Dear expat and family,
Have a happy and safe vacation! hugs,T
Posts by Tina
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3Public service announcement for Americans
by expatbrit indo not be alarmed.. the huge plume of smoke you see travelling south at mach 4 is in fact expatbrit and mrs expatbrit going on vacation!
wooohooooo!!!!!!.
wishing happiness to everyone.
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Is Singleness a Blessing? Sometimes
by wasasister inthis post is rather personal, but it may help those who lurk, so if you will all please bear with me?.
not long ago, i visited the town where i grew up, got baptized and married, gave birth to both my daughters.
its a smallish town and among the witness population, everyone knows everyone.
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WTG Sis!!!
Excellent post!!
There are so many advantages to being single...I spent most of my adult years single, and as you so aptly put it,it was a time of real personal growth. We find that we are able to accomplish more than we ever dreamed! We find we can do just about anything we set our minds too. No job,option,decision is beyond us.We had/have the opportunity to get to know ourselves and expand on that. We find there is a major difference between being alone and lonely.
Our esteem talents and abilties grow with each step and/or achievement.We take full responsibility for ourselves as we learn more and more about ourselves. We unlearn the 'garbage messages' that were instilled in us in the past and find that we are OK,good people.
We discover how competent we are!
We find we are special people and worth knowing.We are choice-makers,learning to take risks,for without taking risks,we cannot learn ,grow,and explore new/different possibilites.
We find our worth.And when we make mistakes we learn from them.
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Egocentric support?
by Introspection ini thought this would be a good topic as many who are still sorting through the jw experience do not seem to see that their newly adopted worldview is just that, their own.
while i can understand how some would want to just "vent", i fail to see how such behavior helps anyone.
we all know that as jws we went along with what others told us to believe, yet it seems to me that beneath many posts of self expression, there's a subtle tendancy to be pushy, even preachy.
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Hi Intro,
I must say,quite the contrary.
Presenting info,different opinions and perspectives has been helpful to many. No one 'tells' anyone to be or do-diverse thoughts are simply presented.
I know I found it helpful. Diverse ideas led me to research,thus learning on a global level. These boards are all about the exchange of views,perspectives,etc. It's all about communicating.
The ideas ,thoughts,research are put out here. What anyone does with it is their own business.
New ideas/perspectives are often unpopular and uncomfortable for some.....they're in a complacent 'comfort zone'......the point in presenting other views is to stimulate and challeng thinking.
Many people I know here received thanks and appreciation for their time and effort in sharing info. These exchanges have helped some to leave the org.
I remember Piaget had him in Child dev&Psych-Erikson is my fav. regards,Tina -
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((((((((((wendy)))))))))))))))) WTG!! I knew it would turn out ok!! luv,tina
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So Are You As Good As It Pleases You To Be?
by Englishman inlets assume that some time has now gone by since you made that final decision to stop associating with jws.
you are now your own person, the worlds your oyster, let the good times roll!.
still there seems to be a hole in your life, an emotional gap as it were, a feeling of loss that borders on depression.. whats happening, of course, is that despite your decision to bale out of wt ways, the old patterns of thinking are still hanging in there and influencing your life.
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Hi Eman!!
Like Carmel,I actively went about learning,re-learning, and challenging wts think. It takes work! I returned to school,and this educated and enlightened me on a global scale. (formal education is a great deprogrammer)
It educated me and helped me re-structure how I thought about myself,the world around me and my future.
I learned I was a good and whole person in my own right.
That I could actively contribute to making the world better for myself and those around me.
Accepting personal responsibility for myself and my future(rather than some shadowy punitive sky parent)
I learned there are many caring people who truly live good lives, contribute much to humanity and don't need an old book of tribal mores and myth to give them permission to do so.
I learned it was ok to have thoughts and feelings without the guilt and shame. I learned it was ok and my right to voice these. Even if they didn't agree with the status quo,or popular opinion.....I had the right to my own ideas.
I learned I didn't need or have to have abusive controlling elements in my life,whether it be an org or specific people.
