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  Another Gem Of a Book

  by ZindagiNaMilegiDobaara in

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  2. friends

  currently reading recovery from abusive groups by wendy ford.

  a truly worth reading book.

  so many things resonates with jdumbs and what i have heard people go through!

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  As I keep reading more pages, I am utterly mesmerized as to how much she speaks well and in details about every aspect of a person who once has been in a cult and how she helps rebuild every aspect of their life.

  Also I love the fact that she has incorporated little exercises to help one reevaluate things towards recovery and these are also well thought out.I encourage all to have a read of this book.

  Some more egs:

  "Some ex-cultists, because of the constraints of the cult, missed critical life events with families and friends, such as births, deaths, marriages, religious observances, and graduations. Remember, it was the psychological controls and demands of the cult that kept you from participating in these events. Thus, it may help you to discuss this loss with the family and to hear that the family has forgiven you. Forgive yourself, too, and grieve the loss of not having been a part of these events. You handled your responsibilities as best you could under mind control. Blame the cult, not yourself."

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  Another Gem Of a Book

  by ZindagiNaMilegiDobaara in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  currently reading recovery from abusive groups by wendy ford.

  a truly worth reading book.

  so many things resonates with jdumbs and what i have heard people go through!

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  Crickets
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  Secret memo to Circuit Overseers "former child abuser" who was elder\MS moved to another congregation

  by BottleGate_ in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  in 1998, #watchtower mailed a secret memo to all circuit overseers in which it was announced that when a "former child abuser" who was also an elder or ms moved to another congregation, the new congregation would **not** be informed of his past sins.

  read: institutional cover-up!

  https://twitter.com/mark_j_odonnell/status/1209556534944026624

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  Chapter 8 page 47 of the Shear/Fleece the Flock book says it.

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  Secret memo to Circuit Overseers "former child abuser" who was elder\MS moved to another congregation

  by BottleGate_ in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  in 1998, #watchtower mailed a secret memo to all circuit overseers in which it was announced that when a "former child abuser" who was also an elder or ms moved to another congregation, the new congregation would **not** be informed of his past sins.

  read: institutional cover-up!

  https://twitter.com/mark_j_odonnell/status/1209556534944026624

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  ZindagiNaMilegiDobaara

  The "shepherding the flock" book has these instructions too .I have read it in there somewhere. I will see if I can find it.

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  Another Gem Of a Book

  by ZindagiNaMilegiDobaara in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  currently reading recovery from abusive groups by wendy ford.

  a truly worth reading book.

  so many things resonates with jdumbs and what i have heard people go through!

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  ZindagiNaMilegiDobaara

  Describes every stage / steps I have been through precisely, bang on as if I wrote these lines.:

  "Thoughts and doubts which challenge the teachings are shameful. There is also a sense of betraying the leader. This shame inhibits critical thinking. No thinking means no mental exercise. No mental exercise means atrophy. To rebuild the mind, the ex-cultist needs to reflect upon information, wonder about how pieces fit together, and ponder ideas.

  The challenge to thinking, however, is that as you ponder you may find yourself coming up with new and different conclusions about many things. It takes courage to face these reflections honestly and not to run away from them or hide behind a myth.

  As time went by, I found myself scrutinizing everything I believed in, such as religion (what is God now), the purpose of government (why isn't it more effective and why doesn't it get rid of the cults), the purpose of language, the responsibility of friends, trust (how could I ever trust anyone again), and more ".

  Well thought out presentation of her experience with so much clarity.

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  Excerpt from an interesting book ? ?

  by ZindagiNaMilegiDobaara in

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  a deeply interesting read.. i have been reading: 'soul snatchers,the mechanics of cults' and i am finding it so precise in explaining /analysing cults.

  here is a few lines:.

  drug addiction and cult-membership have striking similarities.

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  @Spiral

  Agree fully with you Spiral. Once I started reading it I just could not put it down. I am having a load of books on cults and the like on my shelf,currently taking time out to read more.It is therapeutic for me.Check out my new post.

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  Another Gem Of a Book

  by ZindagiNaMilegiDobaara in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  currently reading recovery from abusive groups by wendy ford.

  a truly worth reading book.

  so many things resonates with jdumbs and what i have heard people go through!

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  ZindagiNaMilegiDobaara

  Currently reading Recovery from Abusive groups by Wendy Ford

  A truly worth reading book. So many things resonates with jdumbs and what I have heard people go through! She has also hit the nail on the head like my previous post about a book. Every page had meaningful, valuable information which I guarantee many will find useful. This should be the "go to" for cultists and excultists imho.

  Decide for yourself. A little taste:

  "Many ex-cultists, especially in the early months, try to get anyone and everyone to comprehend the experience. This is not effective communication. Some, a bit less tactful, even try to cram comprehension down the throats of their listeners. Like a bull in a china shop, they do an "information dump" on anyone within range. If the listener doesn't understand, the ex-cultist gets frustrated and angry and/or judges the listener to be a fool. Those listeners who do manage to understand something out of this barrage are usually overwhelmed and frightened when they leave the discussion. This is not a healthy or responsible "

  My icing on the cake :

  "When Have I Studied Enough?

  One gauge I use to answer the question "how much studying is enough?" is that you have studied enough when:

  1. The experience has no more hold on your ability to live the life you want to live.

  2. You can explain the experience to other persons so they can understand it.

  3. You can explain mind control to other persons so they understand how and why it could happen to them."

  An amazing life experience well written .Truly a remarkable book.

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  Cutting Back to Only One Cup a Day!

  by Atlantis in

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  new years resolution, i am cutting back to only one cup a day!.

  https://docdro.id/owpendb.

  atlantis!--old timer class!.

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  Cutting Back to Only One Cup a Day!

  by Atlantis in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  new years resolution, i am cutting back to only one cup a day!.

  https://docdro.id/owpendb.

  atlantis!--old timer class!.

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  My New Year Resolution:

  My stomach is flat with a silent L, so I am removing all flattening food items ie hammers, meat-beater/tenderizer, straighteners etc.

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  Excerpt from an interesting book ? ?

  by ZindagiNaMilegiDobaara in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  a deeply interesting read.. i have been reading: 'soul snatchers,the mechanics of cults' and i am finding it so precise in explaining /analysing cults.

  here is a few lines:.

  drug addiction and cult-membership have striking similarities.

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  Has anyone read : Thanks for the memories by taylor Brice?

  A gripping book!

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