It broke my heart or at least left me feeling very alone when they all
(they don't know each other and live in separate areas) told me that
they can sympathise but reckon I should stay with "the truth" (their
words, still) as it's the best thing there is. It's like I'd discovered a
new group of people, not PIMO (physically in, mentally out, like me)
but POMI (physically out, mentally in). It's ridiculous. The "truth"
still has such a hold over some people, but clearly not enough to
motivate them to actually attend meetings and all the other stuff.
I'm sorry to hear that you didn't get the support from people that you expected it. I experienced the exact same thing many times. Just because a person is not active or not attending, it doesn't mean that the person doesn't believe in the WT teachings.
I for once was both surprised and baffled when a gay roommate I had, who attended meeting with his mom as a child until he was 10, never baptized, and did all kinds of things that gay single men do, didn't accept my happy birthday card because of the WT nonsense. Some people still keep those believes as true, and they just don't attend. I've experienced similar reactions from ex-JWs when they find that i was a JW and stop talking to me or treat me differently.
If that's the case, I know that it feels like hurt right now, but you really don't need that nonsense in your life. There are plenty more ex-JWs who can understand and give you true support. The POMI's are everywhere. It is their process, their decision and their dysfunction. My suggestion is to just keep looking for support in other ex-JWs who are more functional that way.