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What Is She Thinking?

by thankyou in

i'm a non-jw guy.. joined this forum 2 weeks ago to learn about jw.

i enjoy the valuable intelligence, humor, and "community" it provides.. question:.

it appears that a non-jw guy is "off limits" to a jw girl-gal.

thankyou

WireRider Thank you.

I'm real sorry to hear about the lousy experience you had to go through.

Thank you for your valuable advice.

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What Is She Thinking?

by thankyou in

i'm a non-jw guy.. joined this forum 2 weeks ago to learn about jw.

i enjoy the valuable intelligence, humor, and "community" it provides.. question:.

it appears that a non-jw guy is "off limits" to a jw girl-gal.

thankyou

JWdaughter..Thank you so much.

The insight you have so kindly shared is enabling me to begin to make sense of this whole experience.

I've been astounded at this gal's fortitude to "back away".

I mean in a superficial material sense I've been a trial atty in Calif., and in Hollywood movies, financially sound, and blah blah blah.

Although she doesn't know any of that, she does know that I love God just as much, or possibly more, than she does. And she is as poor as can be.

Geez, JW has an extremely strong "control" over her thought processes.

Thank you again, Sincerely !

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What Is She Thinking?

by thankyou in

i'm a non-jw guy.. joined this forum 2 weeks ago to learn about jw.

i enjoy the valuable intelligence, humor, and "community" it provides.. question:.

it appears that a non-jw guy is "off limits" to a jw girl-gal.

thankyou

I'm a non-JW guy.

Joined this forum 2 weeks ago to learn about JW.

I enjoy the valuable intelligence, humor, and "community" it provides.

Question:

It appears that a non-JW guy is "off limits" to a JW girl-gal. That any kind of time together, dating, relationship, etc. is a "no no".

Once there is a de facto friendship/relationship, whether it's been 2 weeks or 2 years, and the girl calls it off/backs away/disappears-shuns etc., and assuming that the reason given is sincere, that it's because she is a JW, how is the girl likely thinking?

I mean is she thinking that since the guy is in "the world" that, no matter how nice he has been, he must be inspired by satan or something? Has she likely consulted w/JW family members or JW friends who negatively influence her? Or, have her "brainwashed" beliefs just short-circuited her ability to think rationally? Does she likely experience "mixed emotions"?

It's been happening to me and it seems has happened to other non-JW guys too.

Any insight will be greatly appreciated!

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What would happen ??

by Clambake in

there is a certain elder in my wives hall that has seemed to developed a real interest her.

first he seemed to feel a need to make sure all her blood cards were signed before she gave birth to our child.. he sends her text messages if she misses a meeting saying how much " we missed you last night ".

he finally sent her a text wondering where her oct hours were , knowing she had some pretty serious tears from child birth and could hardly even walk, much less do field service ".

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Yeh, Clambake,

Warts happening?

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Ooo...Mmm...Ggg premonitory dream. Can't believe it

by Tempest in a Teacup in

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so, the whole weekend i spent it dozing on and off.

this morning, before waking up, i had a dream.

i was passing by a building in france (i don't live in europe) and then i recognized a certain building as the one where one of my friends who lives in that country lives.

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Tempest in a Teacup,

Here's my two cents personal opinion.

It was a gift from God.

Some years ago my parents were back home living in Boston. I was living in Hawaii.

For several years I had been seriously reading, studying, praying searching to understand God, Life, Truth etc.

It was a Sunday afternoon. I was laying in bed, reading trying to understand what is meant by Grace/The Grace of God.

After awhile I became sleepy, sort of in that "no man's land", half asleep-half awake.

I could "see" my step-Dad (and my Mom) in his bedroom back in Boston, and what he was wearing, hear exactly what he was saying, doing and going through. I'll spare you the details.

A few hours later my Mom phoned to tell me that he had passed away from a heart attack. She was surprised that I knew about it. More so, when I flew home for the services and pointed out to her exactly what clothes he had been wearing.

At that time I had also already begun seriously practicing a Chinese martial art for a number of years. It led to a number of similar experiences.

But, I believe the aforementioned one was a gift from God. Nothing to be afraid of. It was something wonderful you experienced. Congratulations!

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How Change Little Icon Picture Assoc w/Username

by thankyou in

would you kindly change or tell me how to change the little icon picture associated with my username.

i'm a guy, but the icon picture is of a girly bug or something.. thank you .

