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by Drwho in

i'm a middle aged man.

i dated a jw lady for 3 months ., we never had sex, just made out , half naked , well everything except underwear .

she has been a jw for 40 years ., was married to a jw but he committed adultery 13 years ago so they divorced .

Drwho

@somedude : ) Since you put it like that , Iguess it sounds mental : )) You are a true salesman lol And no , Im not a jW

@Honest . Yes this is what is ( slowly ) what I becoming aware of , and its the blatant truth , I understand that .

@jwundubed, ok , so thats why she gets a bit anti when i call them a bunch of Pedo allowing fat , lying childkillers ( with reference to the " awake may 1994 ) , shes a bit touchy then

We met today and i tried the non anti WT approach I was just a normal loviing guy , just to let her " human " side out and it was great as we walked through the forest , she wont come back to my place because she knows it would end up in bed , but we snogged etc in the forest .

As we walked to our cars , she said we could do this all the time if I " knew the truth " so I replied " never , ever " then she got cold and reverted back to Miss WT lady .

I keep asking her if she would shun her own kids , they are 20 , 24y , and she just says she would not see them as the same people , but anybody else she would shun .

How can i tell her shunning is bad ? Ive sent her Psychological reviews of Shunning , without JW references . But she just recites the Bible where the Isralites shunned .

Also , her 20y old daughter is suffering from depression and loneliness , is this a common disoredr in young JWs ? I guess any 20y kid can have depression though

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Need advice

by Drwho in

i'm a middle aged man.

i dated a jw lady for 3 months ., we never had sex, just made out , half naked , well everything except underwear .

she has been a jw for 40 years ., was married to a jw but he committed adultery 13 years ago so they divorced .

Drwho

@Giarodano Thanks , yes good advice , but I dont think she will ever trust me more than the Watchtower . Im still trying to understand what exactly the Watchtower means to these people. is it their equivalent to lets say the Catholics Vatican ?

89

Need advice

by Drwho in

i'm a middle aged man.

i dated a jw lady for 3 months ., we never had sex, just made out , half naked , well everything except underwear .

she has been a jw for 40 years ., was married to a jw but he committed adultery 13 years ago so they divorced .

Drwho

@JW dubbed ., Why did that other site close down ? It just dissapeared : (

Yes , Im like that, I need to hear advice all the time , things have progressed since that site closed down , negatively of course

JWdaughter. Yes, this is what I will do , just want one more chance at her , Im sure there is doubt in her , she even wrote the other day that she was " divided " , so mayeb I can plant the seed a bit more , then Ill walk , run or whatever .

89

Need advice

by Drwho in

i'm a middle aged man.

i dated a jw lady for 3 months ., we never had sex, just made out , half naked , well everything except underwear .

she has been a jw for 40 years ., was married to a jw but he committed adultery 13 years ago so they divorced .

Drwho

It was more like the lions den then a zoo : )

Yes you re right , Ive only known her a year ., I dunno , maybe I want what i cant get , im a bit that way inclined but im genuinely sad to see this family ruined and i get frustrated when i show facts like BBC reports with admissions from the watchtower, paying 13 mil$ damages etc and she claims its all lies , it just annoys the 5hit out of me , but one has to remain calm : )

Why is that not typical of JW living conditions ? You mean the fact she sneaked me into her home ? No one knew I was there , she introduced me to her Handicapped brother , but , without sounding horrible, he cant speak so shes safe there .

Im meeting her tomorrow since we both have the day off ( we work together as well , but only see each other at work once a week for 10 mins, but she is or was my Spanish teacher )

I like this forum , its amazing the depth of this Watchtower cancer all around the world

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Need advice

by Drwho in

i'm a middle aged man.

i dated a jw lady for 3 months ., we never had sex, just made out , half naked , well everything except underwear .

she has been a jw for 40 years ., was married to a jw but he committed adultery 13 years ago so they divorced .

Drwho

Hey 2 true

Good advice , thanks , yes the ratting out is not the way I guess , If I thought it would have a positive influence I would , but it would just put her iin the " naughty step " for a few months before she has to go creeping back full of hate for me .

