so i’ve been dating my boyfriend for over a year.
he left the jehovah witness community and we have been living together for one year.
he hasn’t kept in contact with his family because he was disfellowshipped and hasn’t gone to any meetings.
should i be worried?
I would be, but looking at the bigger picture. Was his relationship with you the reason for him getting disfellowshipped?
Also, you should be able to just ask. I think the suggestion of asking if you could go too is good, but (IMO) that should be a second question, not the first. Trying to find out how he feels or what is the rationale behind him going to the memorial here is only guessing.
Talk to him about it. He may need to know that you are supportive of him.
i bought a book that was published by one brother in our area.
the title, if only, the brother didnt change his name he is, alex bogdanov, to support this brother i bought his book.
it is fiction about couples and i didnt think nothing of it, but after reading a few chapters one of the characters is an ex jw, i don’t think this character is disfellowshipped in the book, but she is definitely not active.
or it is apostasy?
No.
so does anyone else find it odd that jws base their whole faith on the bible?.
the bible was never in the plan for christianity.
the apostles spread the good news as they were instructed to by christ jesus .
So does anyone else find it odd that JWs base their whole faith on the bible?
The Wt does not base their religion in the Bible. If that was the case, they would never need the gazillions of publications that they release to "explain" it.
in therapy, i was told i should write a letter of grievances to each of my parents.
i really do not have any for my mother, except for things that directly relate to being raised as a jehovah's witness.
upon reflection, my childhood was hell because of the religion and its pernicious corruption of a normal childhood.
Thanks for sharing that. I think that's a courageous thing to do.
i noticed a recent post where it was suggested the store was taken over by hostile means!.
the person who posted it pretended to have knowledge of why the store changed names but clearly was operating with an agenda!
one filled with lies, misinformation and deceit!.
It's sad that there are people with lives so miserable that there time is spent trolling the web trying to see how they can make others miserable as well!
Sad, indeed. That's why I never take anything Internet seriously.
just thought a review the following material many have contributed to might be helpful .
you know you are in the wrong religion:1. when the all important question is not: "do you believe in the lord jesus christ?"....but....
"do you believe in the "faithful and discreet slave" appointed in 1919?"2.
You Know You're in the Wrong Religion When....
...you are in a religion.
i, like all other victims of embarrassing scandals in the watchtower, experienced a huge sense of injustice with the organisation.
however, now with the recent arc pressure, charity commission and other authorities and media around the world, and even events in russia and financial struggles, it seems to me that the persecutor is now the one being persecuted and made to suffer.
this is giving me a huge sense of relief and feelings of satisfaction that justice is taking place.
it’s certainly very true with what’s happening with the, possibly the cruelest, organisation in existence, and I’m pleased about it. They deserve it.
Your post has so this forum)me vindictive quality to it. Injustice and mistreatment of people who trust them is certainly something that hurts (I don't think I need to dwell on that in this forum).
However, I do know and have met people from other organizations, some of the religious, that are way more violent and way more harmful. That doesn't cancel out what the WT is doing, nor does it make it right. However, I think that the best course of action is moving on an come to a point where you can't care less about what happens to that organization. Holding grudges and/or continuously following them or what they do hurts you, not them.
here’s a little back story.
i met this jw girl 4 months ago online and found out she was a jw 2 months later after confessing my liking for her.
we had a long conversation about it with her explaining what exactly a jw is and the rules and what not.
Giving her space. Besides space, is there anything else I could do or should do or should have done differently? We fell for each other and I don’t want to lose her when I know deep in her heart that she wants to leave the cult. I don’t know what to do.
Hello, and welcome to the forum.
The very first thing that came to my mind is never neglect universal Internet socialization precautions, no matter who you meet. 2 months is still a very short time to expect drastic decisions to be made from either of you.
As for her leaving, it is on her, and it's only her decision. I was in the process of leaving myself when I met my now ex. He was of great support (support I didn't know I needed). So I'd suggest to go at her pace, don't pressure her and let things happen. Meanwhile, get to know her better.
so, as some of you will know myself and my husband are in the process of fading.
haven't been to a meeting since beginning of 2017. .
we weren't planning on going to the memorial, but last week my mother broke down and said that we have to go to the memorial even if it's the only meeting i go to this year.
Is it likely that by showing our faces at the memorial, we would be back a square one, with the elders chasing after us, asking us if we want a study?
I don;t think that it's that cut and dry. You don't go back to square one. Also, maybe it's time to start practicing setting boundaries. If you go, you can go and specifically tell your mum that she's the reason why you're going, and nothing more. Or you can say nothing, and go back to your own way of doing things.
You don't have to explain yourself to them. You can go to get your mum off your chest and continue with what you are doing.
Besides, I'm not sure that they have the capacity to follow up on every person if they are shrinking in numbers.
It'll be interesting to know what happens. Pleas post what you decided to do and how it pans out.
so i was asked to give a presentation at the oxford forum which is sponsored by a local presbyterian church.
it's a very old church founded in 1758. it's way out in a rural area and if your interested here is their web site.. for a quick look at a beautiful setting: http://www.oxfordchurchlex.org/ yes this image is eye candy but up close the architectural detailing is pretty impressive............ there is no way you are going to confuse this church with a jehovah's witness soon to be closed kingdom hall.. the pastor told me that they would have 15 to 20 people attending my presentation about the jw life and beliefs.
it would start at 10am and end at 10:50. he would open the meeting with a brief prayer and welcome.
Great job! I think that the event is good for both them and you.