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Would you kindly change or tell me how to change the little icon picture associated with my username. I'm a guy, but the icon picture is of a girly bug or something.

Thank You

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Where are you from?

by BeautifulMind in

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friends

i know we are all anonymous for our own personal reasons, so i understand if you would rather not say.

but if you don't mind sharing that would be cool.

i currently live in georgia, usa.

thankyou

Originally Boston, then Hawaii, then San Diego, and now Vero Beach FL

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Breaking Heart Needs Help

by thankyou in

was happily married many yrs unconditional love till wife went heaven yr n half ago.

3 mos ago sun morn.

when i once asked her if she been abused, cause seems like it, she didn't ans just hung her head.

thankyou

JWdaughter Thank you.

I'm certain she knows I care about her (love her in fact). But, she has been able to resist me so far, so as a JW how is she likely thinking about me, that I am satan inspired?. She said that before JW she was a Methodist. Thank God she still remembers and self-identifies with that n possibly realizes that all is not right with JW.

Anybody, thank you.

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Breaking Heart Needs Help

by thankyou in

was happily married many yrs unconditional love till wife went heaven yr n half ago.

3 mos ago sun morn.

when i once asked her if she been abused, cause seems like it, she didn't ans just hung her head.

thankyou

Thank you kindly to all who have posted a reply.

I apologize for the jumbled mess that was well organized by AudeSapere. Had a lot to say n as a new poster had no idea how much space there was going to be.

Mille210 you r so right "immediate intense sad confused, something didn't expect or ask for."

Finkelstein Thank you. I understand what you are saying. "Your" baby picture is priceless.

rebel8 Thank you. That's great info that I didn't know. I guess that's what I'm looking for insight into her "world", what she may be thinking n facing as a JW. And, the best way to try to hold on to the tenuous connection to her.

The Searcher Thank you very much. I am going to follow your advice. God, I hope you are right.

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Breaking Heart Needs Help

by thankyou in

was happily married many yrs unconditional love till wife went heaven yr n half ago.

3 mos ago sun morn.

when i once asked her if she been abused, cause seems like it, she didn't ans just hung her head.

