one thing that bugs the heck out of me is the exclusive use of entitled when offering the name of any talk or article.
can;t it ever be "on the subject of", named, titled, called, about or anything else.. i guess technically it is a correct usage, but entitled always (to me) means gives the idea of being in a special privelege, having a right to something or such..
world headquarters of jehovah's witnesses - warwick, new york.
“yes, the end of this system is so very near!
is that no reason to increase our activity?… reports are heard of brothers selling their homes and property and planning to finish out the rest of their days in this old system in the pioneer service.
i haven't been here for about 10 months and just looked over some topics to update myself, well i came back for a very particular reason... my family was, father, mother, sister and i... the split up (4 years ago), only my father remained jw, my sister left but lives with him, and i've been living by myselft over the last months sharing an apartment with my girlfriend (worldly) an his brother (worldly) (we are a "modern family" hahahaha).... so the relation with my father have been in many different phases the last 4 years, having in mind that he cheated my mom with her best friend (woman) within the congregation an married her just few months ago... so today it's my birthday and i called dad and told him that i had a great time anyway and that to be "even more pagan" i set up my christmas tree today.... he had never questioned me for dating and living with my current girfriend nor tried to "bring me back to the congregation", but he replied to me: "hey, talking about being a pagan, i'm not confortable with things now because i want us to como closer together again and do more things like having lunch or whathever and your are now df, can you talk to the elders and take back the letter you sent them da-ing so we can share more?".
i don't know what to do, i really mean what i wrote in my d.a.
letter, i needed to vent what i think of the borg now, i'm no way taking it back, those are like my luther's theses ... i can't believe my father divorced my mother on no biblical ground, continued dating her best jw friend, and 3 years later they got married and are a happy respectable "christian" couple... and now he suddendly is not confortable with me because i sent a letter to the elders telling them i no longer believed the same shit they do... my sister simply stopped attending meetings and dated worldly boys, celebrate xmas, birthdays and stuff, but with me is different just because i have a clearer idea of who i really am and i'm trying to live by that.. i thinks this whole thing is unfair, he is totally blackmailing me, it's been years to get to this friendly level with my father, and now he is adding this awful pressure.
...can you talk to the elders and take back the letter you sent them DA-ing so we can share more?"
I know it's not an easy situation, but I'd remind him that you taking that action is not the only option He has to accept that he can talk and have lunch with you, and that he has the option of doing so and respecting your decision.
He can blackmail you only if you see it as a one-way street. Relationships go both ways. So the way I see it, it's not true that he had not "tried to bring me back to the congregation". He is trying to bring you back to the congregation, and this is probably battle one of probably a series of things that he will start wanting from you in the name of your relationship.
He must respect your decision. What he's doing is very manipulative, and you're not even noticing. He's the one responsible for not having a good relationship with you.
Maybe subconsciously you don't like living in a lie?
Either way, I hope you get to a point where, like me and others, don't even use the term apostate since that's their lingo and has nothing to do with our real lives.