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  Thank you!

  by longgone in

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  2. friends

  i want to thank everyone for the support you give in this forum, i know i'm just one of many who feel this way.

  i'm not just talking about feedback about my issues but overall i have leaned so much from what is said to help others who have/are leaving the wts.

  i also want to add the ripple effect that what help one person here goes forward to everyone else in our lives!

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  I don't know if anything I have shared has helped you, but I'm very glad for what you shared. Thanks.
  
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  Funny event at the Memorial celebration

  by DaPriest in

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  2. experiences

  for this award, i would like to nominate something that happened in berlin south english, again.we all have seen people that try to disrupt the memorial celebration, and this is not amusing at all.

  its quite sad.

  what is amusing is when the disruption occurs from within.an incident occurred once, when a brother was passing the bread around.

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  We all have seen people that try to disrupt the memorial celebration, and this is not amusing at all. Its quite sad...
  

  I have come to have mixed feelings about people disrupting the memorial. On one hand I used to think that doing so is not going to have nay actual effect, other than people feeling disrespected and using it to play victim/martyr and claim persecution over it. On the other hand, the WT has had so little regard for so many people's lives and well being, that I can see how some people may want to hurt them in what they call to be one of their most sacred events.

  Personally I can't care less about what they do, but I have come to understand some people using that as a way of making their point. I'm not condoning those actions, but I'm not judging (anymore) whoever decides to do that.
  
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  What could it be?

  by Randy notmarsh in

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  i'm doing some research.

  someone snitched over something minor-ish on me about six months ago the person is from a different hall, person got df ( over some other stuff) why haven't the elders talked to me?

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  ...why haven't the elders talked to me?
  

  Not sure where are you standing. Do you want them to talk to you? Keep your research and go on with your life. I think that may be time you can use to prepare for when/if they approach you. Do you know what would you do/tell them if they approach you? If nothing happens now this could be a good opportunity to think about how to handle if they come to you with questions about your research.

  If I were you, I wouldn't provoke them.
  
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  Book study this week...more trumpeting over the organzations greatness

  by NikL in

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  you know, there are some studies that are painful to sit through because of the blatant lies or bull shite spewing from the platform.

  then there are those that seem to have no reason for even taking place.. such was the case for last nights congregation bible study.. all it did was talk about how many books and magazines have been published over the years and "aren't we wonderful that we print so much stuff"?

  this is a study into important biblical things?

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  Seriously?
  

  And you still come here promoting them, seriously?
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  If the "society" were a person, he would be disfellowshipped!

  by stuckinarut2 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  that realisation struck me the other day!.

  if the society was an individual person, he would be disfellowshipped!

  well, he has had a history of telling mistruths, half truths and distortions of facts.

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  So, if this "person" was in a congregation, he should be disfellowshipped right?
  

  Not really. The core of the reason for every cult or cultic relationship to exists lies in the fact that the leader/leadership is always right, no matter what he/she says. The WT as an entity is as full of --it as if it were a person, and as such, being the leader of the pack, that person will be the one calling the shots.

  If you look at cults where the leader is one person, that person gets away with anything and everything that person wants, including other people's wives, money and lives (some have killed others and gotten away with it).

  No changes at all, just a different way of having the cult leader.
  
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  Why do subjugated people adopt the religion of their oppressors?

  by James Mixon in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i always wondered why african slaves adopted the bible.

  for the life of me i couldn't understand the attraction.

  of course this is not only african slaves who adopted the religion of their oppressors, so i came across a article "the above topic".. five reasons 1)coercion (2)co-option (3)conditioning (4)convincing (5) materialist consequences..in the case of the african slaves they made sure that plenty of bibles be shipped to the south and used to keep the slaves in line... so my question, what will be the religion in the destined future,jw's(no way),scientology (hope not),christianity, islamic or maybe no religion???

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  I think the denomination itself won't matter much. The future of any of them, in my opinion, depends on how successful they are at maintaining their people at bay and growing in money, numbers and power.

  There are a few things that all of us as human beings need that we alone cannot provide, a sense of comfort, reassurance and certainty about the future, a sense of belonging and community, approval and encouragement, etc. Subjugated or not, people still have those needs.

  For as long as religion keeps providing (or giving the illusion that they are providing) ways of fulfilling those needs, they will always be in business.
  
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  Picking up the pieces

  by longgone in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  just needing a listening ear, so in advance thanks for being here, no one other than ex-jw's could understand.

  they may try, but i think only a person who lived through it could know what's its really like.. i wish i could be supporting others here but i'm so broken myself i can't seem to do that yet.

  i hope that will come in time though.. for now, i'm trying to undo the damage done to my family by the wts.

