Welcome to the forum, Bettyhumpter, are you an ExJW?
Yes. 4th generation. Began having doubts as a teenager. Knew it was complete nonsense by age 18 and was completely away by age 20. It was a 2 year fade mainly because of friends and family ties. Those 2 years after high school I was making friends outside of the organization while still trying to maintain some ties within but by 20 I knew the jig was up.
I never got disfellowshipped. I don't live in the same city I grew up in and I guess I never gave them any reason (that they knew of) to pursue it.
About half my family are JW's and half not. I rarely see or hear from the ones who are still in. On the occasions I've had to go back to that town i've had interactions with them and they've been cordial. A couple of uncles are elders. I guess after 2 decades i'm almost seen as a never was a JW and what would be the point of pursuing the matter. I don't bring up religion and they don't either.
I know other former JW's have had a rougher time of it. Perhaps my family was slightly less hardnosed or maybe they liked me too much....lol.
But the ones who are in a very much still in. Speaking at conventions, elder'ing, pioneering etc.