Thanks for your supportive comments. Will definitely seek professional counseling at some point. Just writing down some of my thoughts knowing others from a similar position would read was already a start to the therapy process.
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Personal story of bethel, sexual abuse and child baptism
by GetMeOutofHere inborn into a strong jw family in the early 80s.
my father died when i was 4 and that left a huge emotional scar on my tender mind.
with my mother, i went to live with family members and was sexually abused between 4 and 10. he was an ms but when elders later found out, all that happened was he got his privileges removed.
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Personal story of bethel, sexual abuse and child baptism
by GetMeOutofHere inborn into a strong jw family in the early 80s.
my father died when i was 4 and that left a huge emotional scar on my tender mind.
with my mother, i went to live with family members and was sexually abused between 4 and 10. he was an ms but when elders later found out, all that happened was he got his privileges removed.
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Born into a strong JW family in the early 80s. My father died when I was 4 and that left a huge emotional scar on my tender mind.
With my mother, I went to live with family members and was sexually abused between 4 and 10. He was an MS but when elders later found out, all that happened was he got his privileges removed. I was told to tell other brothers and sisters that he was no longer well and so had come off being an appointed man. To my absolute horror looking back, I enjoyed the abuse - I enjoyed the intimacy and I’m ashamed to say, the stimulation - I have never managed to overcome masturbation (I realize now masturbation is normal, but not in JW land)and perverted sexual desires.
Racked with guilt but also a strong desire to see my father in the resurrection, I did what a good witness boy should do and get baptized at 10. The ‘love’ and positive reinforcement from the congregation drove me ever forwards.
At 16 I entered regular pioneer ministry and at 19 I was accepted into London Bethel.
I soon realized that bethel was a factory and it was the congregation where brothers showed love. I reasoned that it had to be like that and if brothers were cold it was because they were heading an organization- no room for emotions.
I left Bethel in 2010 and studied an online undergraduate degree. For the first time, I realized that I had never studied anything before. I stumbled across the videos of Christoper Hitchens and began to agree with the arguments he presented. He basically dismantled my faith with reason and logic.
It’s horrible to be stuck in a religion when you don’t believe in god anymore. Sitting through assemblies and conventions makes me angry and sad. Then I started to look at the clips of John Cedars and the JW facts website and it became apparent that I, along with the the rest of us, have been treated so badly by an organization whose sole purpose is to acquire power for its own sake. They are an organization driven by position and ‘accurate knowledge’ - knowledge that only comes from them.
So I find myself committed to a vow made at 10 which hinges on the promise of seeing my dead father and of wiping away my guilt in being abused. It was an emotional decision made by a vulnerable child. I now come to the reasoned decision as an educated adult that I no longer want anything to do with this organization. However, if I act on that decision, my dear mother as well as my ‘friends’, and most importantly my darling wife will see me as wicked and look for ways to remove themselves from my life.
Thank you for reading.
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Flash mobs
by zeb inhousebound by weather.
been watching flash mobs.
what a wonderful thing they are..
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smiddy3
haha! Can you imagine?! The thought of it 🤢
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How to avoid getting disfellowshipped for having a wordly girlfriend?
by cookiemaster inhey guys, i've been pimo going on full inactive for a very long time, 5+ years.
pretty happy with the current situation.
over the years, i've gotten lots of grief from the local elders and cos for my inactivity, attending wordly public events and social media posts.
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You will only be disfellowshipped if they can prove serious sin. However if you’ve been fading for as long as you have then you will not be considered as part of the congregation and so will only face judicial action if you choose to return. Be discreet, unresponsive and do not go back!
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I saw my mother today for the first time in three years
by pale.emperor ini saw my mother today for the first time in three years..
she was on one of the witnessing carts in town at a station i don’t usually get off at.
i did today as i was dropping my daughter off somewhere.
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Truly awful.
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Where now for the UK Society Big Wigs?
by dozy ini see top uk jw lawyer richard cook is finally having to move out of his jw "grace & favour" house , currently for sale for a cool £2.75 million.
https://solicitors.guru/office/3466-richard-cook-solicitors/.
https://ibsaproperty.com/houses/lowood-house/.
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Richard is a nice guy. I knew him for about 6 years. To think that a top lawyer like him was on £80 per MONTH when I knew him 10 years ago. Such a waste.
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"2,450 at a convention. Look at the empty seats . Tx...Frisco"
by Xjw csaSurvivors in.
source :.
https://twitter.com/jepthahsdaughte/status/1162740218031681542?s=20.
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Pale.emperor
I initially thought the same but then look at them sitting still. Nobody is walking around and the brothers are clearly sitting attentively.
I think in other areas they anticipate falling numbers by merging circuits together etc. They clearly failed to organize it well on this occasion. Would have been hilarious to have been there.
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A technical clarification re "New Scientist"
by Doug Mason inthe following is not a criticism of the wts.
i am providing this for technical clarification and my expectation for accuracy.. endnotes 43 and 45 on page 27 of the wts’s brochure, “the origin of life” refer to the new scientist periodical of 30 may 2009.. the text in the wts’s brochure does not match the text of the new scientist’s online article.
further investigation shows that the online text does not accurately replicate the text that appeared in print in the physical magazine.
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Academic dishonesty disturbs me too. It completely discredits the organization. But then to point these things out would be frowned upon to say the least as fault finding / murmuring or even apostate thinking! We just want some honesty!
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Did you ever thought this?
by Theonlyoneleft inso.. you are a jw or studying, living your life and doing your bit, feverish of spreading the good news to everyone that will listen!.
you prep yourself for meetings, doing your ministry and applying all that there is into your daily life.. so....i have a question... you know... my clogs.
when you where completely in the religion, did you ever think about the impact of your way of life and religion towards others, specially those that lived around you such as good friends or family members that didn’t studied?
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We were horrible to our unbelieving family and sadly those ones have either died or want nothing to do with us.
I won’t go into details but the only time I called my grandparents was to witness to them and I made sure I counted my time and a return visit. Sickening to think of my behavior.
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is the watchtower cult the most hated religion ?
by stan livedeath inhated by many members of the public for their ( former ?
) door knocking and preaching at the most inopportune times ( at work for instance ).
hated by former members who are now shunned by family and former friends.. hated by thousands ( millions maybe ) of pimos who only stay for fear of losing wives / family friends.. can you name any religious cult thats even worse ?.
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newsheep thank you for sharing what seems to be a really horrific experience.
It seems to me that the average JW enjoys being part of the snoop operation. It’s almost like that’s the only excitement they get in their sad, dreary lives.