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  by Jrjw in

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  hi i've been a jw for 12 years and got married 2 years ago.

  i'm now separated.

  my husband hid from me that he suffered from depression, extreme anxiety issues and a personality disorder.

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  In July just before i separated from him he said I was married to him now And had to get over his lies and just put up with him And get on with it coz couldn't get divorced
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  Very Lost

  by Jrjw in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  hi i've been a jw for 12 years and got married 2 years ago.

  i'm now separated.

  my husband hid from me that he suffered from depression, extreme anxiety issues and a personality disorder.

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  You can't properly get to know someone in the truth coz you can't be on your Own with them. We were married in 7 months but i sort of knew him for 2 years before that and he was friendly and seemed a good person. I didn't know he'd been lying about himself to make out he was The right person for me The saying is true that you don't know someone til you live with them lol. I had people asking after 3 months when we were getting married. I'm stupid coz i saw a few wrong things he did before we got married and when i spoke to him about them he said he's no really like that and was just stressed with sorting the wedding out. I wish I'd gone with my instincts but i put my doubts down to normal nerves about getting married. How's wrong i was!
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  Very Lost

  by Jrjw in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  hi i've been a jw for 12 years and got married 2 years ago.

  i'm now separated.

  my husband hid from me that he suffered from depression, extreme anxiety issues and a personality disorder.

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  Pale.emperor - I know it was abuse. I felt like i was being emotionally and mentally tortured. If he did something wrong and i was upset he had a way of twisting things so that I ended up being the one in the wrong And I started feeling like i was going crazy coz I wasn't allowed to be affected by what he was doing
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  Very Lost

  by Jrjw in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  hi i've been a jw for 12 years and got married 2 years ago.

  i'm now separated.

  my husband hid from me that he suffered from depression, extreme anxiety issues and a personality disorder.

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  Scratchme1010 - a lot more has gone on other than him just suffering with mental health problems. His first wife slit her wrists when she was married to him and when she finally left him she said she'd rather die at Armageddon than be with him. He's an absolute nightmare to deal with and changed to a different person the same day i married him. I've been grabbed and pushed and stopped from leaving the house and going to see my family plus many other things. He lied constantly, he gambled, was argumentative all the time and would look for anything to argue about no matter how petty. I'm by no means claiming i was a perfect jw wife coz once i got to the end of my tether(which takes a lot) i would shout back at him or say really horrible things. I would try to go out for walks to cool off but he'd follow me or text and ring non stop or he'd block me from leaving the house. He emotionally blackmailed me all the time to make me feel like nothing and was so negative and demanding that he sucked the life out of me so I stopped enjoying life. I was bullied from day one And everyone has a breaking point. There was no love on his part at all, think he just wanted sex And for a woman to cook and clean For him.

  The reason I said I'm gonna be stuck on my own is coz he says I have no grounds for separation or divorce by the truths standards. I'm treated differently by people in the congregation coz I've separated from him and they don't know the details they just go by Jehovah's standard on staying together no matter what
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  by Jrjw in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  hi i've been a jw for 12 years and got married 2 years ago.

  i'm now separated.

  my husband hid from me that he suffered from depression, extreme anxiety issues and a personality disorder.

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  Sorry my posts are so long I'm just venting off my frustration
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  Very Lost

  by Jrjw in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  hi i've been a jw for 12 years and got married 2 years ago.

  i'm now separated.

  my husband hid from me that he suffered from depression, extreme anxiety issues and a personality disorder.

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  I don't feel like i can talk to my jw friends anymore either about it coz they always steer the conversation back to us getting back together in the future coz it's Jehovah's way. That's even with them knowing what's gone on. They just say Jehovah will judge him for what he's done and i have to keep myself right In Jehovah's eyes by staying together through it all. How is it fair that I'm expected to live in a nightmare coz my husband lied to get me to marry him and he can't behave properly yet I'm expected to be quiet and suffer and live in misery the rest of my life?
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  Very Lost

  by Jrjw in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  hi i've been a jw for 12 years and got married 2 years ago.

  i'm now separated.

  my husband hid from me that he suffered from depression, extreme anxiety issues and a personality disorder.

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  Yes I'm financially able to get by. I have no friends in the world though they're all witnesses. None of my family are in the truth. All of my worldly friends disappeared when I became a jw lol. I never thought I'd be in the situation im in by marrying a jw. He doesn't respect women at all, the amount of times he said to me "he's supposed to be the head" when he wasn't getting his own way. A couple of days after I separated I was walking along the street with the wind on my face And I felt totally free and like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders, it was such a nice feeling. I'm sick of comments off well meaning brothers and sisters saying that things will work out for us in time. They don't know what I've been through and I'm not going to go around telling everyone coz I'm not like that and its none of their business anyway lol. I'm at a crossroads in my life now and have some serious thinking to do on where my life is heading next coz I'm not happy in the truth and don't know if I'll be happy out of it either coz it's been my life for 12 years
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  by Jrjw in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  hi i've been a jw for 12 years and got married 2 years ago.

  i'm now separated.

  my husband hid from me that he suffered from depression, extreme anxiety issues and a personality disorder.

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  He's still adamant we'll get back together and tries to emotionally blackmail me with the truth all the time. I wouldn't be in this situation if he hadn't lied so much in the first place. He said he wanted to be married, i don't think he was bothered who it was to. A lot of brothers And sisters at the hall treat me differently now and feel pity for him coz of the lies he's told about me to make himself look like the wounded party. He's been before the elders for lying but it was after he'd damaged my good reputation. He's even telling people we're working on reconciling when we're not. I'm not stupid enough to get back with him again and break down completely. He had me miserable and completely drained emotionally and mentally and spiritually to the point I considered leaving the truth to get away from the marriage coz everyone kept telling me i have to stay with him no matter what he did. I have 2 kids to look after 1 who isn't his and he had my daughter thinking about suicide coz of seeing how he treated me. Everything's a right mess coz of him yet he still thinks we'll get back together and harasses me about it
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  Very Lost

  by Jrjw in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  hi i've been a jw for 12 years and got married 2 years ago.

  i'm now separated.

  my husband hid from me that he suffered from depression, extreme anxiety issues and a personality disorder.

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  Jrjw

  Its confusing coz the only grounds For divorce and remarriage are adultery. I wouldn't be scripturally divorced. I know I'm not emotionally recovered from what I've been through to be in another relationship yet but if I met a nice man in the future I'd be completely torn in two. I also know another jw brother wouldn't come near me if I'm not scripturally divorced so my only option would be a worldly man and the bible says marry only in the Lord. This is why I'm so lost
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  Very Lost

  by Jrjw in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  hi i've been a jw for 12 years and got married 2 years ago.

  i'm now separated.

  my husband hid from me that he suffered from depression, extreme anxiety issues and a personality disorder.

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  Jrjw

  Hi I've been a jw for 12 years and got married 2 years ago. I'm now separated. My husband hid from me that he suffered from depression, extreme anxiety issues and a personality disorder. He said i wouldn't have married him if he'd told me. He changed the day we got married and made my life a living nightmare right from day one til i finally broke down and couldn't take anymore. He's sucked the life out of me and affected my spirituality really badly. Now I have to try to accept that i am going to be lonely for the rest of my life since I can't go into another relationship. Its so cruel that he lied to get me to marry him and I have to suffer coz of it. I'm only 34. I was so happy in the truth til I married him