In accepting myself wholely,and that the world isn't all evil,I found an inner peace...accepting what I can change and knowing what I can't.......the journey will never end,,,I hope to grow,change, and learn until my last day.......there are no limits to these...thanks for the great topic,hugs,Tina -
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Multiple Sclerosis and Me
by Esmeralda insince i posted in another thread mentioning that i have m.s.
and it came as a surprise.
to some, i just thought i'd clarify a bit.... this is why i am so lousy at answering e mail, guys!
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((((((lil sis essie))))))))) never apologize,you've done nothing but contribute positively ! We love and care about you,Always Tina
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To Mommy (Wendy) & Prisca
by LoneWolf into wendy & prisca,.
you badly misjudged both my intentions and what i wrote.
isnt that exactly what ive been saying all along and the reason that i posted in the first place?
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How predictable you are and how you add insult to injury with your toxic vomit LW.
And how wrong(again) in your assessment of MD and myself.When you point that finger at us,look at your hand-3 fingers are pointing back at YOU!You truly are an abusive individual,with your continued attempts to degrade our values,beliefs and perceptions.("You're uncaring and non-nurturing because you don't agree with me")
Another feeble attempt at ridicule/shame and manipulation publicly ,in order to bolster your fragile self image and perceived base of power and control(you have none here btw)
Keep your 'bitter' label,(another WTS buzzword btw,used for those who say what you don't want to hear) No one here is bitter-just disgusted with your ignorant mindset.
There is no 'fear' dictating my life-on the contrary,seems like you're the one threatened by our thoughts,lol. If you weren't afraid,why do keep this up?
Please rest assured I won't remember anything you said here. Now or in the future. I tend not to clutter my thoughts up with idiotic drivel.
How arrogant you are,thinking your insidious vomit will make an impact on my life....I promise you it won't.But what I will remember is the continued disgust for your contemptuous inaccurate assessment of MD and myself.
I don't have to prove a thing to you,people who know me know just how wrong you are about me(and MD).....
I will refrain from reading anything else you post here-Im tired of you and your sick attitude.(not to mention the waste of time and predictable nonsense)
But go ahead ,keep blustering on the board,maybe you'll convince yourself "how wise and knowing' you are-you wont convince anyone else but the troll.
PS I concur with MD,why don't you take your antiquated views to 'promise-keepers' or other w/s that share your contemptuous view of women. -
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Hi fp,
I am in no way trying to re-define you-I can only understand one by the thoughts they post.
I went through the 'hurt' phase long ago-I no longer feel that at all. I only wanted to challenge your thinking. If it seemed like I lashed out at you,my apologies. I never intended that.
It's very common for those still enmeshed in organizational thinking to feel lashed out at,when different perspectives are presented.
I understand the you feel 'you are you'.
What I see is someone 'defined' by wts standards and thinking.
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Atheists/Agnostics/Prayer
by patio34 inon the subject of prayer: this is addressed to the more atheistic or agnostic ones amongst us.. now, all those years i prayed really hard when times were tough, and then things worked out.
i now believe it was my own hard work that gave the solutions.
prayer was helpful in that i felt i had help.
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Hi patio,
It is liberating once we realize that it's our own hard work,and focus that helps find solutions! So many think it's divine intervention when it's simply working on a solution. We do have many strengths,and too often give little credit to them.
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Have I changed?
by mommy inas most of you know i am new to the world of the internet.
therefore i am new to the discussion board forum.
when i first entered simon's place, i did not fear to speak my mind.
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Dear Wendy,
I love you just as you are!!
I see you getting more perceptive about posts.
To echo others thoughts,we can't give away all or ourselves here.
Burnout can happen here,just as in r/l.
Sift thru the posts,,,,just do what you can.
Sometimes,posters will violate our boundaries. trolls and those who can't discern trolls do this deliberately. I know,I've made the error in getting enmeshed with them.......shore up your boundaries sweetie. Protect yourself.......I enjoy your posts and the support I see you give......you're one of the good reasons to be here!,luv and hugs Tina