a JW so then it becomes a cycle of "i'm broken and unworthy, the JW are the only ones that understand me." And then they make him feel like crap and he wants to leave. I don't believe in missionary dating and converting people soooooo,,,,
i was seeing a jw man for about a year and a half until l broke it off with him last week.
we met on a dating site.
he shouldn’t have been on there, of course, but he was lonely.
"Yet another one of these fringe dub males dating outside of the truth.threads...lol. keep em coming."
Can't say I blame them. I would never make it as a JW, i'd be DF'd immediately. Too many mind games. They make him unworthy. It's just all weird and I can't deal with it.
Anyway, I joined this group last year after meeting him. Did my research, noticed some things, and decided JWs are not dating material. There are some of us that do listen :)
i was seeing a jw man for about a year and a half until l broke it off with him last week.
we met on a dating site.
he shouldn’t have been on there, of course, but he was lonely.
"Why does he stay in ? Simply because like a lot of people like him ,he has left the "truth" but the "truth" has never left him .I put it down to their being mentally lazy JW`s who never really accepted all the doctrines JW`s teach , probably has little or no understanding of what is actually in the Bible ,its just a feel good religion "
He claims he's studied all religions and the JW make the most sense. I'm like, "you have got to be kidding me" Religion makes zero sense. Believe in a Creator if you want, Jesus too cause he was cool, but mad-made religion and rules? NO thanks
i was seeing a jw man for about a year and a half until l broke it off with him last week.
we met on a dating site.
he shouldn’t have been on there, of course, but he was lonely.
"He might be nice enough as a friend but on some level you realize he’s a flake and a narcissistic user who doesn’t know his own mind and you’d be foolish to hitch yourself to a wagon that has no one steering it."
Yes, I agree. I do want to remain friends. I think I care more about him as a friend than a romantic partner. I knew that If we continued as a couple someone would eventually get their feelings hurt and the friendship would be lost. Now I've friendzoned him and I can open myself up to new romantic possibilities.
i was seeing a jw man for about a year and a half until l broke it off with him last week.
we met on a dating site.
he shouldn’t have been on there, of course, but he was lonely.
i was seeing a jw man for about a year and a half until l broke it off with him last week.
we met on a dating site.
he shouldn’t have been on there, of course, but he was lonely.
I was seeing a JW man for about a year and a half until l broke it off with him last week. We met on a dating site. He shouldn’t have been on there, of course, but he was lonely. Divorced twice, both times to JW women. He didn’t tell me he was JW, I figured it out on my own and confronted him he didn’t deny he told me he was lonely and had been deemed not worthy to marry a JW sister I was not happy I felt deceived I wasn’t really familiar with JW and of course he asked me to study and research I was raised Catholic. I studied some of the WT materials (made me gag), it’s written for 3rd graders. I even went to the summer convention with him. That was an eye opener! I read More and began to deconstruct the Bible and my own faith.
We get along so incredibly well and enjoy most of the same activities. We’ve traveled together extensively. I could see a future except he’s a JW.
I told him last week it’d be better to just be friends as I need to protect myself I just feel that if a JW sister looks his way, he’d drop me in a heartbeat. he didn’t deny it. He said he had some reservations about our different world views.
I don’t understand. He’s mentally in, totally believes JW live in the TRUTH. But he’s the worst JW I’ve ever met. He says he’s broken and brings bad light to the JW. He breaks all the rules, dates a non JW, has sex, divorced twice, I can go on and on.
My question is, why does he stay in if he doesn’t believe in and follow all the ridiculous rules? He sporadically attends meetings, hasn’t gone out witnessing in probably 30yrs, isn’t really involved much at KH. He has no connections or ties with anyone at his KH. He was raised JW and his mom and stepdad are JW. He’s not close to his mom and she lives in another state
why does he stay in??
