For me it was opposite. I was JW and my hubs was not and never had been. Hes an atheist. He never pushed his thoughts on me. He would let me talk and then let me come to my own conclusion. We have two children currently and one on the way. It worked out fine for us to have kids. He wasnt big on holidays and birthdays anyhow so it never really was an issue for me to raise the kids JW. He did put his foot down about baptism. That was off limits until they were 18. And medical issues as well. His way of approaching it worked for me. He would drop subtle hints but never really forced anything. Finally, I came to the conclusion it was nonsense, am now atheist and we celebrated our first holidays in 2015 just because lol. Halloween being our very first. It all depends on how hardcore your wife is and how you want your kids to be raised. I see no reason to leave if you love her and she makes you happy. She may be considering what you said and feel like waiting to have kids bc she has doubts too. Do Not throw kids into a stressful mix though.
freemamaof3
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Should I stay married to my JW wife
by gatorguy inme and my wife were at the beach the other day and i finally told her, i don't think i believe in god anymore.
i fessed up to the fact that it started with me doubting some jw beliefs and then it just led me to this point where i don't even believe in god.
i wouldn't say that i even have a negative view towards jw's or religion in general.
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EXPOSED: JWS TRAWL DEATH NOTICES TO TARGET GRIEVING RELATIVES
by steve2 inthe leading metropolitan newspaper in new zealand, the dominion-post, yesterday front-paged confirmation that jws target grieving persons by trawling through obituaries for names of relatives and - unbelievably - even visiting cemeteries to approach persons tending graves (the article cites a recent watchtower that presented the experience of a sister who did just that).. an ex-jw elder and his wife (both unknown to me) were featured in the article after approaching the newspaper in response to a local elder's denial last week that witnesses deliberately obtain relatives' names from obituaries.. this is the third featured article in just over one week - and, to date, the most prominent.. of interest a "senior" elder from the sydney, australia bethel (which now has oversight over jws in new zealand) is quoted as not denying it happens - but tried to put a less damning spin on it by stating it was something that was up to individual witnesses and is not expected.
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https://www.google.com/url?q=http://www.stuff.co.nz/dominion-post/news/80708572/former-jehovahs-witness-admits-we-targeted-grief-stricken-as-ripe-fruit&sa=u&ved=0ahukewi7uj6rkpnnahvkkzqkhv9cc3cqfggfmaa&client=internal-uds-cse&usg=afqjcnepqqzpj-nokxj6e5jyw5nsd9lc1q.
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freemamaof3
Here where I live the pioneers used to go out and troll the cemeteries and preach to people on memorial day... i never did that. i thought it was disrespectful and weird.
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Let's Get Physical
by Funchback inrap, earth, wind and fire, 'let's get physical'.... types of music, performers and songs i wasn't allowed to listen to as a person in the jw corporation.. i remember jane, a self-appointed annointed, counseled me because i was an 11-year-old boy singing 'let's get physical' after a meeting.
i remember watching the video simply believing it was about exercise...lol!
but holy roller jane just had to try to ruin it for me, causing me to ponder, 'what else could it mean?'.
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freemamaof3
I was never allowed to listen to Metallica. I got a cd from my brother and it was thrown in the trash. IT WAS THE BLACK ALBUM... Now tho, I have every cd of theirs and my kids love Metallica. No wheels on the bus in our car lol We are an Enter Sandman kind of family lolololol
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Scary Dream
by freemamaof3 ina little background- i faded in august 2015. ive got to small kids and one on the way.
i dont believe the jw cult nonsense anymore.. .
ok so last night i had the scariest dream.
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corruptgirl
yeah I think my pregnancy hormones are definitely making my dreams more vivid and crazy...
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How Long Does This Religion Have Left?
by pale.emperor inthe generation that will be no means pass away have passed away.. the 144,000 were sealed up in 1935, oh, no wait, we got that wrong, we still have some.. russel is the faithful and wise servant... oh, no he wasn't it was me, rutherford... no, actually, we got that wrong it's knorr... erm, no we mean the governing body.. shunning is pagan, true christians would never do that (1946)... oh, actually, we should do that too.. the revelation book has been re-written.. the un is the satan's visible organisation.. wtbs signs up for fellowship with the un in 1991.. exposed in the guardian newspaper so ends it's fellowship in 2001.. the greatest man book is now obsolete and replaced with another jesus book.. the mags are reduced in pages.. encouraged to use tablets instead of actual books to save paper (money).
halls being sold off.. congregations sharing halls.. society owned buildings being sold off.. video pertitioning for money only last year to fund a new building.. bethelites reduced.. missionaries sent back home.. young members leaving.. long time members discovering the history and leaving.. how long do you think this religion has left?
i cant see it being here in another 100 years.