89

Need advice

by Drwho in

i'm a middle aged man.

i dated a jw lady for 3 months ., we never had sex, just made out , half naked , well everything except underwear .

she has been a jw for 40 years ., was married to a jw but he committed adultery 13 years ago so they divorced .

Drwho

I must say , I love your approach to this with humor , I certainly do too : )

Yes its easy to cut and run , but we all no about love and maybe Ive still got the love goggles on , well I def have , but saying that I never ever contemplated going over to the dark side : )

DJS , yes I know that will be the ultimate end , just run run run , but you know the love goggles tell me to wait out just a little bit longer , I want to be 100% certain before I hop on that bus . Shes missed the last two meetings , I guess due to guilt and she listens when I tel her about the love I have for my child , hes 24 , hers are 20 and 24 so she can relate and is actually jealous of me , I think .But I do rub it in a bit especially about the unconditional love and friendship, I actually find myself exaggerating about how good we " worldly " people have it , its better for sure , much much better but I like to go OTT sometimes . And yes , foreplay is mega frustrating lol

Rebelfighter , Im glad Ive read your 5 y story , Im suffering after 1 year of her company ( 3 month affair) , So you give me yet another reason to give this all up and go look at the other 3.5 billion potential partners out there.

Did I mention Ive actually been in her house twice ? It was a bit like Military operation , her kids were out , her Dad lives in the basement and her Handicapped brother downstairs, Her dad is 85 and JW since 42 years and shouts orders all the time , so every 10 mins she had to go to him , watch TV for 5 min with him , then back to me , every time a car came down the road , she thought it was her kids coming back so she was nervous as hell , kinda made me laugh in a weird way . Just to note , her dad joined the JW and took all his family with him just before the 1975 prophesy of Armageddon , why didnt he leave again in 1976 ?

Is this the way the JWs grow ? I mean her Mum and dad joined and took their kids , that made 6 new members . Each kid apart from the handicapped man have had their kids , in total 8 children , so thats 14 new members through this family , the mum died so its 13 , I imagine all the old mans Grandchildren ( 8 in total ) will have lets say 2 kids each , so theres another 16 making potentially in the next couple of years a family total of 29 ,e ven if the Grandad dies that still leaves 28 .

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Need advice

by Drwho in

i'm a middle aged man.

i dated a jw lady for 3 months ., we never had sex, just made out , half naked , well everything except underwear .

she has been a jw for 40 years ., was married to a jw but he committed adultery 13 years ago so they divorced .

Drwho

Wow , thats heavy

I ve never been a fan of revenge , so I guess thats all it would be

How sad to be a part of this , poor people.

Thanks for the advice , I wont go to her Elders then

Simon

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Need advice

by Drwho in

i'm a middle aged man.

i dated a jw lady for 3 months ., we never had sex, just made out , half naked , well everything except underwear .

she has been a jw for 40 years ., was married to a jw but he committed adultery 13 years ago so they divorced .

Drwho

OPoosate

Thanks for the input : )

Is that a really good idea ? Or what that just cause her undue trouble ?

Anyone here like to advise me ?

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Need advice

by Drwho in

i'm a middle aged man.

i dated a jw lady for 3 months ., we never had sex, just made out , half naked , well everything except underwear .

she has been a jw for 40 years ., was married to a jw but he committed adultery 13 years ago so they divorced .

Drwho

Thanks again Joe

You know what ? I feel 200% better since your kind words . And it gives me comfort to know that her kids have a greater chance of leaving, Ive not met the kids obviously as I was the BIG secret being a " wordly " ( hate that word and when the guy came for the bible study he kept saing " wordly " and it bothered me lol )

You ve given me faith in mankind : ) Was starting to doubt after my experience with her .

Thanks again

SImon

89

Need advice

by Drwho in

i'm a middle aged man.

i dated a jw lady for 3 months ., we never had sex, just made out , half naked , well everything except underwear .

she has been a jw for 40 years ., was married to a jw but he committed adultery 13 years ago so they divorced .

Drwho

Thanks JOE

Yes its weird but deep down I know you are right . Maybe you have just woke me up from something thats is impossible , its good to hear that , I feel a sense of duty to get her and her kids out

I did them things, I told her I have to walk but Im not shunning her , she can always contact me etc etc but I just keep going back for more in a desperate attempt .

Your words make sense

Best

Simon