@Diogenensister that's pretty much how I deal. Try to keep things on own terms. It stinks no matter what but I'm determined that if I have to keep peace, play along for MY FAMILY"s benefit I'm going to have some fun along the way.
In no way do I feel like I'm necessarily giving in I'm doing it for others, not just myself. Sometimes when you love someone (My Parent) you do things to not hurt them, fair or not to you. They are older haven't got forever and for now giving them this peace is the least I can do.
I will say this I'm totally on board with @DarkKnight on the condoning part. That part of it does bother me greatly and there are times where I have to steer clear of certain things or I'm likely to blow the whole thing up ha ha.
Funny witnesses talk about having mildness and self-control. NO ONE I MEAN NO ONE has self control like a successful fade ha ha!!!!!