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freemamaof3
I'd say there will always be some crack pots who believe the nonsense. I do however see a decline in the future. There are too many young people who are technologically savvy who can do research and find out what its all about. Young ones who are raised in it tend to rebel and leave which is great. I think once the older die hard witnesses die off the religion as a whole will slowly decline into just being a fringe group of looneys.
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Scary Dream
by freemamaof3 ina little background- i faded in august 2015. ive got to small kids and one on the way.
i dont believe the jw cult nonsense anymore.. .
ok so last night i had the scariest dream.
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azor
Thanks! I'm very happy I"m out too. It worries me sick that my parents and super indoctrinated little brother are going to do something stupid because of this cult. I drop little things on them too occasionally. I usually get the "dont bring your apostate stuff to our home" lecture but to me its worth trying.
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Scary Dream
by freemamaof3 ina little background- i faded in august 2015. ive got to small kids and one on the way.
i dont believe the jw cult nonsense anymore.. .
ok so last night i had the scariest dream.
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redpilltwice
Thanks! And I'm not sure, but its definitely possible. I've only been out for about 10 months and I still spend time with my deeply indoctrinated parents who are always talking doomsday. I'm sure the indoctrination is still affecting me even though I don't believe it to be true anymore. I think what we go through as jw kids affects us for a lot longer than we realize as well, or at least it has in my case.
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Scary Dream
by freemamaof3 ina little background- i faded in august 2015. ive got to small kids and one on the way.
i dont believe the jw cult nonsense anymore.. .
ok so last night i had the scariest dream.
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freemamaof3
A little background- I faded in august 2015. Ive got to small kids and one on the way. I dont believe the JW cult nonsense anymore.
Ok so last night I had the scariest dream. My children and I were at the convention and everyrhing was going fine. Then AM||| gets on stage and asks the attendants to lock all exit doors on the convention site. He proceeds to say the GB have gotten New Light that says no is the time to go ro Paradise. He says we will be saved fro, the great tribulation by following their instructions and not fighting the decision. He then proceeded to have a vat of some drink (just like jonestown) brought onstage and says everyone has to drink it. The first ones who do collapse and die. Im freaking out because i have my babies and that isnt what i want. I try to call my husband who is non jw but the phone signal have been jammed. I woke up in a sweat and my heart racing. Its scary to think this is somehing that could actually happen to my family or me and my babies if i hadnt made the decision to leave. Anyone else ever have nightmares like this?
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Demon possesion, bunch of crap or?
by raven ini've been using the forum to vent and post a lot more frequently lately as a venting purpose & way to obtain peace of mind with the craziness i've been going through recently as i fade away form the org.
anyways today i'm sitting here at work and thinking to myself about demons... ok i know this sounds crazy but has anyone else out there been traumatized by the thought of demons?
i had a dream the other night, just flat out spooky and i woke and couldn't help but feeling it may have been evil ole' satan and his demons at it again.. i don't want to believe that, (trying not to, & just brushing it under the rug so to speak) but have any of you out there been talked up about demons?
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freemamaof3
I remember having bad dreams as a child and my mom telling me it was demons attacking me. I was so scared all the time. I was afraid to sleep alone in my room. I had to have a light on all the time. I cant imagine telling my kids something like that to scare them. I prayed to Jehovah so much as a kid to protect me from demons. I am so angry at my mom for that fear. It was unnecessary. And cruel.
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Demon possesion, bunch of crap or?
by raven ini've been using the forum to vent and post a lot more frequently lately as a venting purpose & way to obtain peace of mind with the craziness i've been going through recently as i fade away form the org.
anyways today i'm sitting here at work and thinking to myself about demons... ok i know this sounds crazy but has anyone else out there been traumatized by the thought of demons?
i had a dream the other night, just flat out spooky and i woke and couldn't help but feeling it may have been evil ole' satan and his demons at it again.. i don't want to believe that, (trying not to, & just brushing it under the rug so to speak) but have any of you out there been talked up about demons?
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freemamaof3
sitting here at work thinking to myself about demons
This cracked me up. You weirdo. (just kidding) Until recently I had a horrible fear of all things demon related or satan related. I knew for sure he was out to get me. I suggest doing some reading on how our brains function. Look into having disrupted sleep wake cycle, look into sleep paralysis, and also how we find patterns in the dark when there are none. It really eases my mind when i have scary dreams and i can remember that they are from phobias ingrained in my young mind by a cult, rather than actual supernatural things. Our eyes and brains can certainly deceive us. I thought sure when I read all the Harry Potter series that I missed out on as a youth that I'd be demon raped, alas, no such luck. Not even so much as a blanket tug.