To those who were disfellowshipped/disassociated – how did your still-in parents handle it?
I don’t want to fade, so I am thinking about disassociating soon – I don’t care if I’m playing by the org’s rules, I just want out.
However, I am concerned about how my parents will react. I don’t want them to become super depressed or whatever due to me leaving the org.
I don’t want them to be hurt by my decision to leave the org, but I feel like there is no way of avoiding this.
I wasn't, but some members in my family were. My parents just followed JW protocol.
What I'd suggest is to look into your own particular situation. It may not make sense to you at this point, but trust me, as much as the WT and the JWs try to convince and claim that all JWs are the same "sheep", we all are individuals with our own individual needs, feelings and family circumstances.
Whatever happens in your case, make sure that you look/find support from people who really appreciate you no matter what you believe.
Also, don't rely exclusively in this forum or other ex-JW places. Many ex-JWs still shun others that don't share their own opinions. Force of habit, I guess. Sometimes some people still feel like they are in the congregation and expect everyone to behave as such. Keep that in mind.
There are many good things about these places since there are people who perfectly understand where you come from, but the world is much larger than your life as a JW and your belief system after.