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Your Opinion Pleeease
by thankyou in
1. social
2. relationships
jw girl non-jw guy.

tenuous boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.

what is more likely to strengthen a relationship?.
thankyou

WireRider,
"I still texted her a few days ago to say "Merry Christmas".
Good for you WireRider!
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Your Opinion Pleeease
by thankyou in
1. social
2. relationships
jw girl non-jw guy.

tenuous boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.

what is more likely to strengthen a relationship?.
thankyou

Thanks Oneyedjoe
I understand what you are saying.
I've been a selfish person my whole life. No more. It's not about me.
At first I had heartache, but no longer.
She is a Beautiful soul, but she is so tormented. So, I'm here to help her.
I agree that She, alone, has to make the right decision. I'm hoping and praying that she does.
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Your Opinion Pleeease
by thankyou in
1. social
2. relationships
jw girl non-jw guy.

tenuous boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.

what is more likely to strengthen a relationship?.
thankyou

OneEyedJoe,
Thank you. I sincerely appreciate your opinion.
You could very well be right and that's the way it will turn out in the end.
"...you have no obligation to this girl".
But that's the thing. In my soul I feel a spiritual obligation. I don't need her love or her warm body. I need to help her. I have unlimited girl friends.
It can't be explained with just words here.
We'll see. I'll post the result when the time comes.
Thanks Man!
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Your Opinion Pleeease
by thankyou in
1. social
2. relationships
jw girl non-jw guy.

tenuous boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.

what is more likely to strengthen a relationship?.
thankyou

Everyone's opinion is more than appreciated !
Slimboyfat,
"You just need to work out if the person likes you enough either to leave or to break the rules for you."
Yes sir, infinite patience, that's what I'm trying to do.
I'm sure I look like a fool, but it's cool.
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Your Opinion Pleeease
by thankyou in
1. social
2. relationships
jw girl non-jw guy.

tenuous boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.

what is more likely to strengthen a relationship?.
thankyou

Thanks OneEyedJoe
I wish it was that easy
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Your Opinion Pleeease
by thankyou in
1. social
2. relationships
jw girl non-jw guy.

tenuous boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.

what is more likely to strengthen a relationship?.
thankyou

JW girl Non-JW guy
Tenuous boyfriend-girlfriend relationship
What is more likely to strengthen a relationship?
(1) Greet her for the "New Year's Holiday" or not?
(2) Mention religion or never mention religion?
Thank you kindly !
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The Noble Fir
by Oubliette in
1. jw
2. experiences
the noble fir.

the fir tree stands silently in the corner of our living room: proud, erect, strong.

even unadorned, it is beautiful.
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Oubliette,
VERY NICE !
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Is going into a church really THAT bad?
by Zana in
1. watchtower
2. beliefs
family background: my wife ("liberal" jw), me (ubm), two children aged 5 and 2.

(want more details?

-> http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/279456/raising-kids-jw-mother-agnostic-father).
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Zana, OneEyedJoe,
Zana,
I apologize. I'm not trying to hijack your thread. Just want to praise OneEyedJoe's profound analysis of JW "brainwashing".
"It just hits her emotionally as a big red flag of fear and terror and sadness... and she can't handle it and shuts down. It's designed to do this so that you can't get past it. It's designed to be a wall too tall to climb so that she won't put in the effort even if you try to work through it with her. That said, it might be something you can get past, but be patient and go slow because it's going to be difficult for her."
OneEyedJoe
Your words are absolutely brilliant !
They aptly characterize the situation I've been facing in trying to get my Non-JW self together with a really special JW gal, where there is obvious mutual attraction countered by JW "brainwashing". Very sad.
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some elders are taught to punish not to Shepard .
by poopie in
1. jw
2. friends
has that been your experience.
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Watchtower-Free,
Congratulations and Blessings for being Watchtower-free !
Thank you so much for posting the video.
As a non JW, I came onto this forum to "learn about" JW.
This video demonstrates the devastating mental-emotional-"spiritual" control this organization has over the members.
Until now I did not realize what my JW "girl-friend of sorts" has been dealing with internally and facing externally in the JW org. No wonder she's been terrified.
I will have a new found compassion for her now.
And, I realize now why so many folks have posted that a JWperson needs to "see the light" on their own and want to get out before an outsider could have any positive influence over them.
Thank you again so much.
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I miss my family so much. I thought I was over it but I have breakdowns every few months thinking about my family
by macys in
1. jw
2. experiences
as most of you know i have been shunned by my family for 2 years because of a photo posted on facebook of me kissing another girl at a party.

the matter was not dealt with fairly but it is over now and i am 100% certain that jdub org is a cult.

but i miss my family so much.
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Daniel1555,
"Did you try to reach out..?"
"ignore their love for you and are loyal to these evil rules of the org in a strict way?"
"What if you just be especially loving to them or try to reach out to them or try to help them in some ways?"
Hey Daniel1555,
You sound like a really loving soul and this could work with some folks. But, I have tried this strategy, as a non JW guy attracted to a JWgal. After a short intense "relationship" she has gone "awol" and "appears" to be a heartless, duplicitous JW zombie.
But, agreed, one must try their best.