thankyou

Was happily married many yrs unconditional love till wife went heaven yr n half ago. 3 mos ago Sun morn. at beach-park saw tall slender cute black girl whose vibes were pure n unique. She had big cloth trvl bag. Lots people around. I sat down next her on bench. Soon she lay down on bench take nap. Heard her laugh out loud to self. I thought oh maybe mental prblms, I shouldn't bother her. Went home but conscience bothered me that I was attracted but abandoned her cause she had issues, but I knew she needed help. Went back hoping she was still there. When I arrived was one person there who got up n left. I was now alone w/her. We looked at each other n smiled. I sat w/her n we talked 3 hrs. She said came Hollywood FL area is "in transition", is a JW n was a Methodist in past. (I knew nothing abt JW). I am in Treasure Coast FL area. We talked about everything except some things she didn't want talk abt, but that was cool. I love God n she was very religious, so she appealed to me. She gave me her cell# n email. She bought chips but no $ for drink. So I gave her $20. I wanted stay but didn't want overdo it. She told me she'ld b there next day to look for her. Told her call me if needed any kind help. Next morn.I went there she was waiting n we had big smile for each other. We hung out together all day:restuarants,Walmart,fast food etc. She said she had a "roof over her head", but looked me like homeless or staying shelter or some JW house. We were so compatible, what she said, the words she used, the spirit behind the words, the things she did, the way she thought--all just like me. It was wonderful! Asked her if she wanted go see my new townhouse. She said yes. So, we chilled out there for awhile. I even told her let me know if needs place stay she can stay for free n I'll help her get on her feet. She was c/o where the bus stop is etc. Then we went back beach-park. I been married years, had my share girl friends, raised daughter. I could tell we liked each other a lot. One thing she had said earlier is she had "keep moving". I didn't pry why. Anyway sun going down we been together 2 days was time figure out if "future". She told me "I can't mislead u into a relationship, courtship, marriage". I thought wow that's real fast, but was ok cause we both middle aged n really clicked. But the "feeling" I got was that she was saying what she wanted to have happen but that she couldn't help/lead/cooperate bec of her religion so if I wanted the same thing I was on my own to figure out how make it happen. Anyway I said "Oh u mean because you're married"? She said "no, cause that's my religion". I said "are you going let someone else tell u how live ur life"? She said "no, those are the rules if they find out they'll kick me out of the church". She told me to call her, as she squinted into the sun that lit up her eyes n face n she looked so beautiful I could see into her soul as we had looked deep into each others eyes so many times. I told her "no, you call me cause I don't have all those rules. Anyway, we parted nicely. 3 days went by finally I called her. She had been "at the library writing an important letter n was now at the post office to mail it n this was a big day in her life". I didn't pry. She asked how I was. Told her "lonely". She said "why"? Told her that I missed her. She got little angry said told u, JW cannot be boyfriend-girlfriend. Told her breaking my heart she sounded sincere said she was sorry . I knew she too had feelings but could suppress them. For 2 days she had been feminine, natural, nice. Once I expressed my feelings she turned tomboyish cold. Knowing that my feelings caused her conflict. I tried ease her stress. Texted her "good news 4 u, I don't love u anymore haha, so u don't have worry or think abt it." Knowing my routine early next morn she ambushed me n said "Geez in only 2 days n u have those feelings inside. I cannot associate w/you then. I told her I can't help it. She said "Ohhhh". Told her don't worry I can control it. She said "Noooo". I thought oh good she doesn't want me to control it. Anyway soon she p/up her heavy bag n walked off. Told her God sent half decent person help her how can she walk away n you may have regrets. Next time saw her she complained that "first u say like this then u say like that etc." She wasn't clear abt my feelings. So, again to ease her mind n so she wouldn't feel hounded, I told her "hey I have girlfriends". N she told me I've been very nice to her n she will pay me back everything. Told her she owes me nothing. Prbly shouldn't told her abt girlfriends. Next day I say her was her was very last time. She had shaved her head. Bizzare, but it was ok cause I care for her. She said when she comes to beach she cannot associate w/me. We sat silently for awhile then she p/u bag n walked off. We had seen ea other for abt 12 days. She was very intelligent never had $ for college. She loves God n so do I. So, we really matched. It's only her JW beliefs blocking things. I've never loved someone so deeply n it's not infatuation or limerance. I called her she didn't return my call. So I did no contact 1 month, but got worried might lose her forever so started texting. Finally called her she said I told u I'm JW so cannot n not to call her. So, didn't call her but continued texting. Told her if she really really didn't want me I'll be gone otherwise she needs ans my phone calls. So, last 2x called her she did ans n knows it's me cause still on her speed dial. But she said agn cannot b friends cause she JW n something abt her ph unable text n she hangs up soon, no two way conversation. B4 cause she told me 2x that I have a prblm n need get therapy cause I'm still pursuing her even she says cannot get together. But told her I have B.S. Physchology n she has stopped telling me that. U know I' ve dodged bullets in the army, been attorney in another state, had my share girlfriends-wife, been in spiritual battles, but this is the most difficult thing ever had to do. She has all the power. If she stops ans my calls, it's all over. It's not likely she will reach out to me, or just pop up. I need to say right thing in text n call her right frequency n hope she good mood. In person we have strong mutual attraction but when she off by herself she searches for reasons to reject me. I worry so much about her cause she was poor as can be. How is she eating, sleeping etc. I read here that JW can actually stay JW accomodations etc. But, I don't know. When I once asked her if she been abused, cause seems like it, she didn't ans just hung her head. I figure abused hurt in life a lot on top of the endless sufferings of being a minority person n turned JW who prbly helped her but who some say is an abusive organiz. She's had difficult life but didn't turn bad, she turned to God. Wow, such a noble and good character. I really want her in my life. I want to help her n make her happy. In an effort to succeed sought advice some black guys n girls-all have been so kind n understanding. One was JW gentleman. When I told him the story he said "WOW, THIS IS DEEP". He said for now just try b her friend outside the JW that she can trust n count on. We had alot laughs too. She apparently though is strict n believes she must not have any non JW friend. I'ld settle for being able call her once every week or two n say "hi" for couple minutes. Once she doesn't p/u the phone, it's all over. There's more to the story, but that's basically it. Her first name is Kristian, so if anyone knows/knew a Kristian/JW frm Hollywood FL general area let me know n I'll give you her last name. I don't even know if she's still in this city, she may have moved on to somewhere else. She was like a gypsy, in a sense, during the 12 days we related. I've texted her that I'ld like to know if she's still in this city. You know I've had never cried as an adult even when my father, mother, oldest brother, wife died. But, I've been crying about this girl. Must be something spiritual about it.

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Posts by thankyou

God Bless All of You -n- any advice you can give to me.