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  Thank you for sharing. The only one thing that I will tell you is not to take it on you. Like you, I am born into that cult. I had no other choice and no other reference in life than the nonsense I was taught all my life by all my family.

  Concentrate in the future and int he fact that you are starting the process of minimizing the negative influence from the WT. I have a few places where you can go for information, please PM me if you are interested. They are places that specialize in people who have been born into a cult experience.

  Other than that, please keep your hopes up. You and I managed to figure out that it's a cult and it's damaging to family. Others can too. It's a process.

  Keep posting here, and welcome.
  
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  one thing about all these pedophiles cases i cant understand is..

  by nowwhat? in

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  2. scandals

  as a parent, if it was my kid i would go straight to the police and or beat the living shit out of the perpetrator.

  were all these parents of the victims brain dead or that indoctrinated?.

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  As a parent, if it was my kid I would go straight to the police and or beat the living shit out of the perpetrator. Were all these parents of the victims brain dead or that indoctrinated?
  

  I understand that as parents people must want the well being of their children to come first. In the particular case of the WT cult, those parents are conditioned to not question their authority, also mislead to believe that the elders and the WT itself are properly capable and prepared to deal with those situations. Additionally, they are to blindly trust everything and anything they say, including letting their own children die over a blood transfusion issue. This is not the only cult that has to deal with sexual abuse of children and parent being unwilling or unable to properly deal with the cult leadership stance and actions over it. In fact, the WT is by far not the worse when it comes to this type of situations.

  Then, there are the other things to consider when you factor out the WT and their negative influence. It is well documented that there are a rather large number of parents who don't believe and/or don't provide support to their children when they express that they have been sexually abused. According to experts, the most common reasons for that happening have to do with the parents' fears of them being held responsible, along with a whole lot of other reasons, most of them around the parents caring more for them as individuals before thinking of them as parents.

  Remember, perpetrators normally are people who are close to the family, sometimes they are family members. Also, in the case of the WT and other cults, the perpetrators are (or are perceived as) people with a degree of power over the parents. There can be repercussions in the community where they belong.

  Speaking of repercussions, some parents prefer to cover it up to save appearances. They figure that the "shame" and labeling their child as "molested" will carry a social burden for the rest of their lives and they figure it's better if that doesn't come up to light.

  As you can see, it first glance it seems like a no-brainer to have a person arrested and a child protected, but in reality there are other factors (real or perceived) that can make parents think twice before taking actions. I'm not saying that that's good or bad, it's just how it is.
  
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  Circuit Assemblies in the "Good Old Days"

  by BluesBrother in

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  just been reminiscing about how c/a's have changed since we were young.

  i remember when they started friday night in some rented hall , as well as the two weekend days.

  saturday morning was a brief session then field ministry (which only a few performed ) and sunday sessions.. in the free time around the venue we just used to hang out socialising and eyeing up the girls.

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  Anybody else have fond memories of Albert Broad, John Blaney and more lately David Carter?

  The present regime has the arrogance to believe that their programme is so wonderful that it is all the brothers want to experience. It misses the point entirely that the weekend was one of association, friendship and a sense of being a part of something .

  I have memories, not fond of them, but yes, back in the day the assemblies felt more "owned" by the JWs because there was a lot more work put into getting it all going. The meals were a full menu, there was socializing with people you didn't use to see more often (now with FB and social media that's not the case), the decorations of the assemblies had these complicated flower arrangements. Also, some people used to find thrilling the location for the upcoming meeting place. I also remember at the end, people in the congregations talking about the wonderful experience, charmed by the content.

  I still hated them since I was more neglected than anything, so I used to make my own fun by bothering as much people as possible and getting away with as much mischief as I could.
  
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  Childless elders need to piss off

  by Steel in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  anyone else think it's wrong to ask a women with small children to volunteer there time, ask if they like to come to a potential study etc etc?.

  my wife just spent an entire day helping with a kingdom hall reno while i babysat.

  i latter stepped out and saw half the elders having coffee because they had so many people show up, they were tripping over each other.. i also have no idea what tangible skill my wife offered or why it is important she needs to be there.. i just wish these men would man up and be men, instead of just wasting everyone's time on purpose.

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  Anyone else think it's wrong to ask a women with small children to volunteer there time, ask if they like to come to a potential study etc etc?
  

  Let's see: they want people to go meet every single week, go preaching distributing their literature, and make every single life decision around and for them. Yeah, I have the feeling that it's a little inappropriate to ask women (or anyone for that matter) anything, especially when you consider that they get zero out of anything and everything they do for them.